Heartbroken. What to do?

UnLucky_in_Love

Person_one wrote: »

Oh please! As a 29 year old single woman I certainly don't expect that in the next couple of years I'll turn into such a wet lettuce, willing to lap up any old load of tosh just to get a bit of male attention.

She's an adult, presumably living independently and supporting herself, she keeps telling us she's an academic so you'd hope she'd have a few brain cells to rub together, why would she be 'vulnerable'?

I suffer from the (not uncommon) condition where I am academically very bright and able but am clueless when it comes to my personal life.

Being good at maths doesn't mean you know the best path to your own happiness.

Valli

Person_one wrote: »

Oh please! As a 29 year old single woman I certainly don't expect that in the next couple of years I'll turn into such a wet lettuce, willing to lap up any old load of tosh just to get a bit of male attention.

She's an adult, presumably living independently and supporting herself, she keeps telling us she's an academic so you'd hope she'd have a few brain cells to rub together, why would she be 'vulnerable'?

I think you'll find I used the word 'possibly'.

Equally I could have used the word 'desperate'.

As I'm sure you know, sometimes (well for some of us) emotions can get the better of us...'love is blind' and all that;)

thorsoak

UnLucky_in_Love wrote: »

Thanks for this. I know. I find it worrying, and so does he. As I said he had never contemplated infidelity before.

Oh yeah? Pull the other one - it's got bells on!

Person_one

Valli wrote: »

I think you'll find I used the word 'possibly'.

Equally I could have used the word 'desperate'.

As I'm sure you know, sometimes (well for some of us) emotions can get the better of us...'love is blind' and all that;)

That old chestnut? Load of bo**ocks.

paulineb_2

UnLucky_in_Love wrote: »

I suffer from the (not uncommon) condition where I am academically very bright and able but am clueless when it comes to my personal life.

Being good at maths doesn't mean you know the best path to your own happiness.

But you still know the difference between right and wrong. We all do.

UnLucky_in_Love

I understand people are upset about me seeing a married man, but may I remind you that almost 50% of marriages end in divorce. It is not like it is unheard of.

I am not happy about the situation, and most definitely not proud of it. I am disappointed with myself for getting involved with someone who is married but we can't rewind the clock.

Person_one

UnLucky_in_Love wrote: »

I understand people are upset about me seeing a married man, but may I remind you that almost 50% of marriages end in divorce. It is not like it is unheard of.

Its also got eff all to with the subject of the thread.

Brewstersmum

UnLucky_in_Love wrote: »

I suffer from the (not uncommon) condition where I am academically very bright and able but am clueless when it comes to my personal life.

Being good at maths doesn't mean you know the best path to your own happiness.

OP if there is one positive thing from this, at least you know that your inner feelings can actually be stirred by another person. you did say in your first post you have been single for a while, given up, no good at dating etc...

good luck for the future x

UnLucky_in_Love

paulineb wrote: »

But you still know the difference between right and wrong. We all do.

I know. I wish I had had more self control at the time but it appears I am weaker than I thought I was.

UnLucky_in_Love

Person_one wrote: »

Its also got eff all to with the subject of the thread.

You conveniently omitted to quote the second half of my post.