Heartbroken. What to do?

UnLucky_in_Love

pelirocco wrote: »

So hes only mean married 1.5 yrs? , so who was he with before and what happened to her ( them? )

We haven't been through each other's entire relationship history, so I don't know what happened to all of them. This is his first marriage.

pelirocco

UnLucky_in_Love wrote: »

I know people will find this hard to believe but this is actually what is happening. I have received many emails in the middle of the night when he is working from home, which he prefers to being in bed with his wife.

That old chesnut:rotfl:

UnLucky_in_Love

pelirocco wrote: »

Something not right about the OP's way of writing , tis all a bit flowery and drippy to be real

I am not a native speaker; that might be the reason. (Don't get me started on the kind of novels they made us read in school.)

fabforty

UnLucky_in_Love wrote: »

Thanks Valli. You are probably right. I should walk away now.

No I haven't heard his wife's side of the story. They avoid spending any time together unless it is with the children. They have even shifted their bedtimes so they don't have to spend time in bed together. This has been going on since they got married 1 1/2 years ago.

I thought you had walked away.

That doesn't sound plausible, shifting bedtimes to avoid being in bed together...Shift to when?

You are an intelligent woman who is being played. The 'staying for the sake of the step-children/wife doesn't understand me/we don't have sex anymore' lines are as old as the hills.
You believe them because you want to or need to. You are an intelligent woman but it sounds like you became lonely and disillusioned and as a result have created the situation that you now find yourself in. You have two choices. Get real and leave, or stay and waste your life as his mistress - which is what you will be no matter how you romanticise it.

MrsE_2

Valli wrote: »

I think you'll find I used the word 'possibly'.

Equally I could have used the word 'desperate'.

As I'm sure you know, sometimes (well for some of us) emotions can get the better of us...'love is blind' and all that;)

Im divorced because I asked my husband to leave. I assure you I'm not "desperate".

UnLucky_in_Love

Person_one wrote: »

Are you sensing an aspiring Mills & Boon author?

No thanks. Academic papers is the way to go. More numbers, fewer letters.

pelirocco

Person_one wrote: »

Are you sensing an aspiring Mills & Boon author?

Just waiting for the bit where he rips her bodice .........and of course she was a virgin

Person_one

UnLucky_in_Love wrote: »

I am not a native speaker; that might be the reason. (Don't get me started on the kind of novels they made us read in school.)

Really? I don't think you've made a single error in grammar or syntax, or any odd word choices. You write very well considering.

pelirocco

UnLucky_in_Love wrote: »

I am not a native speaker; that might be the reason. (Don't get me started on the kind of novels they made us read in school.)

I could sense a touch of troll'ish in the accent tbh

Valli

MrsE wrote: »

Im divorced because I asked my husband to leave. I assure you I'm not "desperate".

Ditto; and neither am I BUT the OP said SHE was lonely...see post