Heartbroken. What to do?

catloverbex

What a wonderful romantic story of star crossed lovers kept apart by the evil wicked wife. :rotfl:

Seriously love....wake up and smell the coffee. You sound ridiculously naive and emotionally immature. I'm just sorry that this man is clearly using you for a bit of excitement outside of his marriage. If he really was unhappy in his marriage then he would leave. End of. And he certainly shouldn't need a few months to think about it if he genuinely 'loves' you as much you think he does and if his wife is as 'awful' as he says she is.

You are clearly intelligent to work at a top university. Stop and think about this logically and rationally (excluding your emotions) and I'm afraid to say that you will know what the majority of posters are saying is true.

Errata

Valli wrote: »

You're quite right - if someone (ie a bloke) spoke to me like that so soon after meeting I would be worrying about him (potential stalker perhaps) equally I wouldn't wear my heart on my sleeve like that - send any rational, sensible bloke running even if he was seeking a LTR.

Of course, when 'M' realised the OP was so enthralled by him he didn't waste any time taking the 'relationship' to a physical level.

If a bloke declared undying love to me after one meeting, 1000 emails and a shag in a Travelodge I'd think he was either barking or as thick as a brick or smoking some seriously good stuff.

lillie_put

UnLucky_in_Love wrote: »

I do. But I haven't betrayed her. I am not saying it's great, but I'm the single person here.

The Single Person that was more than happy to Drop her Pants for a Married Man

tinkerbell28

Errata wrote: »

If a bloke declared undying love to me after one meeting, 1000 emails and a shag in a Travelodge I'd think he was either barking or as thick as a brick or smoking some seriously good stuff.

I had this once minus the travelodge. I met a guy online dating. We emailed a lot, we met. He was allegedly a professional and well spoken and turned out. He recited a snow patrol lyric to me...."Those three words are said too much".

Then went on to say, I know it's crazy, but I think I love you......ran, ran, ran as far as I could :eek:

Valli

Errata wrote: »

If a bloke declared undying love to me after one meeting, 1000 emails and a shag in a Travelodge I'd think he was either barking or as thick as a brick or smoking some seriously good stuff.

and 1000 emails is potential stalker behaviour IMO...

Saturnalia

You've got to admit, the randy ol' beggar is MSE alright. Got himself a free ride in the Travelodge without having to pay a professional. And for the sake of a few e-mails he'll get a repeat performance when he passes by next.

Can't say he isn't clever.

fawd1

Soleil_lune wrote: »

WOW married for half a decade! Bring out the fanfare and flags! :rotfl: And you thought you would give up anything and everything for this man after THREE HOURS of knowing him.

Oh come on!/QUOTE]

Considering I've only just entered my thirties, that's pretty good I would think. Or is love now measured not only on how quickly you fell in love, but also how old you are? So then who gets to say they've been in love. Do you have to have been with someone for half a decade, a decade, half a century? What about children? Do you need to have them to appreciate what real love is? Lots of people say so, they say that you will never know what real love is until you have a child. So what, should people without children be considered to be idiots too?

Should I rotfl :rotfl:at you and your ideas of love? Or should I just feel sad that you think any love under a certain time period (evidently 5 years of marriage and 2 of a relationship- making up almost a quarter of my life) is a joke?

I think that there is nothing more insulting than being told that your feelings towards someone are ridiculous, but I'm sure that the only people that feel the need to dismiss your feelings are those who have never managed to experience it for themselves.

fawd1

paulineb wrote: »

But the man you are talking about who you felt like that about, wasnt the man you married, as youve said in later posts. First love can make us feel emotions in a way that we may not feel again with anyone else, regardless of whether we love them and settle down with them.

Absolutely, I completely agree. What I'm trying to point out is that I fell in love with one man very quickly, within hours, and I've moved on and have done the grown up thing and been in love with another man for over 7 years, married him and had his children. However, regardless of the obvious differences in our relationships, even after all this time, you couldn't convince me that I wasn't in love with the first man, because I was. Yes, I would be more devastated if I lost my husband, but I genuinely think that's more to do with the life we've created together, not because I somehow found a way to be more "in love".

Pollycat

It's OK guys, just move right along.

Nothing to see here.

Kids go back to school today.