Heartbroken. What to do?

paulineb_2

UnLucky_in_Love wrote: »

Why does everyone keep focusing on the sex.

I think it's fair so say that all relevant comments have now been made on this thread, and we should let it die. Again I am grateful for the advice. This is what I came here for, an outside view on our situation.

Pinch of salt comment still applies. Holier than though springs to mind too. But I take your points, we have behaved inappropriately and have to live with the consequences.

Now go watch some fireworks everyone.

Signing off.

Pinch of salt and holier than thou. WOW

You dont get the responses you think you are going to get so you start throwing the toys out of the pram?

I'll say it one more time. YOU mentioned that you had slept with him, no one else.

paulineb_2

Heartbroken, but no thought for the wife and stepkids.

I would watch some fireworks ta, but its !!!!ing with rain here and theres far better entertainment around these parts.

meer53

Valli wrote: »

I think I may have answered that - post 336;)

You did ! Our posts crossed

Valli

meer53 wrote: »

You did ! Our posts crossed

and shortly after that our 'lovesick teenage' OP flounced off yelling that we were all focussing on the sex:rotfl:

sazzybum

UnLucky_in_Love wrote: »

I agree our love hasn't been tested. <snips the flowery rubbish>.

I'm sorry but this made me snort tea down my nose!!

'test of our love''?? A 5hag and a pile of emails??

What age are you? 12?

I don't know if you read my post about my friend-but you sound JUST like her-all this Mills and Boon garbage. I can see his emails to you now ''it will be AGONY without you, my darling-but we must be strong. Only a few weeks then we will be one.'''

THEN in a few days, you're going to get an email or text saying ''Oh sweetheart, I cannot go on without your words brightening up my day, it's unbearable without you''etc etc

Anyone want to stick a tenner on?

arbroath_lass

UnLucky_in_Love wrote: »

Holier than though springs to mind too. .

Holier than thou? How dare you! :mad: You really think we'd all sleep with men we know are married? I can tell you, you are VERY wrong. That is not how decent, civilised women behave. I really don't think you can be that stupid.

paulineb_2

sazzybum wrote: »

I'm sorry but this made me snort tea down my nose!!

'test of our love''?? A 5hag and a pile of emails??

What age are you? 12?

I don't know if you read my post about my friend-but you sound JUST like her-all this Mills and Boon garbage. I can see his emails to you now ''it will be AGONY without you, my darling-but we must be strong. Only a few weeks then we will be one.'''

THEN in a few days, you're going to get an email or text saying ''Oh sweetheart, I cannot go on without your words brightening up my day, it's unbearable without you''etc etc

Anyone want to stick a tenner on?

Or sweet FA

Its very possible he could be telling people, met this really nice lass, had a lot in common, shagged her and now she wants us to be together, but I want to cool it off and dont know how.

Or he could be referring to you as a bunny boiler behind your back.
You just dont know.

paulineb_2

arbroath_lass wrote: »

Holier than thou? How dare you! :mad: You really think we'd all sleep with men we know are married? I can tell you, you are VERY wrong. That is not how decent, civilised women behave. I really don't think you can be that stupid.

No, I think the OP's issue is that we arent bonking married men and therefore arent laying out the red carpet to say its all fine great and they'll be floating down the aisle soon with harps and violins playing and angels descending to bless their love.

Valli

so much for signing off....

Soleil_lune

fawd1 wrote: »

Quite right. I completely agree. I have no idea what love is, despite having had 2 children and been married for half a decade. So please, explain to me what love is. Because what I felt after knowing that man for three hours was that I would do anything, give up anything and live through anything to ensure his happiness, even if I got nothing in return. But you're quite right, that's nothing like the real love you feel for a husband or child is it?

Your hyperbole simply makes me think that you're the sort of person who only LOVES someone once they're so entrenched in your life it's difficult to let them go. That's not love, it's inconvenience.

WOW married for half a decade! Bring out the fanfare and flags! :rotfl: And you thought you would give up anything and everything for this man after THREE HOURS of knowing him.

Oh come on!

This attitude, like that of the OP is preposterous. No WAY can you be in love after a few hours, and the OP is clearly someone having a laugh, and winding up the posters here, or they are very very very stupid. If this IS a true tale, no way in a million month of Sundays does this man ever ever ever intend to leave his wife.

If this IS for real (and I seriously have my doubts,) this is a classic story of a man saying 'my wife doesn't understand me, we're not sleeping together, she is a horrid nag, I will leave her as soon as I can,' PURELY to keep his desperate 'bit on the side' hanging on when he has NO INTENTION of EVER leaving...

And as for 'let's not be in touch now til new year!' Oh dear, ... he HAS got you over a barrel hasn't he?'

I would normally pity a person who is so desperate that they will wait for a man like this; (a man who is CLEARLY never going to leave his wife,) but you are so self-absorbed and self centred that you don't deserve pity or empathy of any kind.

1.. He is not in love with you.
2.. He is NOT going to leave his wife.
3.. Surely at almost 40, you should know the 2 above points.......Grow up.

Post number 2 in this thread said it all really. Albeit a bit harshly.

http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showpost.php?p=63616410&postcount=2

THAT is why it has over 40 thanks - so far!