Heartbroken. What to do?

UnLucky_in_Love

Errata wrote: »

None of those things signify a relationship no longer exists.

I can't stop him from thinking about me (or the other way round) so this is the best we can do I think.

meer53

Just a thought for the OP.

When i threw my ex out on Xmas day 2003, our son was 15. As my ex walked out the door, my son shouted "why not come back again Dad, then we can have 3 !!!! Xmases in a row" ? I was so proud of him ! My MIL was there at the time, she was on my side too ! Bless her.

My sons relationship with his Dad has never been the same, he's 26 now and doesn't have any respect for his Dad at all. It's a shame really.

UnLucky_in_Love

Valli wrote: »

But he'll be fine - because he's playing happy families while you're alone on a Saturday night;)

(as am I - difference is I'm not pining for some unattainable bloke;))

How is this helpful? I know that he has the kids to distract him. I can't choose who I fall in love with, and at the moment I'm trying my best to come to terms with the situation. I am doing ok at the moment in case you were interested.

paulineb_2

Valli wrote: »

But he'll be fine - because he's playing happy families while you're alone on a Saturday night;)

(as am I - difference is I'm not pining for some unattainable bloke;))

As am I too. The thing is, there are so many outcomes this scenario could have. Man leaves, man stays with wife, man starts seeing other people.

You just dont know how its going to pan out. But he holds all the cards.

Valli

Don't flatter yourself. If he's with his wife she'll be the one getting attention from him. Out of sight; out of mind. You were a bit of fun.

Maybe I'm being a bit brutal, in your opinion. But you're going to get hurt sooner or later. You may as well start dealing with it now.

Errata

UnLucky_in_Love wrote: »

I can't stop him from thinking about me (or the other way round) so this is the best we can do I think.

Clearly, but the decent and honourable thing for the pair of you to do is do nothing until he's left the marital home and lived on his own for 6 months. Unfortunately it appears that neither of you have been blessed by the decency and honour fairy.

paulineb_2

Valli wrote: »

Don't flatter yourself. If he's with his wife she'll be the one getting attention from him. Out of sight; out of mind. You were a bit of fun.

To be honest with you, she'll be getting more than attention. Unless hes turned into a monk overnight or they no longer sleep together because they cant stand one another.

Person_one

UnLucky_in_Love wrote: »

How is this helpful? I know that he has the kids to distract him. I can't choose who I fall in love with, and at the moment I'm trying my best to come to terms with the situation. I am doing ok at the moment in case you were interested.

I'm watching my language, but I'm afraid that's a load of *word for testicles beginning with B*.

You knew he was married, you never would have 'fallen in love' (:cool:) if you hadn't agreed to meet him alone, if you'd have done the right thing and said no. We can't help who we're attracted to, but we can damn well control whether we let it go any further, you chose to get involved with a married man.

Valli

paulineb wrote: »

To be honest with you, she'll be getting more than attention. Unless hes turned into a monk overnight or they no longer sleep together because they cant stand one another.

I'm using 'getting attention' as a euphemism;) - for physical attention.

Because if she isn't getting 'attended to' she will KNOW he's been playing away - and the last thing he wants is to be thrown out - no matter what tall tales he's spinning to the OP;)

UnLucky_in_Love

Person_one wrote: »

I'm watching my language, but I'm afraid that's a load of *word for testicles beginning with B*.

You knew he was married, you never would have 'fallen in love' (:cool:) if you hadn't agreed to meet him alone, if you'd have done the right thing and said no. We can't help who we're attracted to, but we can damn well control whether we let it go any further, you chose to get involved with a married man.

Look, no offence but if you don't believe my feelings are true, then why bother. I am frankly astounded how you can have such good insight into my emotions.