Heartbroken. What to do?

paulineb_2

UnLucky_in_Love wrote: »

If I was his wife I'd be far more worried about him having fallen in love with someone else.

And you are sure that he loves you?

Person_one

UnLucky_in_Love wrote: »

If I was his wife I'd be far more worried about him having fallen in love with someone else.

Is this the first hint of a bit of empathy for her, or are you just avoiding the question?

paulineb_2

Person_one wrote: »

Maybe you should ask his wife if she thinks it 'makes a difference' that you've had sex with her husband.

Or he could go the whole hog and tell the kids too, over Christmas dinner, like a bad eastenders episode.

UnLucky_in_Love

Errata wrote: »

Really?.....

Yes? No contact. No meetings. No phone calls. No emails. No promises on either side.

Valli

UnLucky_in_Love wrote: »

I completely agree, which is why we are doing just that.

It's not actually up to you. It's up to him. He has to decide whether he wants to maintain his marriage because he has stepchildren to whom he is, apparently, devoted.

Chances are these children will no longer be part of his life if he does decide to leave his wife. So much for his 'devotion'.

So you have a choice. Either you play the waiting game or you call an end to it now.

You're behaving like a lovesick teenager. He's behaving like an utter cad.

UnLucky_in_Love

paulineb wrote: »

And you are sure that he loves you?

Yes. (I know people on here are struggling to believe this.)

paulineb_2

What age are the stepchildren by the way?

paulineb_2

UnLucky_in_Love wrote: »

Yes. (I know people on here are struggling to believe this.)

Well, yes, I am struggling to get my head around how someone can love someone after 2 meetings and while they are married to someone else.

Id just like to say, words are easy, its actions that matter.

Person_one

UnLucky_in_Love wrote: »

Yes? No contact. No meetings. No phone calls. No emails. No promises on either side.

So he's got you to leave him alone and make no demands on him until he gets in touch with you when he feels like it?

He's not stupid, is he? :rotfl:

Errata

UnLucky_in_Love wrote: »

Yes? No contact. No meetings. No phone calls. No emails. No promises on either side.

None of those things signify a relationship no longer exists.