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Heartbroken. What to do?

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  • MrsE_2
    MrsE_2 Posts: 24,161 Forumite
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    Valli wrote: »
    The OP is possibly vulnerable - and therefore easy prey - being 30+ and a single female isn't a nice place to be.


    :eek::eek::eek:
    ????
  • thorsoak
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    Valli wrote: »
    How can OP be cheating by default? Complicit yes; but cheating by default? No.

    She is cheating herself if she believes all the tosh that he is feeding her!
  • UnLucky_in_Love
    UnLucky_in_Love Posts: 80 Forumite
    Valli wrote: »
    How can OP be cheating by default? Complicit yes; but cheating by default? No.

    I agree. I am not cheating on anyone but I am complicit.
  • pelirocco
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    UnLucky_in_Love wrote: »
    Thanks Valli. You are probably right. I should walk away now.

    No I haven't heard his wife's side of the story. They avoid spending any time together unless it is with the children. They have even shifted their bedtimes so they don't have to spend time in bed together. This has been going on since they got married 1 1/2 years ago.


    So hes only mean married 1.5 yrs? , so who was he with before and what happened to her ( them? )
    Vuja De - the feeling you'll be here later
  • Valli
    Valli Posts: 25,554 Forumite
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    edited 30 October 2013 at 5:50PM
    If you're desperate to be in a relationship, Mrs E, then being single isn't nice. As the OP opined...
    UnLucky_in_Love wrote: »
    I’m an academic working at one of the top UK universities. I am a 37 year- old woman and have pretty much given up on finding love. I have now been single for years and I don’t like it, but I just don’t seem to meet anyone whom I’d be interested in and vice versa. I am also terrible at dating

    If you've come to terms with it, however, it's fine.
    Don't put it DOWN; put it AWAY
    "I would like more sisters, that the taking out of one, might not leave such stillness" Emily Dickinson
    :heart:Janice 1964-2016:heart:

    Thank you Honey Bear
  • UnLucky_in_Love
    UnLucky_in_Love Posts: 80 Forumite
    BitterAndTwisted wrote: »
    What man would leave his wife and step-children for the sort of woman who only needs a couple of hours of transparent flim-flam from someone married to drop her drawers?

    The answer is "none".

    Harsh, but I take your point.

    Besides, I don't want him to leave his wife "for me". He either wants to end his marriage and then we can be together, or he doesn't and we won't be together.
  • UnLucky_in_Love
    UnLucky_in_Love Posts: 80 Forumite
    thorsoak wrote: »
    She is cheating herself if she believes all the tosh that he is feeding her!

    That's a different thing though. I have already admitted to being naive and stupid.
  • pelirocco
    pelirocco Posts: 8,275 Forumite
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    Something not right about the OP's way of writing , tis all a bit flowery and drippy to be real
    Vuja De - the feeling you'll be here later
  • Person_one
    Person_one Posts: 28,884 Forumite
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    UnLucky_in_Love wrote: »
    Harsh, but I take your point.

    Besides, I don't want him to leave his wife "for me". He either wants to end his marriage and then we can be together, or he doesn't and we won't be together.

    It'll be the second one, but expect an e-mail if he's in your neck of the woods for a day or two.
  • Person_one
    Person_one Posts: 28,884 Forumite
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    pelirocco wrote: »
    Something not right about the OP's way of writing , tis all a bit flowery and drippy to be real

    Are you sensing an aspiring Mills & Boon author? :p
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