Heartbroken. What to do?

kezzygirl

paulineb wrote: »

People can have sex at any time of the day or night.

My wife doesn't understand me. Only staying for the sake of the kids. We don't have sex.

More likely to be lies than the truth. When a friend of mine was 17 she started seeing her 31 year old married boss. Who didn't sleep with his wife.

When his wife got pregnant with the second child that was a one off according to him.

Pull the other one. It's playing jingle bells.

If you stay in contact with this man, you risk having years of misery ahead of you.

He has no intention of leaving his wife. You are being played.

roflmao!!!!!:rotfl:

Gloomendoom

lostinrates wrote: »

The other thing I'd say to other posters is that academic at top university and 'switched on' are not necessarily hand in hand ( nor are they mutually exclusive as some would have it ).

Ha ha! I work with some very clever people. Unfortunately, some need help crossing the road.

lostinrates

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Ha ha! I work with some very clever people. Unfortunately, some need help crossing the road.

Actually, I get worried about my husband on roads sometimes:rotfl:. He has got loads better. He's head and shoulders above the rest of his family:rotfl:.

barba

What an awful situation you are in, falling in love with someone trapped in a loveless relationship

Follow your heat and I'm sure your situation will resolve itself when he leaves his wife for you which sounds like it will be very soon

Good luck x

fawd1

ska_lover wrote: »

Love, after three hours?? PMFSL!!!!. After three hours, all a person would know is if they found the other attractive or not, not LOVE them, anyone that thinks that really has no clue what love truly is. It is much deeper than a 3 hour meeting with a complete stranger who you know nothing about

Quite right. I completely agree. I have no idea what love is, despite having had 2 children and been married for half a decade. So please, explain to me what love is. Because what I felt after knowing that man for three hours was that I would do anything, give up anything and live through anything to ensure his happiness, even if I got nothing in return. But you're quite right, that's nothing like the real love you feel for a husband or child is it?

Your hyperbole simply makes me think that you're the sort of person who only LOVES someone once they're so entrenched in your life it's difficult to let them go. That's not love, it's inconvenience.

MrsE_2

Gloomendoom wrote: »

OP, probably a bit soon, but is this any help...

http://www.brainydates.co.uk/

I got a HND? Probably not brainy enough:(

pelirocco

HPoirot wrote: »

An academic, in the field of maths, oh hang on, narrowed down to applied maths, and who gets published too. Information overload methinks. Yet the OP is reluctant to reveal it at all. :eek:

You forgot to mention that of all the forums out there , MSE is the most logical place to post relationship issues

lillie_put

UnLucky_in_Love wrote: »

I take your point. I have made bad choices, and I shouldn't criticise his wife. I will have to live with my bad choices. He will have to live with his. I am trying to make sense of the situation and find a way forward. It appears the best way forward is to stop all contact.

Unlucky in love
you keep going on about stopping all contact but you don't?
Why? you obviously are not really bothered what you and him have done
and no you shouldn't criticise his wife YOU only no
what he has told you to get you drop your pants didn't take long did it
Educated you maybe But Morals you have None
wise up grow up keep Pants up

arbroath_lass

fawd1 wrote: »

P.S. To all those that are calling the OP a tramp/shameless etc, SHAME ON YOU. No it wasn't a wonderful thing to do, but please stop blaming women for mens affairs. She could have been Mata Hari for all I know but the impetus to be faithful is surely on the person who is actually attached?

So it's fine to sleep with other people's partners in your book? Charming.

I'd have sympathy if the OP had no idea he was married but she did. That would make him out of bounds in my book. But she still slept with him. He is, of course, equally to blame and he'd get short shrift from me if he posted on here.

I don't think either of them have behaved like the civilised, educated people they purport to be.

SandC

The love thing...... when you believe you fell in love very quickly early on in a relationship - and the proof is that you are still in love many years later - I think it is just that you have actually grown to love that person very deeply, but because it all worked out rosily it felt like it was right at the beginning.

It's easy to forget how you felt at the very start about an ex where it didn't work out in the long run.....