Family cut themselves out of my son's life

lostinrates

Don't panic if you get goose, ( though doubt you will). Goose is delicious.

harrys_nan

Your sounding so happy now, have a fantastic Christmas both of you. Start making your own family traditions. I'm very pleased that thing are going well with wiglets daddy .
Take care my lovely xx

wiggywoo9

Hmm. So much for a quiet Christmas. Got a solicitor letter today dated 17th Dec regarding my mum. The police statement was taken on 14th and the arrest (?) thing was 15th. So either it was written late or in direct ignorance of the police action taken.

The letter is from a firm of solicitor that sounds vaguely familiar, seen the logo in the drawer of letters regarding my dad years ago.

I hope its ok to post bits here-

'we are instructed that since WIGLET's birth he has enjoyed regular contact with his grandmother (goes on to say he had stopped overnight)... we understand he has not seen his grandmother since October and our client has not seen WIGLET since then.'

Now this is the real ring-dinger:

'our client instruct us that has attempted to discuss the matter with you direct but the texts messages she has sent have not been replied to. reluctantly, therefore, our client hs felt it necessary to seek legal advice.'

Hmm, forgetting threats, etc, or are they part of her 'discussion'?
Here's the funny bit-

'we have dvised our client that given the established and close and loving relationship that exists between her and WIGLET, it should be considered that it is in WIGLET's best interests to maintain that relationship. our clients seek for the contact that was taking place should be reinstated. from the instructions given we see no reason why contact should be denied.'

Gosh, I forgot the police were just kidding. Odd that lovely grandmother never mentions them.

It then 'formally requests' that the overnight stay on Monday night plus that full day be 'reinstated' plus 'additional contact' on a 'flexible basis'. And- 'our clients wish to resolve this matter with you as amicably as possible'.

It ends by saying 'this letter gives rise to important legal implications' we recommend you seek legal advice, arrange for them to contact us direct, we will continue to liase with you direct if not, please contact within 14 days.

Ok, now ignoring my angry sarcasm, i'm just shaking my head in disbelief. What other lies and stories has she come up with? did she show them the texts? Ha, I assume they don't know about police either?!

What do I do now? police or legal advice (had call from her today, just need to send income details not dr letter and it will be fine).

duchy

Both

As you have no idea if she saw the solicitor before or after her interview (it's entirely possible it was before) and the solicitor obviously wasn't told of either the request to desist or the police interview I would ring the police first and inform that your mother has contacted you through a third party (the solicitor) and ask them how best to deal with it.

Also advise your legal advisor of this latest development.

Frankly the nerve of the woman takes my breath away...... not just a request for contact but a demand for overnight-she's off her head !

Ignore the implied legal threat -she's his grandmother and would only be granted access if it was deamed in the best interests of the child. A woman with a big H for harassment next to her name isn't someone who would enhance Wiglet's life.

paulineb_2

I'm not sure I'd do anything quickly to be honest . She has no legal rights to see your child and there's no order by a court ordering you to give her access.

I might call the police and ask if they can confirm in writing that they visited your mum and the reasons why, not sure if that can be done but a letter from them might suffice.

I'd also get in touch with women's aid and social services to let them know that your mum, who previously tried to abduct your child is trying to get access. You could write a brief letter to the lawyer asking them to contact police to confirm that they asked your mum to stay away from you and your child. And tell them they are also welcome to contact social services, your gp, Heath visitor for background if you are happy sharing previous events with her lawyer.

thorsoak

At least you do now know that she doesn't have a legal leg to stand on Wiggy!!

You say "What do I do now? police or legal advice (had call from her today, just need to send income details not dr letter and it will be fine)."

Do you mean you had a phone call from legal advice lady? Or from the Mother from Hell (henceforth known as MFH!) If it was the legal advice lady, then send a photocopy of MFH's solicitor to her along with income details!

In the meantime, let her waste her money on solicitors......and ignore the letter!

Of course, depending upon how lax her solicitor is, this letter might have resulted from when she saw them way, way back!

Mojisola

paulineb wrote: »

I'm not sure I'd do anything quickly to be honest . She has no legal rights to see your child and there's no order by a court ordering you to give her access.

I might call the police and ask if they can confirm in writing that they visited your mum and the reasons why, not sure if that can be done but a letter from them might suffice.

I'd also get in touch with women's aid and social services to let them know that your mum, who previously tried to abduct your child is trying to get access. You could write a brief letter to the lawyer asking them to contact police to confirm that they asked your mum to stay away from you and your child. And tell them they are also welcome to contact social services, your gp, Heath visitor for background if you are happy sharing previous events with her lawyer.

I wouldn't give permission for her solicitor to contact these people!

paulineb_2

She's trying to ruin your Christmas. Don't let her. And don't spend money you don't have. If you have a copy of the letter your legal people sent your mum asking her to stop harassing you, ask that that be forwarded on. Or forward a copy on yourself.

RAS

Mojisola wrote: »

I wouldn't give permission for her solicitor to contact these people!

Ditto.

wiggywoo

As anticipated, mum would rack it up before Christmas.

Send the income details and copy of the letter to the legal folk.

And speak to the police ASAP. Preferably the officer who came to see you.

duchy

paulineb wrote: »

I'm not sure I'd do anything quickly to be honest . She has no legal rights to see your child and there's no order by a court ordering you to give her access.

I might call the police and ask if they can confirm in writing that they visited your mum and the reasons why, not sure if that can be done but a letter from them might suffice.

I'd also get in touch with women's aid and social services to let them know that your mum, who previously tried to abduct your child is trying to get access. You could write a brief letter to the lawyer asking them to contact police to confirm that they asked your mum to stay away from you and your child. And tell them they are also welcome to contact social services, your gp, Heath visitor for background if you are happy sharing previous events with her lawyer.

Good grief No !!
Old Ma Wiggy has no right to any information about Wiggy or Wiglet -if she wants that kind of information it'd be if the case went to court (which it is unlikely to -she'd have to go to court to request permission to go to court for access and the Police's actions would persuade all but the dimmest judge to refuse that permission on the Police involvement alone)

Her solicitor works for her and can share any and all info - and in fact has a legal obligation to do so - even if they think their client has no case and is a nutter-There is no way Wiggy should do this.