Family cut themselves out of my son's life

rpc

You can also contact these people http://elderabuse.org.uk/ for support and advice

KxMx

Wiggy if your cousin also contacts them there is no reason for you to end up looking "nuts".
I realise you've been swimming alone against the tide of (false) opinion for some time now, but you are no longer alone, ask your Cousin, if you don't wish to ask for your sake ask for your Nan's.

chirpychick

How are you Wiggy?

wiggywoo9

Hi there,

I'm doing well actually. My nan is doing ok. I'm taking on more stuff at work and loving it. Wiglet is happy at school. I'm moving in with my partner of 3 years and looking at moving out of flat into a house. Things are good and looking forward to Christmas!

Gingernutty

Awwww. Good news!! Long may it continue. :T

custardy

wiggywoo9 wrote: »

First let me say I'm sorry for posting again, don't want to hog the board, just going through some difficulties and honestly this is the only place I'll get any help.

Ok so, a few days ago, I had an argument with family- things were going fine with them, suddenly they wanted to take my 2 year old to Spain next year. I said a holiday in the UK was fine but not abroad, not without me, wasn't comfortable with it, not in my gut and no matter who is with, I feel there's too much risk for him being so little. He can't say his own name, he's only two and I just think of kids like Maddie, plus its 14 days which is too, too long.

They said they would cut the relationship unless I let him, they have a right to take him wherever, whenever. I explained my reasons and offered a compromise of a week holiday in the UK, possibly two through the year. A beach is still a beach! No texts. Yesterday night they were supposed to collect him for his usual stay over at theirs. No texts, no calls, silence.

So I'm guessing they're either trying to blackmail me into it with silence or have followed through. I'm pretty surprised tbh, a holiday argument worth the relationship and love for my son? And they really love seeing my son, and I thought our relationship had improved. Even my sister! Not going into it all now but need advice.

Basically, it is just me. Me alone. My son's dad doesn't want to see him and left 2 weeks into my pregnancy, after a long relationship and engagement. I don't have any friends, uni friends live too far, there's no-one here. I have my son's nursery and crèche staff, and my class teachers, that's it. No real support or shoulder. And frankly, with this new situation I'm terrified.

I'm used to being a single parent but its really hit it home now. I'm going to have to get a CM for my volunteering as part of my TA course, instead of my sister looking after my son. I'm going to have to really put in effort to treat my son, play centres, etc., as there's no sleepover at grandma's. I cant stay at home with him all the time and there are very few things to do in my area. I'm probably gonna have to cancel our trip to Disneyland Paris as there's no-one to look after my dog and guinea pig, and I was so, SO looking forward to that and saved so much for it.

I'm mostly worried that my son will be destroyed by having no-one, except me. No grandma, no aunt, no baby cousin, no dad. And that this will rebound to me, my fault, as though I should give in to blackmail and something I'm not comfortable with.

Has anyone got any advice or help? I see a lot of people here have cut ties from family for one reason or another, but more than often, they have partners and other families, other friends. I have none of that!

Thank you.

Dont even fret this.
I have a single parent friend with 3 kids. Great mother,great kids and no family around.

Edit: oops,only 39 pages behind

chirpychick

That’s so good to here!!!

You so deserve every ounce of happiness x