Family cut themselves out of my son's life

harrys_nan

duchy wrote: »

I'd tell her you don't need them anymore TBH
If it was ages and ages ago what Wiglet hasn't had he won't miss.It's too soon and FAR too much of a risk your Mum will show up with her.....(or worse SHE got your sister to text in the first place).

The fact your sister is texting you with NO mention of what went on last week frankly beggers belief.

Say no Wiggy please !

I will 3 x that, I say don't do it as well, please, please.
Take care x

PuzzledDave

wiggywoo9 wrote: »

Thanks No contact again and they haven't come up. Got a message from my sister last night asking what to do with toys in her boot as I'd asked for them ages ago, said she needs them out now, but no good wishes or anything. I wanted to say, sure bring them round, but worried she'd bring my mum?

Sisters phone uncontactable for ages. Block mothers number. Sister gets in contact over fairly trivial matter in such a way to require physical meet up. Alarms bells could really not be louder.

missprice

PuzzledDave wrote: »

Sisters phone uncontactable for ages. Block mothers number. Sister gets in contact over fairly trivial matter in such a way to require physical meet up. Alarms bells could really not be louder.

Its a set up innit.
Can smell it a mile off.
If you really want the toys back cos you could sell them or they are really needed then get them dropped off at 3rd party house, not the child minder though.
If not then keep no contact.
If they get dropped off leave it a few days to pick them up cos they will wait around possibly hours to see you.

Keep at it wiggy, your getting there.

RAS

PuzzledDave wrote: »

Sisters phone uncontactable for ages. Block mothers number. Sister gets in contact over fairly trivial matter in such a way to require physical meet up. Alarms bells could really not be louder.

Possibly but remember that mother has now recieved the harassment letter and may also have had a phone call or visit from the local constabulary about the recent visit.

So right now mum is not going to contact wiggy.

However she can always use sister to lay a false trail which post-hoc "explains" why they thought fit to hammer on wiggy's door after she told them she did not want contact. This is probably what mum told the police and is how mum is rationalising her actions now.

Liz3yy

Don't respond, please....littleun doesn't miss the toys so don't bother trying to get them back. This stinks like yesterdays diapers.

wiggywoo9

Hi there isn't really a third person house to leave it, maybe neighbour? But she's like 2 metres from my door in same block and might not want hassle.

It's been one hell of a day. First, my guinea pig was sick and died just after I got back from collecting wiglet from nursery. Sobbing because of that, I had her a few months before I had my tot and she was an absolute godsend through pregnancy. Lovely ginger thing, called Pig, will be missed badly.

Then, after a short nap, my tot woke up with croup. He had it last winter, poor thing hates it and is so weak and tired. Time for an early weekend and camp out in my room. Got to walk dog though, he'll be wrapped up snug for that.

And now, had a message from my ex saying he'd like contact again and asking when we can make arrangements. So good there, not sure how to respond though?

Off to snuggle my boy and drip calpol into him, poor thing!

meritaten

I don't like the sound of it either wiggy - I detect your mum behind this! she is hoping you will be dumb enough to txt 'yes drop them off I will be in at 00.00' and then open the door to sis! AS IF!

I too would tell her you don't want them and to donate them to charity.
Wiglet isn't going to miss them now!

as for exBF - this is entirely your call wiggy! you run the show! decide if meeting on neutral territory for a 'meeting' to discuss future arrangements would be best, or if you want to plunge straight in and take wiglet to see him (also on neutral territory).

jellyhead

Poor wiglet

It's great that his dad wants to see him, I hope it all goes well xx

RAS

wiggywoo9 wrote: »

And now, had a message from my ex saying he'd like contact again and asking when we can make arrangements. So good there, not sure how to respond though?

Can you suggest something for the weekend after next (explaining that wiglet has croup at the moment)?

Is there a shopping centre with a play area somewhere close by?

Have you let wiglet see a photo of his dad? So he understands a bit about what is going on?

jellyhead

Pressed 'send' too soon ... also I'm really sorry to hear about your Pig.