Family cut themselves out of my son's life

missprice

rpc wrote: »

Who's got less?

You might not have a fancy pushchair or expensive holidays but, in the grand scheme of things, they don't really matter. The richest slave in the world is still a slave!

Instead of material possessions, you have things that matter. A life. Freedom. Morals.

Love that bit I bolded.
And so true.
Things don't make one happy, experiences and memories do.
And you don't have to go far for these things

duchy

rpc wrote: »

Who's got less?

You might not have a fancy pushchair or expensive holidays but, in the grand scheme of things, they don't really matter. The richest slave in the world is still a slave!

Instead of material possessions, you have things that matter. A life. Freedom. Morals.

Indeed -YOU have a future ...... your sister ? Not so much.
A baby a boyfriend who is too uncommitted or too scared of your Mum to make a home with her and his son....... and no real career prospects. She's trapped - you're free. You'll have your own nice things and your own holidays in time - but they will be the things you choose and the places you want to go ....not what your Mum decides you can have.

I wouldn't want to be your sister for anything - she's trapped -it may be a trap with nice material things but it's still a trap and she has to know that if she ever has a falling out with your mother there is a very real prospect she'll get treated as she's seen you treated by your Mum.

wiggywoo9

No placement today or next week cos my CM has had a death in family and can't take him. I have an assessment in placement that next time too, so hope I remember to do everything right and the kids don't forget me! At least I can nurse this flu at home and not be croaking at bad yr 11s!

Had a call from HV, was surprised as last time I called them last week, said they couldn't do much. I explained situation in depth, lady was nice and perplexed as what to do as it is an odd situation. She assured me my mum can't take my son at all and has no rights there. She suggested I go back to GP and get her write similar letter and tell her about her turning up. She said I should pursue it legally.

I also mentioned that it was affecting my schedule, as every day since she showed up, I have to get in and lock up by 5:30 as that's when she finishes work, in case she shows up. I rush dinner and tidying downstairs, in order to get away from that exposed window too. I missed my book club cos of that, it was on late and I didn't want to come back to her.

She said she will talk to her colleagues and get back to me today or tomorrow. She said it was not on to affect me that way and her actions are not normal. She asked if it'd always been this way before wiglet and I said yes, but always or mostly aimed at me. I also suggested that affected my PND as well.

I hope she comes up with something, bit tired of telling story so many times though and feeling abnormal. Did not realise how marginalised this situation is. Wiglet is watching Chip and Dale cartoons and having a nice day in.

I am starting to worry that whoever posted my mum may have mental health issues may be at least vaguely accurate.

missprice

In time, maybe a long time maybe a week, you won't feel the same way and you will confidently use the rooms you currently won't.
It depends on when you get fed up of hiding and when your mother gets the hint.

But one day you will feel different and that is the day to celebrate being out from under.

PuzzledDave

Regarding the exposed window, can you stick something over it ? Small poster perhaps ? Some A4 sheets and blue tack if needs be ?

Mojisola

PuzzledDave wrote: »

Regarding the exposed window, can you stick something over it ? Small poster perhaps ? Some A4 sheets and blue tack if needs be ?

You can get some stuff that lets you see out but is mirrored from outside. Just think how frustrating that would be if she turns up again!

I haven't used this company so it isn't a recommendation but this is the kind of stuff I mean - https://www.windowfilm.co.uk/residential/privacy

Liz3yy

PuzzledDave wrote: »

Regarding the exposed window, can you stick something over it ? Small poster perhaps ? Some A4 sheets and blue tack if needs be ?

What he said...or a nice decorative curtain or room divider? Ikea is brilliant for these and they don't cost the earth.

LannieDuck

A curtain perhaps or, if she can see your shadow moving behind the curtain, a blackout blind?

Counting_Pennies_2

How about a blind you can tilt? You can get them very cheaply in DIY stores. This place does cheap ones made to fit the window, but might be a little too expensive.
http://www.blinds-supermarket.co.uk/
Can you contact the local co-ordinator for childminders to see about emergency cover for child care?

harrys_nan

Mojisola wrote: »

You can get some stuff that lets you see out but is mirrored from outside. Just think how frustrating that would be if she turns up again!

I haven't used this company so it isn't a recommendation but this is the kind of stuff I mean - https://www.windowfilm.co.uk/residential/privacy

we have something like this, but with ours you cant see through it at all, we have it on our window on the annex as that is what we use as a utility room. My daughter also has it on her window at the front instead of net curtains as she live in an old victorian house with a very small garden at the front

We had ours of ebay if I remember correctly