Family cut themselves out of my son's life

wiggywoo9

Just about to call HV. Had a new text since the one about going to solicitor:

'how X? im getting a bit worried about him plz text back and let me know hes ok x'

So does this mean solicitor went badly or she's trying to show I'm making people worried?

Mojisola

wiggywoo9 wrote: »

Just about to call HV. Had a new text since the one about going to solicitor:

'how X? im getting a bit worried about him plz text back and let me know hes ok x'

So does this mean solicitor went badly or she's trying to show I'm making people worried?

This! Or maybe both.

She's also trying to put herself in a good light - see how polite this text is?

wiggywoo9

I called HV- they said not much they can do, advised to call police to at least get it logged, to attend the full check-up for my son at GP, and if I need anything else to call them again. Said they can come out, look at him, etc., but said they'll do all that at GP, so no need.

Mojisola

wiggywoo9 wrote: »

I called HV- they said not much they can do, advised to call police to at least get it logged, to attend the full check-up for my son at GP, and if I need anything else to call them again. Said they can come out, look at him, etc., but said they'll do all that at GP, so no need.

Take comfort from the HV's reaction.

rpc

Who knows - could be anything.

If I had to guess, I'd say she's been told that she won't get anywhere unless there is a concern for the child's welfare and she is trying to manufacture the concern. "Invisible children" are big news at the moment but given your son isn't hidden from the GP, HV, etc that is unlikely to get far.

On the other hand, the whole solicitor thing could have been a ruse. She may not have been and may never have intended to go. The threat of a solicitor was meant to make you cave but the new, stronger you knows better. As each approach fails, she comes up with another.

missprice

wiggywoo9 wrote: »

I called HV- they said not much they can do, advised to call police to at least get it logged, to attend the full check-up for my son at GP, and if I need anything else to call them again. Said they can come out, look at him, etc., but said they'll do all that at GP, so no need.

That means they have no worries about child.
Agree you should have it logged with the police dv team. But when you see them you can say that H.V has no problems or worries.
Also you don't have to explain the PND, by all means mention you had it, but its dealt with now.

RAS

wiggywoo9 wrote: »

Just about to call HV. Had a new text since the one about going to solicitor:

'how X? im getting a bit worried about him plz text back and let me know hes ok x'

So does this mean solicitor went badly or she's trying to show I'm making people worried?

Just text back this time.

He's fine. Why should he be otherwise?

thorsoak

wiggywoo9 wrote: »

Just about to call HV. Had a new text since the one about going to solicitor:

'how X? im getting a bit worried about him plz text back and let me know hes ok x'

So does this mean solicitor went badly or she's trying to show I'm making people worried?

SHE is the one who is making YOU worried! Ignore it! Take little one for his checkup - and if the doctor's not worried then why on earth should she be worried?

She is trying to play mindgames with you still - and its not working now - you are changing the game rules - and she doesn't like it one bit!

Bear this in mind WW .......she is a stubborn, conniving old bat ...and you are her daughter .....two can play the same game - but you can win!

Have you thought about contacting womens' aid?

HPoirot

wiggywoo9 wrote: »

Just about to call HV. Had a new text since the one about going to solicitor:

'how X? im getting a bit worried about him plz text back and let me know hes ok x'

So does this mean solicitor went badly or she's trying to show I'm making people worried?

Solicitor didn't go anywhere because that was just an empty threat; if she did go she would have been full of it, even embellishing what was said. Classic bullying technique, now she's all concerned but underneath that a whiff of you not being as capable of looking after x as she is. I would ignore.

PuzzledDave

Option 1: Solicitor advised her to do this to create a paper trail of meaningful impact in x's life.

Your Best Response: Nothing. If you respond YOU are creating (tenuous) evidence that she does have meaningful impact in x's life.

Option 2: Solicitor suggested she would catch more flies with honey than vinegar (and certainly far less costly and risky -- imagine if she lost at court, there would clearly be the end of all ways and means of access to you & X).

Your Best Response: Since you don't to have to speak to her... do nothing.

Option 3: Solicitor was (yet another) lie

Your Best Response: Nothing, every silly plan she comes up with to barge into your life when you don't want her should be simple left unanswered.