Family cut themselves out of my son's life

tiger_eyes

You're doing a great job of standing strong. Your mother is flailing around trying to find some way of reasserting her power over you. She wants to force you to respond to her. I think the new phone suggestion is spot on - then she can't even upset you with her texts any more.

Ames

Just out of interest, how would the police react if Wiggy's mum called the police after she's been to see the DV team? Would they be able to tell her to stop harrassing Wiggy?

As for the latest texts, she's obviously using a mixture of threats and bribery, upping the ante with the holiday. Not only is it bigger and better than the first plan, she's trying to outdo and undermine Wiggy's plans for DLP.

PuzzledDave

Not that I know anything about police procedure, but wouldn't they ask:

What happened when you went to see your daughter ?

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Oh, you haven't been ?

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But you want us to go around for you ?

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Perhaps you should just try knocking on her door ?




... however, based on the pile, no scratch that, enormas mountain of lies so far, it seems somewhat unlikely she is even going to pick up the phone.

wiggywoo9

Just spoke to the lady from family legal advice, they will help me. They sent a warning letter about harassment to my mum today, advised to get a new phone, see GP and that's that. Said to contact them if anything else happens, leave police unless she breaks the warning in letter. So hopefully she will get the letter tomorrow and back off!

As I was even on phone to this lady, my mum texted again, saying there's stuff I need to contact her about, birthdays, xmas etc., and I can't avoid them.

The lady also said that her solicitor would've advised there was nothing to be done as no orders or parental responsibility, so that clearly went badly.

Quite hopeful now, things are in progress!

Saturnalia

She's been going on like this for several days. If she thought there was something seriously wrong, she would have been round/sent someone else round/called the police before now.

Even more so since there's a little one she claims to love so much that would be fending for himself.

thorsoak

Be prepared for the !!!! to hit the fan when she recceives the letter tomorrow Wiggy!

Maybe a good time for you to take the wiglet (I like that!) out to the shops, to see all the lights coming on for Christmas!

wiggywoo9

I know, I don't think the reaction will be particularly positive. I'm guessing she'll be pushing at the legal side again, back hounding solicitor, possibly contacting me to confront me?

Regardless, it has been done, we will have a nice day out tomorrow, treat little one with a few leftover pennies I will be sending letter to ex tomorrow too, see what he says.

duchy

Yes she'll no doubt get a bit of a shock when the letter arrives and you may get the "How can you treat your family so badly...and deprive wiglet of his family" emotional blackmail nonsense.................or you may just get a silence ...for a while at least.

Personally I'd expect her to try and get your sister in touch with you. If she does and makes arrangements to see you - it's a real possibility that your Mum will "just happen" to be walking past.

If she has already had legal advice - the letter won't change anything except to underline to the solicitor that she's onto a loser if she goes back to them.

Really glad you're writing to the ex -Hope he responds positively.

Ames

Brilliant news from the legal advisor! I think its still worth speaking to women's aid or the police DV team though for the emotional and practical side of things.

Caroline_a

Way to go Wiggy!! I have to say that I had to check back how old your son is when you said that your mother wanted to take him to Disney in Florida - he's far too young for that, plus if they go in summer it's very hot and humid over there, so pretty uncomfortable for a young child. No guilt on your behalf there then!!

You can take comfort too from the legions of MSE'er's here, all supporting you and willing you to move past this horrible pressure that your mother is trying to put on you. I have 3 daughters and I would rather slit my wrists than make them feel uncomfy or unwanted as she is doing to you. I look upon my role now as supporting them when they need it, and constantly admiring them as the lovely young women they have grown into!