Family cut themselves out of my son's life

duchy

So as Wiggy didn't want her son to be taken a couple of hours flight away from her.... Mum ups the ante to a flight over three thousand miles away...... She's not the sharpest knife in the drawer is she !!

Wiggy are you sure your Mum doesn't have MH issues ?

jellyhead

You're doing brilliantly, Wiggy I hope your migraines have settled down now.

Your mum is trying to turn it all into your fault again - in her warped mind you are the bad person because you are depriving your son of a trip to Florida (that he is too young for, in my opinion). Don't let her get to you. My 8 year old still hasn't been to disneyland paris. He'll probably be 9 by the time we can afford it, but eldest went at age 5 and he was still a bit young for all the queues.

At Wiglet's age I reckon peppa pig world would be more enjoyable anyhow, and I notice that your mum is still excluding you from this trip ... sigh ... you'll have great holidays together in time, don't worry

Dimey

You have moved things along nicely Wiggy. The letter from the Family aid solicitor is a step prior to an injunction or restraining order. So you've been very reasonable to get that sent as fair warning to your mum to stop her threats and harassment.

Your mum's texts are sounding unbalanced. At midnight she's threatening to send the police around and the following day she's asking about a party.

Do keep all these texts as, given your mum's track record, there's every likelihood that you'll have to end up going to the police to get the restraining order.

Leave the solicitor's letter to do its job now. Don't answer any texts and don't answer the door to your Mum. If she causes a scene then just call the police for protection.

If your sister makes contact, then just talk as sisters about nice things and don't be drawn into the legal issues with your mum. You don't want to say anything that could be passed back to your mum and twisted by your mum against you.

As I've said before, your mum seems capable of distorting facts and making up untrue stories about you, to get the police or solicitors to do her bidding. If that happens, remain calm and remember that you will always be given the time and opportunity to give your side. You've started to build your network of support and started to log all the evidence so your position is strong.

Have a great fun day with the Wiglet tomorrow.

paulineb_2

Yes, be prepared for a non positive response. But ignore any threats she makes.

I think it's pretty clear from what you've said in this and other threads that your mum has issues. This isn't normal behaviour. The way she's treated your sisters bf and your ex as well.

She's obviously just used to people being browbeaten by her. Enjoy your day tomorrow and turn your phone off. If you can't read the texts you won't be upset by them.

Or block her number. If you don't have a facility to block numbers on your phone there's a free app called blacklist and I think there's one called SMS blocker. I had to use it recently.

Saturnalia

Just to say, your son isn't missing out by not going to Disneyland. I went to the Paris one for the first time aged 20 and it was magical then! In fact I think it would be wasted on a very little child. It's a lot to take in, plus he won't get on the bigger rides, lots of walking, and as for Florida with the long flights and the weather, not a chance!

You have years ahead where you and your son can go and have a whale of a time together.

MothballsWallet

The cynical old bar steward in me gets the feeling that wiggy's mum never went within 1,000 miles of a lawyer because she couldn't find one who'd accept the payment method she wanted to use...

I'll leave the rest to your imaginations

(And I thought my biological parents were a waste of matter!)

meritaten

I don't think wiggys mum went to a solicitor either - wiggy would have received a letter by now - in fact she has NOT followed through on ANYTHING she claims to have done! ALL Empty Threats! She is so used to her verbal bullying being effective I think wiggy has her 'Stymied'!
and yes she is going to freak when she receives the Family Aid letter! but judging on past experiences.............she will just send texts!

Get a cheap pay as you go mobile (£10 from Tresco?) and put the other one in a drawer when you have given all friends and work the new number! only charge it up before seeing the police or Family aid so you are not constantly stressed by texts.
You are doing fine wiggy - I cant believe how far you have come from your very first thread on here about her!

HPoirot

Don't want to put a dampener on to things but would rather focus on the practical side of things - what happens if the letter tomorrow puts your mum's back up and she decides to come over to your flat? What happens if you're not there but she decides to wait till you are back - how will you handle finding her on your doorstep on your way back? Anything is possible, she sounds deranged as others have pointed out - and for someone who is so used to being domineering, this letter may cause some dramatic reaction. Has she ever been officially challenged before?

meritaten

I don't think she will HP.............but, its possible! could wiggy arrange with a neighbour an 'early warning system' to be used if mum ever turns up and waits for her? such as a light left on where wiggy can see it before entering her building? In fact, she should be making friends with the neighbours and getting them 'onside'. also, it wouldn't be pleasant for the neighbours if wiggys mum turns up in a right paddy!

wiggywoo9

Quite scared, she is on my doorstep. Ignoring it and have called police. She keeps hammering at door and knocking letterbox.