Family cut themselves out of my son's life

GobbledyGook

Also the 'stay calm' strategy may be coming from her legal advice. It's certainly what my MIL's first legal advocated.

He also informed her she had a good chance of residency and advised she ask to see my girls to show she was trying to be reasonable etc.

Keep in mind the legal folks will be advising based on the "facts" she has given them.

MIL's first was sure he had an excellent case of winning residency of two girls basically brought up single handededly by MIL who had been taken home against their will by their drug addled, mentally disturbed unfit mother......

Had she told him the truth his advice would have been very different.

GobbledyGook

Also please whilst continue posting here for support, people here were fantastic, I implore you to get proper legal advise.

In general grandparents have no rights, but if they can show they were a part of the child's life and the child will benefit from contact with them it's not impossible to gain access. It's unlikely, but take no chances you end up being one of the small percent.

Good luck!
Gemma x

harrys_nan

wiggy, There isn't many people I admire but you sure are one of them, in fact top of the list. :A
You have courage in bucket loads, I wish you a very happy life.

It might be a good idea to listen to GobbledyGook, she is giving you some very good advice.

Are there any schemes by you to adopt a "granny" to give your son a grandmother figure in his life, that would be beneficial to your son and the person you choose.

Your mother does not deserve you or your son
hugs xx

thorsoak

News for grandmother in court for harassment UK

Wiggywoo - send this link to your mother and tell her that you'll see her in Court.

But do take Gobbledygook's advice and get your own legal representative - maybe Uni can help you to sort one out. But carry on as you are doing - you do have the right attitude! x

meritaten

I think you need your own legal advice wiggywoo. ask the student advisor at uni whether you can get free advice, or a recommendation to a solicitor.
If she HAS contacted one - you should NEVER deal with them directly but only through your own solicitor.

thorsoak

thorsoak wrote: »

News for grandmother in court for harassment UK

Wiggywoo - send this link to your mother and tell her that you'll see her in Court.

But do take Gobbledygook's advice and get your own legal representative - maybe Uni can help you to sort one out. But carry on as you are doing - you do have the right attitude! x

Actually, re-reading the DM article, I take back the advice to send it to your mother!

Counting_Pennies_2

Can I just ask, did you have a Moneysaving account on your computer at home?

When I log on to Moneysaving expert each time it goes straight to my account.

It is only if my husband has been looking at something dodgy and doesn't want me to see the history that he wipes the cookies off the machine, and then I have to log in again, but otherwise my MSE login stays logged in

I don't want you giving her the upper hand. You might need to look into changing user name, if she has access to your details, otherwise you could be playing right into her hands!

wiggywoo9

No I always use my own laptop, which I'm the only user for.

I'm getting anxious about this legal thing now- I finished uni in July and they can't help with it obviously. I can't afford a solicitor, I'm on IS and stretched as it is for this CM!!

marmitepotato

Wiggy, how about a trip to CAB? They can advise. Wishing you well, you are made of strong stuff.

paulineb_2

wiggywoo9 wrote: »

There has been a development. I was at my placement today, suffering with a blinding migraine, when who texts me?

'are you going to let me see X now? as have made an appointment with solicitors for this afternoon else, I don't want to take this route but I will if you don't let me see him?'

No paraphrasing. At first I was worried and concerned, but then I just thought, what the hell! What can she actually do? See him one day a week? I don't mind if the court orders that. That's their decision. But she can't have him, she can't take him and that, to be honest, is the bottom line. There's nothing she can do to me.

Any thoughts?

If its her old solicitor, she'll A) have to pay for it as she is working, and if the advice offered here is correct, she's not entitled to anything at all. I haven't heard anything else so all I can think is that she didn't get told the news she wanted, or did, and is following their advice. Odd of her not to brag or wave it in my face though.

She may be bluffing, what I would advise you to do is change your number.

As other people have said she has no legal rights to contact with your child, I certainly wouldnt be forking out on legal fees just now.

Change your number for some peace and quiet