Family cut themselves out of my son's life

Corelli

How are things with you now Wiggy?

wiggywoo9

We're doing great, none of them have come up to the flat or anything. She stopped ringing and texting and has gone quiet. Not too sure what's happening now. They haven't seen him in over 2 weeks now but no attempt to come up so far.

thorsoak

wiggywoo9 wrote: »

We're doing great, none of them have come up to the flat or anything. She stopped ringing and texting and has gone quiet. Not too sure what's happening now. They haven't seen him in over 2 weeks now but no attempt to come up so far.

That's good news, Wiggy woo! Your little one will not miss out because he hasn't seen his relatives for a while - he is with the Childminder, so he is getting socialisation there - and you can take him out when you're not studying/on placement - so he will be absolutely fine! And whilst you're not getting any aggravation from your mother, then so will you be.

Don't be tempted to contact them ......let things be - just carry on with the marvellous progress that you and babe are making. Contact your HA to see if there is any help you can get with decorating - if you don't ask, you don't get! One room at a time - and you will make a wonderful little life for you both!

{{hugs}}

Mojisola

wiggywoo9 wrote: »

We're doing great, none of them have come up to the flat or anything. She stopped ringing and texting and has gone quiet. Not too sure what's happening now.

She'll be confused because you're not reacting as you used to.

She won't give up this easily so don't be too surprised when she takes things to the next level - "for your own good/to bring you back to your senses/or however she phrases it".

You know that whatever she says, what she means is "I'm not getting my own way!"

HPoirot

Mojisola wrote: »

She'll be confused because you're not reacting as you used to.

She won't give up this easily so don't be too surprised when she takes things to the next level - "for your own good/to bring you back to your senses/or however she phrases it".

You know that whatever she says, what she means is "I'm not getting my own way!"

^^^ This. Take your precautions wiggy x .

wiggywoo9

What precautions do you mean?

I spoke to the nursery and CM about it all. Still need to make a GP appointment and go to Police station, though still unsure what evidence to take.

But nothing again, all day.

HPoirot

wiggywoo9 wrote: »

What precautions do you mean?

I spoke to the nursery and CM about it all. Still need to make a GP appointment and go to Police station, though still unsure what evidence to take.

But nothing again, all day.

Yes, these are what I meant. Do you have a text where she said she can take your son whenever and wherever she wanted? You could take that to the police.

meritaten

As Hpoirot says - any texts in which she says she can take your son. it will back up your verbal statement.
any texts which are disparaging to you.
just be on your guard hun - you have done everything you can so far! I truly hope she leaves you alone now.

ruis72

as a complete aside there is a website called treasuremytext.com, free to set up an account then you just forward the text you want to keep and it saves it for you online, you can also set it up so it emails you a copy of the text (handy for printing). That way you can keep any texts for evidence but don't need to keep them on your phone

andygb

*Louise* wrote: »

Flipping heck....this thread has taken a really dark turn since the original incident on page 1 :eek:

Having just read your most recent posts....why the heck would you have even allowed her to take him for a week in the UK??

I think you're better off out of it all, your son will be better off brought up by a single mum on her own than along with a toxic extended family.

I totally agree Louise, the family are totally unhinged.
I would definitely be trying for a restraining order.