Family cut themselves out of my son's life

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wiggywoo

Have you consider a restraining order? And maybe pm GobblebyGook if she is still around (her MIL had similiar intentions; of taking the granddaughters).

Dimey

Yes that was bad Wiggywoo. But that's why you have worked so hard to get away from that life and build a calm happy new life for your son and yourself.

You are doing the right thing. Don't reply to the texts and don't answer the door. Have a peaceful read in bed and cuddle lovely boy.

paulineb_2

Snap? I cant imagine my mum treating my brother or I like that in a million years.

Get the hell away from her for good. I know shes your mum but shes toxic. You need to protect yourself and your child.

HPoirot

(((Hugs to you wiggy))). You have gone through so much yet achieved so much at this young age.

Why should you let her back into your life again after this? No she did not just snap when she snatched your son, if she did then she is still snapping now, over and over again. She likes the drama of control over you, end of.

Maybe she sees a grandchild as a pawn in a game, or something like her own property, who knows?

As for the photos and toys at her house, not it is not enough to convince a court that she will benefit your child by having contact with her. If I were you, I would ignore, cut all contact from her, while at the same time covering you back againt any other malicious act she may think of. As others have said, let your HV know about the situation, make sure you have records of being over the PND at your GP's, make sure the CM / nursery knows that under no circumstance should she, your sister or nan be allowed to pick your son up. The suggestion of letting the police know is a good idea too.

I have to say though she seems to have backed down pretty quickly from her threat this morning, if she was so intent over fighting for contact, she would hardly be asking when you were free to discuss?

duchy

She's trying everything to get you to respond to her Wiggy. Don't be sucked in. Keep your silence. Once you respond she'll act like it was a silly misunderstanding......until the next time you say no to her.

I remember your desperation when she made you homeless. I hope you do too Hun every time you think of giving her a last chance.

If your Nan and your sister want to live with a tyrant and a bully that is down to them but you don't have to. You are a good Mum protecting your son from this manipulative woman.

These endless threats to take your son .....She's a mother too she knows it is every Mums worst fear. Sweetie it really is time to draw a line and get an injunction as she keeps threatening to abduct him.

It is incredibly sad .....but it isn't your fault. It is hers and she has caused the situation that is forcing you to take steps to protect your son. You aren't the one with MH issues. She simply isn't rational.

KxMx

HPoirot wrote: »

(((Hugs to you wiggy))). You have gone through so much yet achieved so much at this young age.

Why should you let her back into your life again after this? No she did not just snap when she snatched your son, if she did then she is still snapping now, over and over again. She likes the drama of control over you, end of.

Maybe she sees a grandchild as a pawn in a game, or something like her own property, who knows?

As for the photos and toys at her house, not it is not enough to convince a court that she will benefit your child by having contact with her. If I were you, I would ignore, cut all contact from her, while at the same time covering you back againt any other malicious act she may think of. As others have said, let your HV know about the situation, make sure you have records of being over the PND at your GP's, make sure the CM / nursery knows that under no circumstance should she, your sister or nan be allowed to pick your son up. The suggestion of letting the police know is a good idea too.

I have to say though she seems to have backed down pretty quickly from her threat this morning, if she was so intent over fighting for contact, she would hardly be asking when you were free to discuss?

Exactly. Classic bullying and manipulative behaviour, when one tactic doesn't produce the desired results try another.

Person_one

Is there any way you can move a long distance away from your family? If they are your only tie to where you are now, you've nothing to lose. I know its not easy when you're in social housing, but it can happen, maybe worth asking on the housing board?

A new start, new friends, you wouldn't even have to give them your new address or phone number.

Dimey

duchy wrote: »

>>> Sweetie it really is time to draw a line and get an injunction as she keeps threatening to abduct him.

It is incredibly sad .....but it isn't your fault. It is hers and she has caused the situation that is forcing you to take steps to protect your son. You aren't the one with MH issues. She simply isn't rational.

These people might advise you about getting an injunction in response to your Mother's threats to abduct your son...

http://www.ncdv.org.uk/are-you-suffering-domestic-abuse/how-ncdv-will-help-you/

wiggywoo9

I'm pretty far from them as it is- picture me on the edge of a big city and them on the complete other end. We don't bump into each other shopping or anything, only if I went in 'her' shop. My circle is quite separate from theirs. She's made three calls to my phone in half an hour though, both blanked but circling her 'discussion' thoughts, I think.

Dimey

wiggywoo9 wrote: »

I'm pretty far from them as it is- picture me on the edge of a big city and them on the complete other end. We don't bump into each other shopping or anything, only if I went in 'her' shop. My circle is quite separate from theirs. She's made three calls to my phone in half an hour though, both blanked but circling her 'discussion' thoughts, I think.

Ignore your phone or turn if off for the night.
You are in control now. Keep strong.