Family cut themselves out of my son's life

harrys_nan

Is there any way at all you can fix up a security camera up by your door?
I would contact the solicitor that worked for you before and tell her what is going on, something must be done about the witch woman.
I know it is easy for us, but please don't let her upset you, she just can't get her head around the fact that your no longer under her spell and can stand on your own 2 feet.
Get in touch with your local MP and see if they can help you move somewhere safe.
xx

meritaten

Wiggy - the police told her to stay away, she has ignored them. She has used the pretext of dropping off Easter eggs to take the opportunity to harass you again. and it is HARASSMENT.
I second contacting the solicitor again and going for a court injunction! as for getting workmates to take photos of you ...............words fail me! could this be true? would anyones workmates be dumb enough to do that?
you have to do something wiggy - if she thinks she got away with this 'visit' she will try again.


as others have said - your son loves you with all his heart. and you are the only one protecting him from this horrible woman. it comes at a high cost I know - but I also know you think he is worth it.

Wol2

Agree with all the good advice above......

Stay strong - you are a wonderful mum and no-one is going to be able to take Wiglet away from you no matter what they threaten

Courage Hun! - Sending you lots of hugs and support Wiggy..
xxxx.

Corelli

Honestly Wiggy, I do wonder how your mother managed to produce a daughter like you. Getting her friends to photograph you! For Heavens sake!

Well done for contacting the Police, it is very sensible to write down what happened whilst it is still fresh in your mind.

It was mentioned about trying for a transfer so she no longer knows your address, or at the least see if the Police an/or Women's Aid will support you with getting an injunction against her.

Stay strong, Wiglet and the Dog need you, and of course you matter for your own sake too, not just what you mean to your dependents.

C X

meritaten

wiggy, I know she makes you doubt yourself, so think on this............
have you EVER, since you and wiglet left, had a row with anyone which made you think you were out of control? has anyone else accused you of this? NO?
then it ISNT you - its HER! please hunny don't doubt yourself, she shouldn't be given breathing space in your mind nor let her poison drip into it.

barbiedoll

Gosh Wiggy, she's absolutely furious that you've managed to get the better of her, isn't she?

To turn up on your doorstep, despite being told by the police to stay away, is the action of a deranged and deluded woman.

You have done the right thing in contacting the police, and writing it all down is a very good idea, as someone said, it's still fresh in your mind.

Getting strangers to take photos of you must be considered harrassment, you should emphasise to the police in your statement, that this will make you nervous about going out with your son and you should also tell them that you fear for your and Wiglet's safety. Make sure that this is all written down by them. Contact your solicitor and get an injunction through the court, she will be imprisoned if she breaks it and they will tell her that when the serve it to her.

I must admit, I do think that the stuff about her colleagues taking photos of you, should probably be taken with a pinch of salt. I don't think anyone on here would consider doing such a thing, personally, I'd be too nervous to start taking pics of someone on a bus, in case they caught me doing it! Especially if it was someone else's daughter! :eek:

I know this was a shock but you reacted in exactly the right way. You didn't panic, you didn't let her in and you didn't let her see Wiglet. She will be back if you don't act though, so make sure that you see the police next week.

I do feel sorry for your Nan and sisters, how sad that they're still trapped with this ghastly woman. Could you not write a letter to your Nan via a neighbour or friend, who could hand-deliver it to her?

pebbles88

Oh sweetheart, that must have been horrid. ((((Hugs))))

Think of it this way, she came & said stuff, but you & wee wiglet are fine & dandy.


You are stronger than you give yourself credit for my lovely xxxx

meritaten

wiggy - did you accept the eggs? not saying this would be a good or bad thing...............but I would examine the eggs very closely to make sure they haven't been tampered with. I wouldn't put it past her to put photos in them.
unless I just have a horrible cynical mind (which I do).

Gingernutty

Just think....less than a month ago you were having a crisis of confidence, wondering if you'd done the right thing......

Oh. Hell. Yes. You. Did.

That 'getting her friends to photograph you' thing may have been a lying bluff to make you paranoid.

In which case, job done.

Or she could have given these people a sob story about how her wicked daughter was denying her access to beloved grandson and left them feeling so sorry for her that they're prepared to do something that crazy.

I can't add to anything that's already been said. She's broken the warning by the police to stay away, carefully examine the eggs before doing anything - in fact, have them with you when they take your statement.

Hugs to you and Wiglet.

wiggywoo9

She left the bag of eggs on the doorstep with a letter, making out she was a saint for bringing them, said there was a £50 voucher for wiglet, emphasising FOR WIGLET. I said I didn't want them, I emphasised that the doors are open for my sisters and nan, not for her as I cannot trust her and don't want her in our lives. She started trying to engage me by saying stuff like 'oh it doesn't matter than, its over isn't it...' then slowly walking back to the block's stairs but whisking back once I went to shut the door. The bag was gone when I checked if she'd gone half an hour later- obviously I'm not trustworthy with her expensive, extravagant gift ! Or disposing of evidence!
She constantly accused me 'of not being right' (in the head) and that everything was my fault. Afterwards I realised that I've been raising my son alone for nearly 2 years without her, without a partner, whilst studying, working, holding down a home, looking after the dog, getting him to childcare, entertaining and educating him, etc. No-one has ever had doubts about my mental health in that time, or I wouldn't have my boy! So starting to make the difference between what she twists and turns into stories and the truth.
The photos- she said she had the photos so it did happen as her work mate apparently saw me on the bus with my boy and knew where I got off. As astounding as it sounds, I think she did do that. I'm going to be paranoid wherever I am now, in case I'm being filmed or photographed etc. What if I'm telling him off for something on the bus and she has a video of it to use against me? That worries me. And that she has a key to the block of flats. So glad I changed my locks!!