Family cut themselves out of my son's life

wiggywoo9

Thank you all, suppose it's a long process. Just feels like there must be something about me personally for others to act this way. I am hugely afraid of my nan passing away (she is 85) and me never having had the chance to show her the love I have for her.

harrys_nan

If you sent her a letter, would your mum get it first?

Try that and see what happens, I'm sure with all my heart your nan knows you love her, she has also been on the receiving end from your mum.
It really isn't you, your mum has manipulated everyone, they are too scared to go against her.


You wrote this so start believing in yourself

Found inspiration in the form of my son, my degree and my writing. Up and onwards to the future!

Must believe in the positives, cannot get weighed down by non-believers/the bad times.

Shroomie!

wiggywoo9

Shaking right now. Just had my mum on the doorstep dropping easter eggs off, out of the blue.
She ended up telling me everything was in my head, I was sick and they took my son 'for his safety' after i 'kicked off'. I am 'breaking apart the family', i am depriving my mum of my son and that my sisters hate me cos of what i did. No care about me, says she spent thousands trying to get access and had police telling her not to come near us (hey at least THEY did their job!). Said i blanked my sister in mcdonalds?!!! i saw her there months ago, she didn't even acknowledge me, say hello, smile, nada!!!


I am disgusted at how many webs are being spun in my absence. Oh and apparently her work friends have seen me on the bus and taken photos of me for her?!?! And that she's only ever helped me and why am i angry??


I should've called the police but seriously didn't even expect her and shook me for six really!


Just bewildered! Luckily my son was having a nap upstairs. So- what now??

Mojisola

I really think you should contact the police officer and report all that was said to them.

You need to keep an official log of these attempts to manipulate you and to make you feel bad. She hasn't given up so make sure you protect yourself by keeping everything official.

KxMx

I agree, report it to the Police asap.

It might be a good thing that they hear/see how shaken you are, I don't mean to be unkind.

Keep posting here for support too!

wiggywoo9

Called non-emergency police, have to go down and do a statement next week, as no-one is free to come to ours to do it for days. Just going to write everything down so I remember.

Mojisola

wiggywoo9 wrote: »

Called non-emergency police, have to go down and do a statement next week, as no-one is free to come to ours to do it for days. Just going to write everything down so I remember.

That's good - get it down as clearly as you can while you remember what she said. It must have been such a shock to see her on your doorstep!

wiggywoo9

I was scared she would come in and take wiglet, I'm feeling paranoid around him now. I can't even leave him next door whilst I shower, making me into a control freak, I just can't bear it if he was taken, he's my only baby!

Mojisola

wiggywoo9 wrote: »

I was scared she would come in and take wiglet, I'm feeling paranoid around him now. I can't even leave him next door whilst I shower, making me into a control freak, I just can't bear it if he was taken, he's my only baby!

It would be kidnapping if she did ever go to these extremes and she would be in serious trouble.

It's easy for us to say but try not to be too upset - the best way to fight her is to live your life well - as you have been doing since you broke away from her.

You have been so brave and so strong - don't let her get you down now.

duchy

She won't try and take him Wiggy- she knows damn well if she did she'd end up in a cell. She has admitted to you that the police told her to stay away from you and she has ignored them so is already on thin ice.

Still on the bright side you now have confirmation that she is still as unbalanced and unreasonable as ever and just as controlling- which should confirm you have done the right thing.

I think it might be worth talking to the council about a transfer due to her harassment -Women's Aid could probably advise you the best way to approach them about this.

Chin up pet - and think about getting a spyhole for your front door-so she can't pull this stunt again.

The fact she is harassing you and admitted to getting other people from her workplace to take your photo on the bus (are they mad ?) definitely needs reporting to the police - and possibly speaking to them about an injunction again. At the very least they need to speak to her again.....and possibly go to her workplace and have a stern word with the employees there.

Still on the upside you won't be spending Easter wondering if you were right to break contact -her odious and poisonous behavour has shown you were right to do so !