Family cut themselves out of my son's life

thorsoak

Excellent post Wiggy! I can just imagine Nanogedden looking like a bulldog chewing a wasp!

CH27

thorsoak wrote: »

Excellent post Wiggy! I can just imagine Nanogedden looking like a bulldog chewing a wasp!

:rotfl: :rotfl:

wiggywoo9

Ha ha, so much for my hopes.


Her response:
your being pathetic, all mum has done is support you and me through everything and was just trying spend time with WIGLET by taking him on holiday. we haven't even seen him in over 9months and doubt he even remembers us. its him thats losing out, cant you see that?


Me:
Do you really believe that? Can't you see the manipulation and actions? I know you feel safe and happy now, but you are utterly reliant on her, everyone is. Think for a second- is that really good? Think what she has done. Maybe one day you will see clearer and be free. You are always welcome in our lives, you, SISTER, nana, I hope you know that. I just wanted to check and see you were okay, we both love you, don't forget that xx


Her:
What has she done? Your sick and twisted and no one wants to know you. See you in court.




So there you have it. Goodbye to all that, I suppose. I responded a bit too quickly, maybe some was wrong to say, but it's said. The words of hers cuts deep and it makes me wonder what the hell she is thinking of me. I was totally right, they made me my 'dad'. After this, I went to wiglet's dad and asked, if it did go to court, would he put in, you know, talk about her nehative impact, how things are better now, etc? And he said yes, he's very anxious to not lose wiglet and will support us. It has been ages since I had a letter from solicitors though and surely a case would be in by now? I don't think I could afford my own legal fees, I just had to blow savings on a washing machine I'd have to represent myself

Caroline_a

No lawyer would waste his or her time trying to get this in court, ignore it's a baseless threat.

Mojisola

wiggywoo9 wrote: »

Her response:
your being pathetic, all mum has done is support you and me through everything and was just trying spend time with WIGLET by taking him on holiday. we haven't even seen him in over 9months and doubt he even remembers us. its him thats losing out, cant you see that?

Me:
Do you really believe that? Can't you see the manipulation and actions? I know you feel safe and happy now, but you are utterly reliant on her, everyone is. Think for a second- is that really good? Think what she has done. Maybe one day you will see clearer and be free. You are always welcome in our lives, you, SISTER, nana, I hope you know that. I just wanted to check and see you were okay, we both love you, don't forget that xx

Her:
What has she done? Your sick and twisted and no one wants to know you. See you in court.

Good reply from you - let's hope she does see the light at some point.

At least you know where you stand now.

Isn't the court threat just another attempt to frighten you? If they had been advised there was any hope of success on their part, don't you think they'd have started court action before now?

thorsoak

Very good response, Wiggy - and I still think that your mother is pulling all the strings!

Have you thought again about trying to contact your father's family - it is half of you, you know! You might still have a family out there.......

wiggywoo9

I have googled it and had a look on facebook. I know my greatnana's name and rough area, but not address. I can't remember my dad's sister's name or anyone else. The 192 site thing offers me everything but is saying £15 a month, not sure if its worth it

RuthnJasper

wiggywoo9 wrote: »

Ha ha, so much for my hopes.


Her response:
your being pathetic, all mum has done is support you and me through everything and was just trying spend time with WIGLET by taking him on holiday. we haven't even seen him in over 9months and doubt he even remembers us. its him thats losing out, cant you see that?


Me:
Do you really believe that? Can't you see the manipulation and actions? I know you feel safe and happy now, but you are utterly reliant on her, everyone is. Think for a second- is that really good? Think what she has done. Maybe one day you will see clearer and be free. You are always welcome in our lives, you, SISTER, nana, I hope you know that. I just wanted to check and see you were okay, we both love you, don't forget that xx


Her:
What has she done? Your sick and twisted and no one wants to know you. See you in court.




So there you have it. Goodbye to all that, I suppose. I responded a bit too quickly, maybe some was wrong to say, but it's said. The words of hers cuts deep and it makes me wonder what the hell she is thinking of me. I was totally right, they made me my 'dad'. After this, I went to wiglet's dad and asked, if it did go to court, would he put in, you know, talk about her nehative impact, how things are better now, etc? And he said yes, he's very anxious to not lose wiglet and will support us. It has been ages since I had a letter from solicitors though and surely a case would be in by now? I don't think I could afford my own legal fees, I just had to blow savings on a washing machine I'd have to represent myself

GOOD ON YOU Wiggy for not losing your bottle. You spoke nothing but complete sense to your sister. She didn't take long to reveal her true colours though, did she?

If I remember correctly, they've tried the court/solicitor's letter gambit before and got nowhere; they won't do any better this time (not that I think for a moment that they'll try, it's all just so many words).

1) They have NO legal rights over you or Wiglet.

2) There is plenty of evidence to prove that you are successfully building a quality existence for yourself and Wiglet, with your son being well cared for in a stable home and, in addition, with a blossoming relationship with his father, which YOU instigated.

3) There is ample evidence in their texts and other communications to suggest that they are hassling you in a very toxic manner.

I cannot see any legal organisation agreeing to press their "case".

Encouraging that Wigletpapa is prepared to stand by you if it did come to the crunch though; that's a very positive development. It shows that he cares a great deal about his son and that he knows that the best place for Wiglet is with his Wiggy.

Keep smiling sweetie. xx

duchy

Well done Wiggy- A calm and balanced reply........I'm sorry your sister wasn't grown up enough to see it.

barbiedoll

It seems like your mum is still using your sister as her mouthpiece then.

The thing that jumps out at me is that even if you and your mother don't get along, why should your sis and the rest of the family shut you out? My mum and I had countless arguments in the past, as did my mum and brother and my mum and sister. My mum would never have expected the other siblings to take sides with her, she was always very keen that we kept in touch with each other as we grew up, as she says, one day, she won't be here to keep us all together.

The fact that your mum drags your sisters and your nan into your troubles, and goes so far as to ban them from seeing you, speaks volumes.

You're well rid, and one day, your sister will see the light. Your reply was very succinct and to the point and really told it how it is.

And don't worry about the "see you in court" jibe, that's just another cheap shot from your toxic mother.