Family cut themselves out of my son's life

jojo-baby

wiggywoo, i read this entire thread yesterday and just had to post. i think you are a brave young women, doing what is best for you and your son, even if it not an easy road to go down.

your son is not going to miss people who are no good for him whether they share genetic material or not!

i think in your previous post you have used your son's name, maybe you want to change it.

if it looks like something your mother would write, and seeing how manipulative she is and that your sister is under her influence then i would be inclined to agree with you, that it is your mother's words. tread carefully there.

go out and enjoy the car boot, enjoy the new dress, i am sure you will have a wonderful day, you deserve it!

duchy

Sigh and once again it's all about Wiglets and after months of not hearing they don't even ask how you are (btw you might want to edit Wiglets name out of your post)

I'm sorry Wiggy I think your sister promptly told your Mum and she dictated the reply.
I think I'd be tempted to reply........We are both fineThanks for asking

A normal reply would be. How great to hear from you or I'm glad to hear from you ...would love to see you both .............NOT a bloody demand to see your son.
The only positive I can see is that they aren't pretending that they want to see you but are making it clear it's Wiglets they want to get their talons into.

Edit not sure why the tablet keeps adding an s on the end of your sons nickname. Sorry.

trolleyrun

Wiggy darling, firstly, I hope you've enjoyed your car boot sale. It's a beautiful day for it. Secondly, I'm considering the possibility that your mother has full access to your sister's fb account, being the control freak she is. It does sound like your mother's type of reply, so you'll need to be careful.

If you feel strong enough, you could play her at her own game, by "believing" this is your sister writing to you. Along the lines of "Hi Sister! Lovely to hear from you. What are you up to? How's Nephew?" Etc. Keep it breezy and evade the question of Wiglet and access.

The above is only a suggestion. It might be the silliest suggestion you've ever heard, and I won't be the slightest offended if you think I've gone mad You're in charge of your destiny and yours and Wiglet's life.

Friends will come with time. I don't find making friends easy. I have lots of colleagues and people I know, but I wouldn't call them friends. I only have about a handful of friends that I can count on, and it took a long time to get to this stage. Keep trying different things, and it will happen for you when the time is right. You're evidently a lovely lady with a lot to offer (even if you don't believe it at the moment).

Big hugs to you and Wiglet xx

Mojisola

trolleyrun wrote: »

Secondly, I'm considering the possibility that your mother has full access to your sister's fb account, being the control freak she is. It does sound like your mother's type of reply, so you'll need to be careful.

I agree with trolley. That doesn't sound like a reply from your sister.

It's up to you how to proceed but I don't think you're strong enough yet to risk contact starting up again. If you did arrange some kind of meeting with your sister, do you really believe that your mother wouldn't turn up as well?

Contacting your sister who lives with her could also be used by your mother to undermine your legal moves to keep her away.

I think you should wait until you have your own life and are feeling much stronger.

want_to_save

hi wiggy keep your chin up quick point tho hun think you may want to edit your post #1280 as i think you mistakenly put wiglets name in there

RuthnJasper

RAS wrote: »

Ooh - that is a wonderful description.

Haha, thanks! Not one of my own this time, however, it was purloined from The Mighty Boosh! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e4c9wUIY9IQ
I was very moved by your post about your dad, RAS. It was very honest; wise words indeed.

geminilady

I agree with Dutchy's post.I think it is awful that her first words were "can we see wiglet " I would be tempted to reply "so you do not want to see me then?" you could also ask how she is ect and your nephew and gran but sadly it does seem they are only interested in wiglet,it may be you "Mother "prompting the question but your sister should grow some balls if she cares about you.This is the first time I have posted on here but I do read the thread and wonder how you are going on,do not forget that there are a lot of people out here that care even if we are in the virtual world there are people at the other end of the screen.

GobbledyGook

I wouldn't even respond. You extended an olive branch to your sister and she has basically ignored it and jumped in with wanting to see Wiglet. She is very obviously, imo, still very much under your mother's control. She's not really your sister atm, she's still simply an extension of your mother.

Also Wiggy you might want to edit your post as you've used Wiglet's name

theoretica

I would be tempted to be blunt but clear as you do miss your sister. Glad to hear from you. Only Wigwitch is not allowed any contact. How are you, Nan, Nephew? I would also use Wigwitch's full name - Jane Smith or whatever rather than what you used to call her. Makes it clear there is no longer a relationship between you.

wiggywoo9

I put a chirpy reply- We are both doing fantastic, thanks, things are going so well! I hope NEPHEW had a great birthday and enjoyed his presents and you liked yours! Only WAGWITCH is denied contact. Have you found a place of your own? Remember you saying you were looking!


That sounded okay to me, I didn't not want to reply cos it feels like I'm slinking away scared else