Husband just told me he's lost his job!

Maureen43

Yikes. Having been lied to myself for a number of years I am in no doubt that there is more to this than has been revealed to date.

Op, I hate to add more to your burden, but is it possible that he was in fact sacked from his job?

Dimey

I've been offline for a few days with a power cut from the storm. Just caught up with posts for Missing Lincs.

I agree with Paddy's Mum. I can't buy into the "let bygones be bygones" approach because OP's OH just announced the end result but didn't tell OP why or the extent and is refusing to cooperate.

Letting bygones be bygones is no marriage, especially if it expects OP to live in fear about the extent of the debts, whether the house will be repossessed and maybe even bankruptcy. The problem has to be faced.

Missing Lincs - have you ring fenced the families financial position yet? Is OH cooperative yet?

kittendothroar

I am not sure how much advice or help I can give but an ex fiancee quit his job and didn't tell me, or anyone for a month. I was so hurt when he eventually came clean and he just couldn't grasp why I was so angry - he laughed it off!! We were supposed to be saving for a house babies etc and it really hurt. He had no troubles he just didn't like it and smugly thought he would walk straight into another job, it naturally didn't happen and that's when he came clean.

TBH whilst we did stay together another year or so, it really shook our relationship to the core, and if it hadn't been that I'd fallen ill not long after and didn't have energy to leave him, we would have split not long after I am sure. In all the fall out its one of the reasons I cite to causing my mini breakdown and becoming neurotic with money!

I would see a solicitor asap and make him talk things through.

tgroom57

I haven't read all 5 pages so apologies if this duplicates some of what was said.

http://www.entitledto.co.uk/
to find out what you can claim.
Off the top of my head I would be looking at getting a tax refund pronto from the tax office. He worked April and some of May and would have paid tax. That can be refunded - the sooner the better.

Working tax credits for you ?
Reduction on your council tax, possibly.

Claim for unemployment benefit - if he left without good reason they will disqualify him for a certain time. If he'd claimed soon after he'd left he'd be getting it now. Used to be there was a contribution based jobseekers allowance, if he'd been in regular employment for a few years. He'll only find out if he claims.

Professional? Get him to join Linked In & create a profile there. Get recommendations from previous employment / colleagues as a first step towards references. January is a hiring season so get joined up with all the likely recruiters before then.

This week's weekly email has a good mobile phone contract deal.

Good luck !

tgroom57

FatVonD wrote: »

If things were so bad at work has he looked into claiming for constructive dismissal?

Constructive dismissal would have been ok if he'd actioned it within 3 months of leaving.

lbs2320

On a practical note, OP needs to get advice in respect of her equity as there is a chance the husband could be made Bankrupt over one of the existing credit card debts.

Tiddlywinks

tgroom57 wrote: »

I haven't read all 5 pages so apologies if this duplicates some of what was said.

If you had read further then you would have seen that the OP hasn't posted for over 2 weeks... in fact, she doesn't appear to have been online here since 27th October... and the last comment before yours was a week ago.

I'd say we might as well let this thread slip away... unless the OP comes back for a chat.

paddy's_mum

I'm hoping that Missing Lincs is still coming on under her 'real' user name so that she at least can avail herself of some of the very good and practical advice given here.

OP, if you are still reading - my very best wishes to you.