Is he being kind or deceitful?

suejb2

Well exert some of your dominance and demand the truth from him. I've gone from
A) Kindness
Walk-over
C) Child involved
D) Blackmail

Serendipitious

I wouldn't spend much more time in this situation.

Decide what you really really want from a life partner and then look for it elsewhere.

Otherwise he can entangle you in this dilemma indefinitely.

FBaby

How did you get to know about the money? How did the conversation go to lead to him telling you? Or did you find our about it somehow, asked for an explanation and that's what he came up with? Surely you find it of that he would send REGULAR amount of money to someone just out of the kindness of his heart?

FBaby

oh and how did it end? Did you say you had enough of this wierd arrangement and wanes out and he said ok and had gone quiet since?

paddy's_mum

Emoticon wrote: »

thought it was just a bit of casual kinky sex fun......but we have moved on to something deeper and more loving.

D'ya want my view?

He still thinks it was lighthearted. You don't think the same thing.

He is paying for SOMETHING.

There is only one way forward - the two of you need, desperately, to talk and be truthful with one another..

Is your complicity, your not wanting to rock the boat, the sexual need of the pair of you in some way contributing to his/your "farce"

Kinkiness or no, NO realtionship can survive for long without bedrock honesty.

Mojisola

Emoticon wrote: »

He is sub and I am Domme.

In that case, when Alice phones next time, get him to put the call on speaker and listen in.

Person_one

Errata wrote: »

I'm out, it's just not my night for peering under bridges.

Is it just me or have there been a lot of bridges going up the last few weeks?

Emoticon

LannieDuck wrote: »

My vote's child support for a teenager. If she had a child about age 40, it's perfectly possible he could still be paying support and occasionally having long chats with said teenager on phone.

I don't think the fact he's a sub has anything to do with it.

The only relevance to the fact that he is sub, is that I have more physical evidence he isn't being unfaithful.
If he had a teenage child I wouldn't mind in the least. There is no reason for him to have lied about that.

Wilma33

Alice aside, why have neither of you met ANY of the others friends and family in three years?? That cries out something isn't right. Even if you were with someone initially, you are not now.

Emoticon

suejb2 wrote: »

Well exert some of your dominance and demand the truth from him. I've gone from
A) Kindness
Walk-over
C) Child involved
D) Blackmail

Yes as his Domme I could make demands but I wouldn't want to base a long term relationship on anything that was extracted in that way.
If he doesn't love me enough I walk away, I don't demand insincere affection. It doesn't work like that