Is he being kind or deceitful?

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Mojisola wrote: »

In that case, when Alice phones next time, get him to put the call on speaker and listen in.

Of course, I could do that, but then I would be to blame if she had that nervous breakdown, wouldn't I?

Its his issue and unless he resolves it, I stay away

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Quizzical_Squirrel wrote: »

Nope. The ship sailed on the period of sentimental caring a long, long time ago. This is something else.

If you are really sure he's not still in a relationship with her and they don't have children together then the only thing left is to consider why he still wants to be linked to this woman.

Make no mistake, he wants to be tied to this woman for some reason. She may be just using him for money but this is his choice.

He's either still carrying a torch and/or he's enjoying being in a position of power that keeps him in her life.

I wouldn't have anything to do with this situation. This man's got unresolved psychological issues that will flare up sooner or later.

His reason for still being "tied" to her is because she was a partner who is vulnerable, ill, hard-up and using him as an emotional support,

But I do take your other points on board

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Wilma33 wrote: »

Alice aside, why have neither of you met ANY of the others friends and family in three years?? That cries out something isn't right. Even if you were with someone initially, you are not now.

All my side know about him but are still somewhat on the side of my ex, so I haven't forced any introductions until now as we didn't expect the relationship would develop into a partnership.

Also the BDSM aspect means I don't tend to introduce my subs to my family/friends!!

I suspect that until recently he felt he didn't want to admit he had a Domme but he was willing to introduce me to family as a gf (Just not to Alice!)

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Person_one wrote: »

Is it just me or have there been a lot of bridges going up the last few weeks?

I assure you I am no troll.
I am very grateful for the input most of the poster have made, its helping me think this whole issue through.
Believe what you want. Dommes aren't all just fantasies you know!

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Emoticon wrote: »

The only relevance to the fact that he is sub, is that I have more physical evidence he isn't being unfaithful.

Ok, admittedly I know nothing about this particular practice, but I don't understand how you can be certain he isn't cheating...What "physical evidence"? Is he chained to the radiator 24/7? Is he wearing a chastity belt only you have the key to? I'm probably being incredibly naive here but I don't get it...lol

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Person_one wrote: »

Is it just me or have there been a lot of bridges going up the last few weeks?

I assure you I am no troll.
I am very grateful for the input most of the poster have made, its helping me think this whole issue through.
Believe what you want. Dommes aren't all just fantasies you know!

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*max* wrote: »

Ok, admittedly I know nothing about this particular practice, but I don't understand how you can be certain he isn't cheating...What "physical evidence"? Is he chained to the radiator 24/7? Is he wearing a chastity belt only you have the key to? I'm probably being incredibly naive here but I don't get it...lol

Yes he is locked into a chastity device for which I hold the key. I didn't really want to spell it out on here but as you asked!!

*max*

Emoticon wrote: »

Yes he is locked into a chastity device for which I hold the key. I didn't really want to spell it out on here but as you asked!!

:eek: I was only joking!

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Quizzical_Squirrel wrote: »

Do you know what kind of illness Alice has?

Is it physical or mental? Is is likely to have relapses or deteriorate?

Alice seems to pick up anything that's going, flu, viruses etc and she is emotionally weak suffering from stress and anxiety. Has had a couple of accidents.....I don't know more detail than that.

He just tells me that telling her he has a new partner would "break her"

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FBaby wrote: »

Oh and how can he be certain that SHE is not in a romantic relationship? Or is it a case of she can but he can't?

He once said he'd like to surprise her to see if he caught her out cheating on HIM!! Then he could end the friendship with a clear conscience....