Is he being kind or deceitful?

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Emoticon wrote: »

Oh it can be fun....you should try it!!lol
:rotfl:

Think I'll pass! Imagine if you lose the key...awkward conversation with the locksmith or what...

hazyjo

I think the fact you 'skype' speaks volumes. Who does that in a relationship unless long distance? You'd speak on the phone. I used to chat with friends on messenger most nights. I met a bloke online who said he was single.

He always rang me from a mobile as he said his calls were paid for, we spoke every day, several times a day, and during the evening after talking on messenger, he said he rented a house (which he did) and didn't have a landline, after around four months, I stayed at his house (in Lancs), we had a holiday booked to Turkey, a break in Cornwall... then I got a call from the wife when I was out getting a sarnie one lunchtime!

Yes, he was still married. No, they hadn't had sex while I'd been seeing him (she confirmed that), yes they had a child who lived with them (knew he had a son), it was all a total mess. And that's coming from me who's usually quite cynical, very astute, not hugely trusting...

Do you honestly ring him when you choose to? During the week? Every night? Look for a pattern.

Alice may be the child rather than the mother.

As the others have said, get him to put her on loudspeaker.

My first husband had an ex-wife. He still paid the mortgage, she lived there, he lived at his sister's in a cramped house with three kids, he would put flatpack together for her, paint her walls, drove her and her mate to the airport for a holiday... even found a pack of condoms once in her drawer but still did everythiing for her. I said it changed or we were over. Apparently it did - it certainly seemed to - but when we split up six years later, someone told me he was still in touch with her regularly. She used to ring his work.

You know something doesn't add up - you're just not sure what it is.

TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS. They're nearly always right. Do a bit of sleuthing.

Jx

paulineb_2

I agree, trust your instincts. As for Alice, who knows who she is to this man, its the other stuff thats the problem, the lies, the secrecy. I also agree, being in a BDSM relationship doesnt stop you introducing someone as a bf or gf.

And stop making excuses for this man, hes behaving appallingly.

aileth

TeamLowe wrote: »

There is such a thing as a financial dominatrix. men all over the world send women they've never even met substantial amounts of money, gifts, pay their rent, pay their bills. Sometimes these women don't even do anything return - no contact, no pictures. they just take the money cos the blokes get off on giving them the money, in some cases leaving them destitute.

It's nice work if you can get it :cool:

I'd suggest that Alice is one and the fella is lying because he doesn't want to admit that he has two Mistresses. She calls to tell him what a naughty boy he is and to send her more money. OP can't hear this and he pretends she's this weak ex girlfriend who can't let go of him.

What the chuff? How does one sign up for this?! :rotfl:

tea_lover

aileth wrote: »

What the chuff? How does one sign up for this?! :rotfl:

Just what I was thinking. I'd be great at this, and I hate my current job :rotfl:. Sounds perfect!

FBaby

I'd suggest that Alice is one and the fella is lying because he doesn't want to admit that he has two Mistresses. She calls to tell him what a naughty boy he is and to send her more money. OP can't hear this and he pretends she's this weak ex girlfriend who can't let go of him.

This or that

Alice may be the child rather than the mother.

What I don't get is that either way, if he has big secret he wants to keep, why mention the money paid, unless OP found out by another mean.

lostinrates

hazyjo wrote: »

I think the fact you 'skype' speaks volumes. Who does that in a relationship unless long distance? You'd speak on the phone. I used to .

Um.....

Me and DH. DH and his family, me and my friends....

Skype is free, international or any phone bills are not.

paulineb_2

FBaby wrote: »

This or that


What I don't get is that either way, if he has big secret he wants to keep, why mention the money paid, unless OP found out by another mean.

Maybe because hes a !!!! and wants to upset her?

God only knows.

TeamLowe

tea_lover wrote: »

Just what I was thinking. I'd be great at this, and I hate my current job :rotfl:. Sounds perfect!

if you google it (not on work computer obviously lol) the first hit is a daily mail article from a lady who makes $3-5k a month EXCLUDING GIFTS and she says how she got into it

paulineb_2

I actually dont think Alice is blackmailing him, what would be the point?
If shes got info on him that his family wouldnt want to know she could share that at any time and the fact that hes advertised on a special interest website doesnt sound like the actions of someone who is desperate to hide that hes into BDSM