Is he being kind or deceitful?

Tropez

Judi wrote: »

Are you not afraid she would prefer it to the real thing?

Well although I don't let myself get locked up, there's a few things she does like to do that even Asimo can't currently replicate, so I'll still have my uses.

Once Honda do make a robot that can do them though, then I have problems...

*max*

Errata wrote: »

This comment has had me waiting for the white vinegar and bicarb to make an appearance. No luck so far, but there's time yet. :whistle:

You know when you just have to google something and then wish you hadn't? Yup.

Tropez

paulineb wrote: »

She didnt really say anything about investment, I think if the story is real that she loves him.

But he sounds a tad messed up to say the least.

Yeah, I was being light-hearted more than anything else because of the comment about posting stuff like this on MSE. Folks into BDSM may also be into saving money, after all

But even ignoring the financial investment, it's still an investment of time and emotions. Some relationships end and you still value that investment because of what you have learned and gained from the relationship, others break down and you think about what a waste of your time the whole thing was and I'm sure some people consider their time to be valuable.

Errata

*max* wrote: »

You know when you just have to google something and then wish you hadn't? Yup.

I googled it and all I got was a load of pictures of flapping washing on clotheslines

FBaby

OP what are you looking for here? Did you really believe that your partner was just being a kind person? If we said that he was, would you have been in touch with him? What puzzles me is that you don't seem that heartbroken that he hasn't contacted you. Did you love him? Do you still do? Are you hoping he will contact you and give you a proper explanation so you can restart your relationship or have you officially turned the page?

You seem to want the focus to be on the relationship rather than your sexual kinks, but your relationship doesn't make sense at all so it is very difficult to give an opinion on it.

Tropez

Errata wrote: »

I googled it and all I got was a load of pictures of flapping washing on clotheslines

If you click the button in the corner of your Google images page marked "Safesearch" you can fix that

Hermia

Tropez wrote: »

Well although I don't let myself get locked up, there's a few things she does like to do that even Asimo can't currently replicate, so I'll still have my uses.

Once Honda do make a robot that can do them though, then I have problems...

Indeed, sex toys don't tend to be very good at catching spiders and getting lids off jam jars so I think you are safe.

System

Hermia wrote: »

Indeed, sex toys don't tend to be very good at catching spiders and getting lids off jam jars so I think you are safe.

A pair of 'love eggs' as a paperweight?

'Anal beads' for the Christmas tree?

C0ck ring - glorified elastic band?

The sky is the limit.:D

lostinrates

ap1986 wrote: »

I think that, if we're all honest, we're all treating it as bit of a joke but want to offer advice so as to seem sincere.... And to encourage the OP to divulge more information

Tbc, I was not treating the subject as a joke.

You never know if any poster is genuine or not, but sexuality will be relevant to others. While I see no need to be po faced about any sexuality I don't want to ridicule any ones choices but my own, which I often find laighable:)

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Last night he and I had a long heart to heart phone call.
He has promised he is:
A.going to tell his brother about me today (during an existing planned event). He will tell him we met through internet dating (well almost true) and delay in revealing my existence was because initially I was still wed and he was unsure where it would lead (partly true).
B. He has called Alice and has pressed her for a meeting (he wants to break the news face to face rather than phone/letter). Though she hasn't agreed when, as she "isn't well at the moment"

If he is the genuine one it may be that she fears the withdrawal of his financial support if they meet and so she's going to try and string him along. (Though if he does or doesn't stop paying her is irrelevant to me) He says if she does keep delaying, he will albeit reluctantly tell her over the phone.

Of course IF he isn't genuine, like everyone else seems to think, then he knows our relationship is over.

I have a final deadline of Christmas - after that I am out of it.

I do love him but not unconditionally - I will stand my ground.

The next time we meet (if we do) it will be with his brother there. He assures me he is proud of me and feels his family will be pleased he has a loving partner to replace Alice who they think is "odd"!! (lol) Well they haven't seen her for 6 years!

I will update as things develop but due to the direction this thread has taken I don't particularly want to muddy the waters any further. Thanks to those that believed me.
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