Is he being kind or deceitful?

lostinrates

Emoticon wrote: »

OK lets take a scenario......Young lady meets gentleman (my sub for example) They get down to business.....what is he going to say about wearing a cage he cant escape from. "Oh dont worry luv......we'll just snog...you dont mind that I have a partner that controls my orgasms do ya?" "I'm pretty skilled with other parts of my body....because I know you dont care that I have committed my crown jewels to someone else" "Its you I really fancy"

I dont know many women who would accept that situation.

Of course my sub might be a treasure to me....but I dont think many other women would accept that. Well unless they were sub too;)

And thats a whole other situation!

But maybe yes, I might be thinking this way because I am inexperienced?? Who knows:)

You might not know many women who would get off on that situation....yet you hold your self up as a rare breed. I think some women would find it was Just their kink. And he only need the one......and its just the one in question, surely? Forbidden fruit are recurrent themes in erotism, and dislike of penetration is not wholly unheard of. You yourself didn't find being committed to someone else an issue.

Now, supposing its a telephone relationship with Alice or the 'emotional affair' scenario, even more possible.

lostinrates

Person_one wrote: »

I think the whole thread is here for a laugh.

I'm pretty sure real BDSM enthusiasts don't think of MSE as the first place to come to with their relationship issues!

In my experience they're usually pretty upfront and frank too, they don't act coy and secretive and play the game of dropping unsubtle hints until they 'reluctantly' reveal the big secret.

I am certain plenty of MSEers dabble in bdsm to certain degrees, but I agree, their are lots of places where relationships (kink respected and understood) could be discussed without OP feeling misunderstood. Or at least understanding that everyone knew what bdsm was. That's why I suggested it earlier.

Continuing down this line seemed ...at best a surefire way to get disappointing or frustrating replies.

Emoticon

Ooooh I LOVE the "Miss whiplash" ICON, please tell me how to get it/use it????

Emoticon

lostinrates wrote: »

I am certain plenty of MSEers dabble in bdsm to certain degrees, but I agree, their are lots of places where relationships (kink respected and understood) could be discussed without OP feeling misunderstood. Or at least understanding that everyone knew what bdsm was. That's why I suggested it earlier.

Continuing down this line seemed ...at best a surefire way to get disappointing or frustrating replies.

Replies that are constructive are welcome and thanked.

I need to reiterate, I posted for relationship advice not BDSM advice. I wouldnt post on a BDSM site as sub would be likely to find it and recognise our situation. Whereas on this site (with which I am familiar) is one that has a relationship section....and he probably wouldnt be reading it.

And yes there is some frustration but there have been some gratefully received nuggets (including some lovely PMs from people who can expand their minds to actually believe me - thankyou xx) for which I am very grateful

TeamLowe

lostinrates wrote: »

You might not know many women who would get off on that situation....yet you hold your self up as a rare breed. I think some women would find it was Just their kink. And he only need the one......and its just the one in question, surely? Forbidden fruit are recurrent themes in erotism, and dislike of penetration is not wholly unheard of. You yourself didn't find being committed to someone else an issue.

Now, supposing its a telephone relationship with Alice or the 'emotional affair' scenario, even more possible.

Dislike of penis in vagina sex does not necessarily mean dislike of penetration those who have had fun with Google this afternoon might like to look up 'pegging'...

lostinrates

TeamLowe wrote: »

Dislike of penis in vagina sex does not necessarily mean dislike of penetration those who have had fun with Google this afternoon might like to look up 'pegging'...

Well, sure, that's possible too......:). My point really was that cheating was!

poet123

Emoticon wrote: »

I have an illness that means I have to wear a chastity device? lol.....she would have to be well naive:T

Yes, because you can only have sex with all your clothes off!!;)

lostinrates

Emoticon wrote: »

Replies that are constructive are welcome and thanked.

I need to reiterate, I posted for relationship advice not BDSM advice. I wouldnt post on a BDSM site as sub would be likely to find it and recognise our situation. Whereas on this site (with which I am familiar) is one that has a relationship section....and he probably wouldnt be reading it.

And yes there is some frustration but there have been some gratefully received nuggets (including some lovely PMs from people who can expand their minds to actually believe me - thankyou xx) for which I am very grateful

Well. Good luck....:)

*max*

Emoticon wrote: »

Ooooh I LOVE the "Miss whiplash" ICON, please tell me how to get it/use it????

http://www.wetcanvas.com/Community/images/25-Jul-2009/22284-whip.gif

Then you paste that link into the "insert image" box in the tools menu above the comment box.

But you have to promise to use your new power only for Good!

TeamLowe

lostinrates wrote: »

Well, sure, that's possible too......:). My point really was that cheating was!

Oh definitely, I just like learning words for unusual things and then sharing them with the group