How much to pay mum in rent?

quidsy

Maybe they were hoping that with your dad struggling to get work that you might contribute a bit more in order to be a dutiful daughter.

If I offered my mum 25 a week should would have laughed in my face & like you I worked long hours & did my own washing etc. At the end of the day you are presumably using the electricty & power for your shoers, washing, to make your crafts etc, offer at least double that or try finding a room share for less elsewhere.

RAS

One of the things that struck me in your first post is that you behave like a lodger not like a member of the family; you do not eat together or sit together in the evenings or wash your clothes at the same time.

So two lots of meals have to be made and two lots of washing done and two lots of washing up.

if you cooked one meal in three and ate with your parents and helped with washing for the whole household, your mother might fell different.

If you ask you may find that on your mother's income she could claim benefits to support herself and dad, but that having you at home prevents this.

So my starting point would be:

1.The non-dependent adult contribution for LHA/HB/MIA for someone if your income to cover Ct and housing.
2. one thid of the cost of utilities bills. No harm in mentioning that one of the reasons you are reluctant about this is that their usage is very high.

I would pay the first one third contribution by getting an energy monitor and installing it. Explain that when you leave their utility bills will be unsustainably high, then leave it to them to learn.

brooklyn07

emsywoo123 wrote: »

£25 a week?
£3.57 a day?
You actually offered that?

Sorry - thats why i asked on here as clearly i have no clue!

Like i said - i was going by on what bills i was paying at my previous place....

quidsy

How big was yoru old place, a flat,a 3 bed house?

If it was a 1 bed flat & only you living in it then yes, there would be a huge difference in how much it costs to run.

Don't work on previous experience, look at what you use now, the room alone would cost you £50 minimum in a house share depending where you lived, much much more if you were on the London borders. Add in a bit for elect, water & good will & you are looking at around 60-70 a week, that said, your mum would probably accept £50.

Do you not use anything in the house? Never make a cup of tea? Who buys the bags? or milk from the fridge, bread, the odd egg or tin of soup from their cupboard. be honest with yourself & have a little think about the small things that add up.

brooklyn07

quidsy wrote: »

How big was yoru old place, a flat,a 3 bed house?

If it was a 1 bed flat & only you living in it then yes, there would be a huge difference in how much it costs to run.

Don't work on previous experience, look at what you use now, the room alone would cost you £50 minimum in a house share depending where you lived, much much more if you were on the London borders. Add in a bit for elect, water & good will & you are looking at around 60-70 a week, that said, your mum would probably accept £50.

Do you not use anything in the house? Never make a cup of tea? Who buys the bags? or milk from the fridge, bread, the odd egg or tin of soup from their cupboard. be honest with yourself & have a little think about the small things that add up.

I never use anything that isnt mine no - not even the odd egg /teabag here and there - infact i supply the eggs for my family to use as my friend has chickens and i buy the eggs from her cheaper than in the supermarkets and nicer!

I buy biscuits for the whole family and as my mum and dad only have white bread i always buy my own brown bread which my mum and dad will sometimes use too.

But no i can honestly say i never use anything of theirs. I forgot to mention that i buy the toothpaste and loo rolls and soap for everyone to use too - but i know that doesnt cost much.

Sorry other things i didnt mention - my mum cleans the house once a week from top to bottom and i help out with my share - i know this should be expected of me anyway but i didnt want people to think i dont help out at all.
Always fix the PC when it goes wrong - again i know this probably doesnt mean much but saves them a headache when mum needs to send out invoices.

But no thats fair enough i have no idea about current rental costs as last time i rented was about ten years ago whcih cost me £150 a month bills all included.

I'm in wales if that helps and last house was small size 2 bed.

angelsmomma

My lodger lives like you and buys all his own food. He pays £350 a month for this. We live in a town in the North.

Look on spareroom . com and put the postcode in, that will give you an idea of the going rate for lodgers.

midnight_express

I used to pay my Mum £140 a month, that was in the 1980's.

claire16c

lika_86 wrote: »

Why could that end up being ridiculous? The OP, if not living at home, would have had to pay for at least a room in a house share elsewhere.

And the price for a room in a house share in a similar property shouldn't be more than the mortgage just because of simple maths. The cost to rent one room (in a house share) wouldn't be enough to pay off a mortgage on the same property otherwise people would just buy them.

The point it, this isn't about how much the OP costs, if (s)he wasn't there then her parents would be in by the sounds of it, almost the same position, this is about her parents struggling.

Personally, if it was me I'd offer everything I could afford if I thought it would help my family.

But she's not living in a house share where the idea is that a profit is made, she's living at home.

Why on earth would anyone do buy to let's if it didn't make them money?

There are landlords all over the country raking in profits.

Not to mention lots of people with older children will have paid a large percentage of their mortgages off. If I paid my parents the room share rate it would be around £500. Their mortgage is smaller than that.

My old boss who lived in a huge 5 bed detached house was horrified that her assistants were paying around £700 a month to live in shared houses when her mortgage each month was less than that, and she was earning 3 times as much.

Soleil_lune

£35-40 a week, or say, a quarter of your wages

Also, depends (as many have said,) how much your family needs and how much you have spare...

HappyMJ

I don't think £25 anywhere in the UK is reasonable for a bedroom including bills. I'd start by offering £60 being a quarter of minimum wages expect a negotiation regarding the figure and probably settle on £80 being a third of minimum wages. If I earnt more I'd be offering a little more initially.