How much to pay mum in rent?

Person_one

lika_86 wrote: »

The cost to rent one room (in a house share) wouldn't be enough to pay off a mortgage on the same property otherwise people would just buy them.

I don't think you quite understand why people rent their properties out! I could get more than 2.5 times my mortgage if I rented my place out, rents include profit!

The OP has moved home to save for a deposit, so I would assume that her parents approve of this plan and wouldn't want to take more than necessary so that it can still go ahead.

OP, you need to sit down together and work out how much they're coming up short and how much you're costing them so you can agree on something between you.

duchy

I assume you want your parents to treat you like an adult....eg no curfew or having to explain where you are going...who with etc

If that is the case then shouldn't you be acting like an adult financially and offer a third of utilities, council tax, TV licence plus food -and a bit extra for the niceness of not coming home to an empty house but to a welcome....and any odd bits your Mum does for you....lifts, washing, including you in family meals at weekends or whatever.

As living elsewhere would cost you a lot more .....perhaps you need to give a bit. If the household income has dropped perhaps you should even consider paying more than is fair....after all they are the people who presumably raised you for 18 years and paid for everything....just a thought
How much are you offering and how much does your Mum think is fair ? (I know it was asked before but you haven't said which implies you think your offer may be a bit low?)

duchy

I assume you want your parents to treat you like an adult....eg no curfew or having to explain where you are going...who with etc

If that is the case then shouldn't you be acting like an adult financially and offer a third of utilities, council tax, TV licence plus food -and a bit extra for the niceness of not coming home to an empty house but to a welcome....and any odd bits your Mum does for you....lifts, washing, including you in family meals at weekends or whatever.

As living elsewhere would cost you a lot more .....perhaps you need to give a bit. If the household income has dropped perhaps you should even consider paying more than is fair....after all they are the people who presumably raised you for 18 years and paid for everything....just a thought
How much are you offering and how much does your Mum think is fair ? (I know it was asked before but you haven't said which implies you think your offer may be a bit low?)

brooklyn07

Thanks all.

I moved back home in may - was still paying the mortgage on my previous place until beginning of August.

I offered £25 a week as i was going off how much my bills cost me in my previous place for electric and water but as mentioned there is no gas at my mums and heating is done via wood burning which is free for them.
My electric only really cost me around £8 a week - sometimes less when i was working late. we had an energy monitor so i could see what i was spending.

She knows im desperately saving for my own place so i dont have to be there for that much longer hopefully

Their electric bill is £100 a month which seems really high in comparison to what i used to use! But what annoys me is they wont help themselves in trying to save on the electric bill - they leave the TV on in the kitchen all day long even though no one is in the house! They also leave it on in the eveining when they have retired to the lounge to watch tv in there which makes no sense to me!
They leave the outside lights on all night for security as well as the landing light and they leave all the downstairs lights on in the kitchen and utility room when they are in the lounge which is at the other end of the house.

This morning i popped back upstairs before i left for work and my mum had left the bathroom light and shower light on so switched them off too...

The main computer stays on 24/7 - they dont even turn the screen off

So i go around behind them turning everything off and they switch it back on again :-S

I just feel like they are trying to get me to contribute to their high bill when they wont change their lifestyle by trying to cut back and just thought it was a little unfair seeing as i was completely the opposite when i lived at my other place.

I did say last night that they should perhaps start cutting back by stop leaving the computer, tv and lights on but the response was "those things dont use much electricity"....

kelpie35

It is their home and they are the ones who make the rules as far as I am concerned.

I think to offer them only £25 is a bit disrespectful IMHO.

They are giving you a roof over your head, which I am sure you are grateful for, but I would be embarrassed offering that amount.

I think at least double that amount would show your appreciation for what they doing for you.

thriftylass

I agree, it's not necessarily about the cost you cause them (btw it's their house, their leccy bill, yes they could save but...). It's about a fair contribution to a roof over your head in general not how many kWh of electricity you used like it would maybe be in a shared house with strangers. As said before it also depends how much you earn. If you earn let's say 1500 than £25 a week is embarrassing. Also you assume to only pay for utilities like electricity what about the room itself despite that being you old kids room.

brooklyn07

duchy wrote: »

I assume you want your parents to treat you like an adult....eg no curfew or having to explain where you are going...who with etc

If that is the case then shouldn't you be acting like an adult financially and offer a third of utilities, council tax, TV licence plus food -and a bit extra for the niceness of not coming home to an empty house but to a welcome....and any odd bits your Mum does for you....lifts, washing, including you in family meals at weekends or whatever.

As living elsewhere would cost you a lot more .....perhaps you need to give a bit. If the household income has dropped perhaps you should even consider paying more than is fair....after all they are the people who presumably raised you for 18 years and paid for everything....just a thought
How much are you offering and how much does your Mum think is fair ? (I know it was asked before but you haven't said which implies you think your offer may be a bit low?)

I dont have a curfew luckily but they do like to know where i am every minute of the day - if im ten minutes late they panick and keep phoning until i answer :-)

Dont have lifts off them, dont have meals with them, do my own washing

But no thats fair enough - thats why i asked on here as i thought it was enough but obviously not.

comeandgo

£25 a week, thats £100 per month - my goodness thats nothing - far too low - if you left and your parents took in a lodger then how much would they get? You should base your rent on that - I cant believe you are expecting them to keep you for £25 a week.

emsywoo123

£25 a week?
£3.57 a day?
You actually offered that?

Gillyx

Far too low, on a full time salary. If you don't like the way they run there electricity, move out. This is coming from someone who is temporarily living back at home at the moment.