How much to pay mum in rent?

brooklyn07

Long story short i've had to move back in with my mum and dad a few months ago - saving for a deposit and should have saved up enough soon to buy my own house.

Anyway so far my mum has been amazing and has let me stay there rent free as i was still paying the mortgage on my previous place, but now my dad is struggling with work and she needs some financial contribution which is totally fair enough.

How much do you think is fair? I didnt spend much in the way of bills at my last house as i was very economical with the heating/food/gas so i think she was expecting a little more with the figure i suggested.

I leave the house at 7.30am and return at around 9pm most nights and 11pm other nights.

On the nights that im home at 11pm i dont cook anything to eat just go straight to bed as i eat at work.

On the nights im home at 9 i cook my tea, then i start on orders (i make hand painted things outside of my main job) and go to bed.

I only have my bedroom - dont use any other rooms except bathroom and kitchen obviously but i dont lounge around in the living room as its their room and they like to chill out in their in the evenings which is fair enough so i literally just have my bedroom as my own space.

So what i'm trying to say is i dont use much in the way of electricity.

I buy all my own food and washing powder, do my own washing, clear up after myself etc etc

They dont have gas/oil heating we have a log burner which heats the house and the wood is free so no expenses for heating.

So - how much do you think is a fair contribution per week?

sassyblue

£40-£50 per week?

Mojisola

How much did you offer?

Carer

A fair way of looking at it would be to check the current price of a room in a shared house in your area - where I live it's about £75 week including bills.
Then add a bit for food - I'd expect around £25, so a probable total of around £100 week if you lived elsewhere.

claire16c

Carer wrote: »

A fair way of looking at it would be to check the current price of a room in a shared house in your area - where I live it's about £75 week including bills.
Then add a bit for food - I'd expect around £25, so a probable total of around £100 week if you lived elsewhere.

That could end up being a bit ridiculous.

A shared room where I live is about £500 a month. Could be £700 odd in London.

That might be more than her mums mortgage!!

OP I think you should just ask your parents what they think and see if you agree. It's different for each family.

Mojisola

As you're hardly ever at home and buy all your own food and do your cooking and washing, I wouldn't expect very much off you.

How long have you been living with your parents without paying anything? Maybe you could offer a bit more than you think you're costing them to say thank you for those months?

dancingfairy

Some people pay a third of their wages in keep.
Was what you suggested and what your mum wanted a long way apart? Can you split the difference and meet in the middle?
Compromise and talking seem to be the way forward here.
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lika_86

claire16c wrote: »

That could end up being a bit ridiculous.

A shared room where I live is about £500 a month. Could be £700 odd in London.

That might be more than her mums mortgage!!

OP I think you should just ask your parents what they think and see if you agree. It's different for each family.

Why could that end up being ridiculous? The OP, if not living at home, would have had to pay for at least a room in a house share elsewhere.

And the price for a room in a house share in a similar property shouldn't be more than the mortgage just because of simple maths. The cost to rent one room (in a house share) wouldn't be enough to pay off a mortgage on the same property otherwise people would just buy them.

The point it, this isn't about how much the OP costs, if (s)he wasn't there then her parents would be in by the sounds of it, almost the same position, this is about her parents struggling.

Personally, if it was me I'd offer everything I could afford if I thought it would help my family.

geoffky

Pay what your financial situation and conscience will allow...
It will never be enough.

thriftylass

Are you still paying the other mortgage, how much do you earn and much would your mum like you to pay vs what yoy offered?

Person_one

geoffky wrote: »

It will never be enough.