The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

Wonder_Woman

cwtw wrote: »

Went for dinner with a friend yesterday who got pregnant by accident (although with her husband, so not some random). She knows I've been ttc for a while, although not the full gory details, and said You should go to France for a holiday and just relax. Worked for us.
I don't think I've ever felt like slapping a pregnant lady before, but there is a first time for everything.
Just putting it out there....Rant over.

^^ This.

We have only told two very close friends (couples) about the IVF and even one of them told us smugly over lunch this weekend that they are pregnant...(again...only took a month...we weren't even trying really...blah blah blah!!!!!) How I did not walk out I will never know.

I know we can't expect everyone to put their lives on hold because of our problems but seriously? :mad::mad::mad: Have some consideration people. What next? My 55 year old mother telling me that I'm going to have another sibling? Grrrrrrr!

Derby2, great news about your follies - so pleased. Good luck to everyone having scans on Tuesday!:cool:

Rowingirl

Hey Derby don't feel disheartened with 3 follies, you have enough to create a healthy embryo after EC and a baby after ET. It's not over yet . Has your clinic given you any indication about the minimum number of follies they look for?

Babywanted - my DH smokes about 10 ciggies a day too and his sperm count was the highest his GP ever seen :eek:. Smoking doesn't always cause problems (except when DH used it as an excuse to not quit :cool:).

Goodluck PM & T2D with your scans next week.

Hugs vesper. Could you plan a mini-break with your OH for Christmas? Get away from everything and enjoy Christmas with the just two of you.

codemonkey

time2deal wrote: »

Great news Derby. Remember you don't want lots of follies, you just want one baby - so three may be enough. You see people with 20 follies, and no pregnancy, so still looking good.

Re posting on this thread - remember this is is long term TTC thread, not an IVF thread. Which was kind of why I wasn't sure if I should do lists. I don't want people to feel if they aren't on the list they shouldn't be here.

Even if you are still hoping for nature to take over, there is definitely a difference when you have been at it for years. On Babyandbump they have separate forums for TTC, Long Term TTC, over 35 TTC, assisted conception, 2ww, trying after a loss etc etc. Seems far to split up to me! In the end it's all about support whatever stage you are at.

^^ This. I was a bit nervous about coming over because we were still hopeful of a natural miracle, but I needed to be someplace where people weren't coming in and getting their BFPs immediately. Also somewhere I can be cynical, because I no longer feel the excitement that girls on the TTC thread quite rightly feel. Now that we've discovered that its not possible, I need you girls going through IVF to post about what you're going through and give me hope.

Went to see my friend's newborn today. I'd expected to be sad but I was ok. He's very small, cute and lovely and we had some lovely cuddles. They didn't ask when we were having one which was good, but there was some comments about getting pregnant first go, which was a bit... grr. Then we went out for a nice dinner and were the only ones in the place without a baby. We obviously didn't get the "bring a baby to dinner" memo.

tea_lover

Looks like the egg dance has stopped working. CD24 and still no sign of a +ve opk. Even with my irregular cycles the longest over the last year or so (apart from m/c) has been 40ish days, so fingers crossed the egg will finally make an appearance sometime this week.

Still got other symptoms (bad skin, pain in ovary area, desire to slap people).

Hope everyone's doing ok today xx.

fluffnutter

tea_lover wrote: »

Looks like the egg dance has stopped working. CD24 and still no sign of a +ve opk. Even with my irregular cycles the longest over the last year or so (apart from m/c) has been 40ish days, so fingers crossed the egg will finally make an appearance sometime this week.

Still got other symptoms (bad skin, pain in ovary area, desire to slap people).

Hope everyone's doing ok today xx.

So you're saying I'm permanently ovulating?

tea_lover

should have said 'heightened desire to slap people'

time2deal

Stop it ladies! You are making me laugh! I nearly spat my (ginger) tea.

good_vibes

Hi all.
Good news Derby.
Code am with the others, give them a call to see if they have they right contact details or something. Not to worry you, but found out that my referral had been sent to a consultant that had left the clinic more than a year ago. So was lost in transit.
It really is like Marks and spencers speaking to John Lewis. From working in the NHS, I know this.

lilmissmup

time2deal wrote: »

Even if you are still hoping for nature to take over, there is definitely a difference when you have been at it for years. On Babyandbump they have separate forums for TTC, Long Term TTC, over 35 TTC, assisted conception, 2ww, trying after a loss etc etc. Seems far to split up to me! In the end it's all about support whatever stage you are at.

(delurk)

I shouldn't be posting on here yet (lurking though to join next month ) but I am on babyandbump.

It is good in some aspects but I can't bear to go on the two week wait area and the trying to concieve area as its full of people getting pregnant right away or asking stupid questions/posting way too much information pictures!

I do have a journal on there though, its full of woe this cycle, got a family issue stressing me out which is making TTC so much harder right now.....

(relurk)

time2deal

So - day 6 of stims today, and I'm feeling pretty good. Bit of insomnia last night, after being so tired I couldn't stay awake on previous nights. Very frustrating last night at 2.30am, causing minor non-verbal arguments with DH as I tossed and turned!

Of course, when the alarm went off this morning I promptly fell back to sleep and woke up an hour later. Thankfully I build in some extra sleep time into my morning activities, so was just about on time for work.

I've got a nice big spot, and some bloating, but less than last week. From experience the real bloating kicks in towards the end, and I guess gets worse when the progestoerone starts.

Today I have to have a chat with my boss about potential time off next week. Presuming EC is next week, and then ET, I will need a couple of days off although I don't know which ones. I was just going to tell him why, but suddenly I can't face him knowing and then spending the next few weeks wondering on the result. They are lovely here at work, and really care, but that makes it worse in a way. Plus his wife is pregnant with their second, and he already didn't tell me that as he thought it would upset me. I hate being pitied.

Some bad news from my friend doing IVF (who had the same surgery as me). BFN. She is really struggling. Feels so futile - 7 weeks of injections and stress and worry and heartache and money for nothing. Not forgetting the months before of tests and dummy ETs etc. Not even the slightest TLP. Very heartbreaking for them.