The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

SewIt_2

Derby - lots of people talk about the goal being to get lots of follies, but it really isn't. They want to get you a baby, and if you have 3 follies to work with, then so be it. You only need one egg to make a baby. Try not to be so hard on yourself, you are doing great! x

T2D - good luck for your scan. I think the latest they will transfer is day 5, but it really depends on so many factors. My ET was on a a Sat so I also had Sun off, which was nice. I think I would have been ok to go to work though as I found ET very easy. Hugs for being pitied, I hate it too. I really feel for your friend too. And lastly, it must be awful being used as the 'its not as bad as T2D' person on the other thread, that must have really hurt x

Babymomma - I fear my DH and I are uncompatible for baby making too! We are also unexplained and with one failed IVF under our belts, I struggle to see how it will ever work. But I have to hope that it will one day. x

Code - hope you get somewhere private to make the call. x

lilmissmup - hope you never need to join us (in the nicest possible way) x

Rowangirl - how you feeling, stress levels ok? The 2ww is awful. x

I never posted on the other thread, just here and on Fertility Friends. Its a good site, lots of people at different stages of their journey so there is always someone who knows what you are going through.

hi and hugs to everyone that I've missed. This place is so busy right now. Hope it gets quiet soon as we all get our much deserved BFPs :j

Rowingirl

Big hugs derby. It's a horrible feeling when you feel that your chances maybe diminishing. I spent the evening after my final monitoring scan crying on DH as I was convinced I'd have no eggs after EC. This is just one stage in the ultimate goal to have a baby. Please don't feel it's over as you still have a great chance of fertilisation and embies. Fewer eggs can mean better quality eggs. Would your clinic do ICSI to boost your chances of fertilisation? Or are you booked in for that already?

T2D - I think it's based on the number & quality of your embies. I had a 2 day transfer as I had 1 embie and the embryologist didn't want to take any chances. The clinic offered ETs between days 2 to 5 but didn't really list any criteria.

Hi sewit. I'm quite relaxed at the moment as test day feels safely far away. I keep imaging what my embie should be doing each day and hopefully today it will hatch and start implanting (sorry, TMI). I have plenty of progesterone symptoms and am constantly hungry but have some minor pains so trying to reassure myself everything's going well so far. DH is trying to keep me grounded and calm as I've nicknamed my embie already . Ooops!

Floaty

Ranty alert

Hi all, hope you're all well - big fingers crossed for 2wwers

Had a really annoying conversation with an old pal last night. She's a few months older than me (35 next year), very overweight, smokes, no exercise etc. She was excited to tell me that next year she and her husband and planning to have a baby. Not try for a baby, *have* a baby. She wanted to have a night out because soon she won be able to.

She and her husband are going away for Xmas (they're very well off) because next year they won't be able to.

I don't know what makes me crankier - jealousy because I don't feel that happy anticipation that it will happen for us? Fear that it really will be as easy as she expects? (Sods law). Guilt as slightly hoping it's not as easy as that so she learns some blooming humility and sensitivity?

I hate how IF ruins so many nice moments in my life with jealousy and bitterness

Hugs to all xxxx

purcy81

Hugs Derby, heres hoping that they're super eggs for you!

Well I got fed up of being in limbo and have arranged an appointment with my practices gynaecology expert for the 19th of this month. I really hope I can convince them that I've waited long enough for help, even if I can convince them to send me for the cd 3 & 7dpo blood tests I'll feel like at least I'll be a step close to getting some answers. Just scared now that it will be a big dissapointment and they will just ask me to wait some more. I am not above using tears to convince them so we'll see what happens.

hugs to all x

vseviour

Derby, they wouldn't be going ahead if they didn't think you had a chance. Think positive and good luck x

vesper

codemonkey wrote: »

The trouble with calling the clinic is getting some privacy to do it. I work in an open plan office which is so quiet you can hear conversations at the other end of the room. There are never any available meeting rooms and there is nowhere you can go for a private conversation and as I want to ask if they've received DH's SA, its going to be difficult to do without drawing attention. I also have the usual IT dislike of making phone calls - I'd much rather email but they have no address.

That's my problem as well, I can't ring them as I have no privacy. I work out of my parents' house and the only place I get phone reception there is in the hallway next to our office, you can hear every word said. :eek:


How on earth am I keeping patient??? 2 days late. But still feels like AF is on the way, I'll be patient a little longer.

time2deal

Getting super nervous tonight. I'm trying not to, I know being stressed won't help, but I can't help it. Feels like tomorrow is an important scan, and I feel like not enough is going on. Should I be more bloated, more headachy??

I'm going to be a mess if we get to ET stage.

Any got any practical coping tips? I don't want to obsess, but I can't seem to stoop myself googling and reading BnB threads!

Part_Mouse

Derby as the others have said try to be positive it takes just one egg.

T2d no advise I'm afraid, got everything crossed for you.

Afm had a stinking headache all day and off for scan and bloods tommorow. 8 days of injections done now.

fluffnutter

time2deal wrote: »

What are the factors for when ET takes place? It seems to be anything from 2 to 5 days after EC.

It seems to depend on the clinic although there is some consensus about days when it's not a good idea. The fertilised egg goes through a number of stages prior to implantation from zygote through to blastocyst. In a 'normal' pregnancy, the embryo reaches blastocyst before implanting so if you can achieve this you're emulating the natural process as much as possible. A younger embryo is one that is usually still in the fallopian tubes so to introduce it to the womb environment is not technically ideal. However, that's not to say it's not doable - nature is a little more flexible than that.

That aside, there are some days that embryologists shy away from (perhaps days 3 and 4) because the embryo is in a transitional state and wouldn't normally implant on those days.

NB. That's probably not completely accurate - that's just my understanding of it all. Embryology is a pretty complex science IME. Basically a day 5 transfer will be a blastocyst which is a good thing because any egg that's made it that far has shown itself to be robust. That's not to say that an earlier transfer won't be successful, simply that there's less guarantee.

star02

Well the good news is that the drugs are covered in full by clinic!

I was hoping someone may answer what might I fear be a silly question. I know normally if pregnant then 40 weeks start from date of last period, but I am wondering what the starting point is if lucky enough for IVF to work as if I understand correctly the drugs at start extend cycle?

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