The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

Derby2

Yay for Ov Mrs Rogers!

Vesper...£50 is a LOT of money. I always imagined I'd do what my parents did (given the chance) and get one 'big' present and a few small ones. Things like laptops would be spread over a birthday & Christmas.

Teaandcakeordeath : my grandparents have a similar attitude 're: NHS but I give them the benefit of the doubt and put it down to them having seen the introduction of it and still remembering life before it. I found it more difficult to accept the comment that I shouldn't have had time off sick after my miscarriage..

Guess what I did yesterday...my first down regging injection! Exciting and a little bit sad.

Oh, and while here, can I have a moan about my sister? Since the mc, she asks me EVERY time we're together what is going on. I usually mumble something about waiting lists because I don't want the extra pressure of people who are emotionally involved. Yesterday she was asking under her breath at lunch with loads of other people. Why can't she think that at the end of a lovely meal, I may not want to be reminded of one of the most devastating things to happen in my life, and then chat about my general incompetence to have a baby? Tsk

fluffnutter

codemonkey wrote: »

That's nothing. A family member of mine has 3 kids. The oldest two are 15 and 13 and for the past 5 years every Christmas and birthday they've had new top of the range phones, new laptops, ipads, ipods, pedigree puppies and designer clothes . When her third was born and turned out to be a boy, the girls got moved into one room and to compensate them, they got their room redecorated, new furniture, a large tv and new games consoles. I honestly don't know how they afford it because they both have minimum wage jobs.

Me and DH are a bit confused by the need for quite so much all the time. It's resulted in them not treating their stuff with no respect because they know they'll get a new one if they "lose" or break them.

Also the way they behave worries me about motherhood. They're actually lovely girls but they're on Facebook at 2am on schoolnights, the oldest is being brought home drunk by the police and has been caught shoplifting and the youngest is allowed to bleach her hair, have those ear stretcher things and is probably drinking too. They're allowed mixed sleepovers. Me and DH have a bet that one or both will get pregnant before I do.

We've talked it through and we're on the same page about it all so we'll probably be derided as being old fashioned parents - but we believe in bedtimes.

Having said that, I have a lot of friends who are doing the attachment parenting thing and that scares the life out of me too. Some of them are scary about it - and genuinely believe that having your baby sleep in a cot and not be carried around 24/7 means he or she will be scarred for life. I'm hoping we can find a balance between the two. That is, if it ever happens.

1. Bedtimes are not old-fashioned. They're essential for a child's development and essential for parental sanity.

2. You can dip in and out of attachment parenting. Take the bits that work for you, and ignore the rest. In fact, you can do this with any parenting 'methodology'. Don't listen to purists - they're just unrealistic radicals. The only thing that parenting 'experts' have in common is that they all insist that their method is the only one that works. It's nonsense.

3. You'll make a great parent. And it will happen. It might take a while, it might not happen the way you expect, but it will if you want it enough.

Wonder_Woman

Ooh yay for the 2WW PartMouse, excited for you. Halfway to OTD too!!

Derby2 - how do you find the injections? I start sniffing next week. Totally understand about your sister, I am like this with my mother who thinks we should've started trying 10 years ago!! :mad:

T2D I hope you have a good 2 weeks off.

Feeling really rubbish this weekend and convinced its the bl**dy conception tablets that FS told me to take, want to stop them but if this cycle doesn't work would like to at least know I've done all I can

time2deal

Evening ladies. To give me 2 pennethworth on adopting, I would be up for it, but in my situation it's probably not possible. Nothing to do with health (although that won't help) but I'm moving back to Oz, so there isn't time, and I suspect taking a child halfway around the world wouldn't be possible.

In New South Wales state there were 79 adoptions last year... including overseas adoptions. In a population of about 10 million!

Anyway, on a brighter note, I'm having my operation tomorrow. I think I've got a bit of underlying stress about it, I've got a shocking headache, which has been building for two days, and really sore jaw from being tense. I'm trying to be calm, but I think there is a natural level of worry that I can't avoid.

If I hadn't had someone physically look inside me on Friday, I would be convincing myself I could be pregnant! Had v light period, b00bs still sore, headache, strange light cramps, but I'm definitely not. Just not sure why me overall hormones seem to be all over the show. Maybe stress - it has been a very stressful few weeks.

Bring on the operation, and hopefully this is a step in the right direction.

Part_Mouse

T2d hope. Everything goes well for you tommorow.

17day wait is really dragging.

onestep

T2D. Thinking all positive thoughts for your op. X

Primmer

T2D - thinking of you and hope all goes ok tomorrow x

vesper

t2d, my thoughts will be with you tomorrow.

Strangely hormonal tonight, cried at the Yeti program, cried at an advert, cried over silly things. I'm not tired so its not that. Gawd knows, silly body and brain.

MrsDavo

Hey all,

T2d - good luck tomorrow will be thinking of you.

PM - good luck with this last weeks wait, I hope your blood test comes back positive. But I can sympathise with how awful this wait is. I have my blood test on Wednesday!

Hope everyone else is doing ok?

AFM:

Had a crap few days. Been feeling really down and ill on this higher dose. Got a positive OPK on Thursday morning at 9am. We DTD tues, wed and Thursday nights. But I'm so worried we haven't done enough. I know we should have Friday and Saturday too but I've been on call all weekend with work and don't finish til tomorrow, so it's hard to get in the mood when you know you could be interrupted at any moment! Plus we were really tired :-(

Been in tears today about work, just something stupid that wouldn't normally bother me, nothing I'd done wrong. But it surprised me, I just burst into tears and couldn't stop! Really felt like it was a huge deal. Even rang my boss in tears. Feel stupid about it now.

My oh was great though and came and just hugged me, I think he was shocked I'd started bawling too!

On top of that I then had to go and spend the afternoon with pregnant ladies and babies! I managed well but it sucked big time.....family doo so I had to go :-(

I've no idea if I have O'd or not, I really hope so, I guess I could be 2dpo now?

Blood test Wednesday, meal out planned with a good friend Thursday to take my mind off it. This wait until 2nd November ( when I think I'm due on if I've O'd ) is Guna kill...

tea_lover

Hope it all goes ok tomorrow T2D, will be thinking of you xx.