The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

tea_lover

Fingers crossed for all scans/injections today. Hope everyone's getting on ok x

Am confused by life (as ever). I saw an advert last week for an amazing job and I can't stop thinking about it. But obviously this is absolutely the wrong time to be applying for anything! Even a few weeks later would have been better as then I'd be approaching the end of IVF and could have had interviews (if offered of course) and made any decisions after knowing the IVF outcome.

As things stand I have no idea when we'll even be starting. Currently CD34 and feeling a bit like AF could be on the way... certainly have killer PMT . The advert says initial enquiries by 7th (this friday) - there's no way I can get in touch with them knowing I'll be starting IVF in the next few weeks is there? Is there??

Clevernamehere

Good luck to all the appointments today.
I've got my appointment with the gyno today too. I've decided to take my oh. Do you think I can leave him outside for the initial consultation but get him in for the verdict/chat?

Tea, what a dilemma! No good advice here, sorry. On the one hand, you've been feeling restless at work recently I think? Also, I think it is madness to put off real life when ttc. However, don't you have to be in a job for a certain length of time to qualify for mat pay?
Could you make initial enquiries without committing yourself?

SewIt_2

Ho to the Fantastic Follie Foursome -

Frozen - good luck for today. As others say, you will be fine, DR is the bit they can pretty much predict! Let us know how you go!

Fairy/RG - how are you getting on? I think I'm developing an aversion to needles! Really sick of injections and its only day 7 of doing them. Oh well, roll on Friday for us both Fairy. RG when is your next scan?

Tea - go for the job! One thing we have all learned is that you can't put your life on hold for TTC.

How are all the PG peeps doing? Please don't leave us just yet, we need your wisdom for a wee bit longer!

Mrs Davo - hugs to you, hope things are a little brighter for you today.

Gettingthere - don't think I've said Hi yet, welcome to the board. You'll get lots of support on here.

Littleme - good luck with HSG! let us know how it goes.

AFM - 1 sneaky FB pg announcement last week and two on my night out on Saturday have left me pretty flat. I can't help thinking that having a baby is something that happens to other people, not to me & DH, so what is the point in this IVF. I feel it in my soul that this is never going to happen for us. How can I get past this, and is it me just trying to protect myself?? Advice welcome!

Whattodonow

Hugs sewit,

I think we all feel like this from time to time. You'll feel differently in a few days I think. I was convinced IVF wouldn't happen for us

Chin up xxx

TEA - initial enquiries won't hurt. Even after interview you can turn job down. I say keep your optios open. X

tea_lover

Aargh - you were all supposed to say "don't be ridiculous, you've got a month of appointments coming up, now is not the time"!

There are other issues with the job, it's only a 2yr contract and it's less money. Both of which don't bother me too much, but do bother OH. Although at the moment am struggling to be too bothered about what he thinks about things.

If we were just (ha!) TTC, I'd go for it. Just not sure it's a good idea when we're literally about to start IVF again. But OTOH it looks great and I HATE this job. So confused!

MrsDavo

Thank you for all the kind messages - I've got super PMT like Tea and super emotional but no AF! Not even spotting, guess it will show up sooner or later.

Hospital for us tomorrow - feeling very apprehensive even though I know what the outcome will be!

Tea - go for it; make that call!

How will you feel if ( sorry to say it! As I really hope this doesn't happen ) but if IVF doesn't work? And you didn't go for this job?
Like WTDN says you don't have to accept the job if offered at the end stage.
What have you got to lose by popping an application in?

I've started looking for other things and applying. The job I'm in I had only though I'd be there for 1yr max and then on maternity for a break but here I am years later! There's no progression in it for me and so I've decided to stop waiting for a baby and start making plans to make me the achiever in my career that I want to be. If I get pregnant along the way them wonderful we will cross that bridge when I come to it, but I'm tired of putting things of " just incase "

Ring them!!!

xx

MrsDavo

Sorry for typos I'm on my phone!

good_vibes

Good luck ladies, let us know how you get on?
Tea, I had the same thing last week, Job wise is on hold for me. Saw A job I would love to do, but it wouldn't work with IVF treatment coming up soon. Hoping to start March/April time. Am going to say in my world have put on hold for now. Job I do now has shifts so I look to see if I can swap around appointment and the staff know What I am going through.
Still doesn't stop me looking though. If My IVF doesn't work for me, will then look for another Job then.

littleme82

Thank you for all the good luck wishes.

Well I'm back and survived.....

Did get myself a little worked up and had a few tears but the nurse was really lovely. It felt most odd being washed "down there" with warm liquid and then the good old metal speculum. I took tablets beforehand and the dye did splatter a bit on me but it was over before I knew it.

I even saw the picture of my insides

The radiologist said that from what she could see it all looks good but she will have a good look over the pictures and report to the FS.

When the lists are next updated could i please be amended to "HSG looks fine; seeing the FS for next steps/referral on 04 March 2014"

Gotta dash = 2 hours late for work so need to do some work.

xx

time2deal

SewIt wrote: »

How are all the PG peeps doing? Please don't leave us just yet, we need your wisdom for a wee bit longer!

I'm still totally lurking.

Tea, I say go for it. Only thing I would say is that for the last month or so I have really been TERRIBLE at my job. I've realised this week really how rubbish I was. The stress and worry of it all was entirely distracting me, and far too close to tears at any kind of disagreement. So be aware of that if you are interviewing etc.

Apart from that, I agree with the sentiment of not putting your life on hold.

All going unremarkably for me. Feeling much better this week than last, after all the stress. Sleeping terribly, but very tired all the time! I resisted the urge to test again today... the lack of symptoms keeps making me think it has gone away. I'm keeping myself on a 'no more than 1 test every 2 days' ration.