The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

tea_lover

Aargh, where are my drugs?? I know they said between 8 and 1, and it's only 11am but I'm impatient!

Also, they took my card details on friday but the money still hasn't gone from my account so am starting to worry. When I spoke to them last week they said they didn't have teh right phone number for me (I had a copy of the paperwork in front of me and it definitely was right)... am now thinking they're going to mess this up.

Where's the relaxation CD when you need it??! Am having a right flap!

time2deal

Me too - I should take a break over lunch and maybe listen to something to calm down. Mild cramps today... which I always get exactly one week before AF. Not feeling good about things.

tea_lover

Looks like my doubts about them were right. The order has arrived but no pregnyl.

Knew I shouldn't have gone with the cheap people!

ETA: oh !!!!!!! Apparently as pregnyl is a controlled drug it can only be dispensed within 28 days of the prescription date. My prescription dates from end Oct so is cleary well past that. They could have mentioned that on the previous 3 occasions I've spoken to them! The hospital are a nightmare to get hold of too. Grr... don't need this stress on my birthday lol.

T2D... sending positive calming vibes your way xx.

Loveactually

:bdaycake:

Happy B'day tealover.

AFM - i m thinking so much about my first appointment at hammersmith hospital dont know what they will say. I cant wait and its still two weeks away.

Clevernamehere

WW so sorry to hear your sad news, take care.
Hugs to everyone else having a tough time.

Afm - I'm so confused!
Had a scan today that showed I have pretty huge fibroids. I've to be refered to the gynaecologist. I assumed that this was what has prevented us conceiving as we have no other issues. However, the radiographer (is that what they're called?) said that it shouldn't prevent us from conceiving. It could only cause problems if I were to get pregnant.

I'm sorry to be insensitive because I know a lot of ladies on here have much much bigger issues but it is so frustrating not knowing what is wrong.

Derby2

T2D-try not to worry too much (easier said than done, I know). Remember that I was convinced it hadn't worked and had ALL of my usual AF symptoms.

Look after yourself.

Clevernamehere: I found out I've got fibroids when I had my baseline scan for the IVF...nobody had mentioned them before and you would think they would have noticed during all my iui scans. The sonographer told us it shouldn't cause problems conceiving but may cause issues with pregnancy (I assume squishing everything too much?).

tea_lover

My post disappeared, so sorry if this appears twice lol.

clevername - I don't know anything about fibroids but wanted to say please don't feel you're being insensitive or that you shouldn't be posting. Between us we probably cover just about every reason for not conceiving on this thread, and every one is just as valid and as worrying when you're experiencing it. It's horribly frustrating not knowing what's happening and getting results you don't really understand - if posting here helps with any of that it can only be a good thing.

Insensitive would be a random newbie making one post about how they got pg on holiday after 'just relaxing'.

fluffnutter

time2deal wrote: »

Me too - I should take a break over lunch and maybe listen to something to calm down. Mild cramps today... which I always get exactly one week before AF. Not feeling good about things.

You can swing from being convinced you're not pregnant to convinced you are a hundred times a day in that hellish 2ww. None of it is real until you take that test. It's exhausting. Thinking of you and everyone else.

fluffnutter

tea_lover wrote: »

Insensitive would be a random newbie making one post about how they got pg on holiday after 'just relaxing'.

Especially when the elaborate on their 'heartache' because they've been 'trying for 3 months and thought it would never happen'.

frozenpenguin

code – So so sorry to hear your news. There’s nothing anyone can say but I echo everyone else’s thoughts, we’re all here for you and thinking of you xxx

SewIt/Fairy – Day 10 of DR-ing here, a couple of (what I think) are hot flushes and some mild headaches but nothing too bad. Finished the Provera on Monday and had quite a bit of cramping but it’s CD1 here at the mo so at least the Provera’s done its job properly. It feels like that’s another hurdle passed! How are you two? x

angel – really sorry to hear your news as well. Hope you and DH are taking are of yourselves xx

Time2deal/Peonie/Whattodonow – I’m keeping all my bits crossed for you! xx

bigzippy – Congratulations! Enjoy! x :T

bigmomma – I agree with time2deal, 7.5 million is okay but not that great. My DH’s first SA was only 1.2 million with the second being 9 million – and we’re (fingers crossed) having ICSI in a few weeks. I’m 31 as well and the only (ha!) thing wrong with me is mild PCOS. You should definitely push for a referral – go armed with all the guidelines and regulations and quote it at them. Hopefully they’ll refer you just to shut you up!

tealover – Happy Birthday! The relaxation CD – I have the very same one. I have to say, I do really like it – her voice is very calming and I don’t know whether it’s the CD or not, but I certainly sleep well after listening to it, and I feel a lot calmer and less obsessed with everything IVF. Although I have only listened to the first track so far…

AFM – sorry I’ve been a bit AWOL over the last few days. DH ended ringing for an ambulance Sunday morning for his Dad who was ill with sickness and then after a particularly violent retch, was in agony and not breathing properly (plus he’s got a dodgy heart and is on Warfarin). After a bit of faffing in A&E and then a very speedy transfer to Bristol, father-in-law was found to have ruptered a 5cm hole in his oesophagus – quite a rare condition called Boerhaave’s Syndrome. He was in theatre for 5 hours overnight for an emergency operation and is now in intensive care where he’ll be for the rest of the week, before spending another week on a high dependency unit and then a further few weeks on a normal ward before getting palliative care.

So our evenings are now spent looking after mother-in-law (who can’t drive and is losing her eyesight) and heading 40 minutes into Bristol to visit the hospital.

Father-in-law is however; conscious enough to tell me off for coming to visit while we’re having IVF - apparently it’ll get me stressed!

Anyway, I seem to have written an essay – hugs to everyone regardless whether you need them or not! xxx