The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

Whattodonow

Hey Code

I didn't find HSG too bad, in fact not painful at all, just a "little uncomfortable" Try not to get nervous (this is from someone who was told the same thing and was still sweating in the waiting room)

Take some paracetomol 30 mins beforehand.

It's still a shame your OH can't be there. xx

AFM - first Buvelin downreg injection tomorrow, wish me luck!

Whattodonow

Hey WW. I sometimes wish I had the balls to actually write something like that on someone's stupid facebook comment!

vesper

Need some advice from you lovely ladies.
I have been told to just go to the hospital to get my day 2 bloods done, no need for an appointment or anything as it is the hospital that has referred me.
One problem though after a stealth AF attack it turned into cd2 today, but the blood testing clinic (having a durr brain dead moment, so can't think of the proper word right now) is closed at weekends.
Would it be accurate to have my day 2 bloods on Monday (so actually day 4), or am I better off leaving it until next cycle's day 2?




Was meant to be babysitting my friend's little boy tonight, and was really looking forward to it. But her hubby is working later and he's having him. Would have been better than sat here, with my friends on facebook discussing the delights of being pregnant (the real delights not the sarcastic delights.)

Wonder_Woman

W2DN I should've - wasn't even a friend but a friend of a friend. Seriously considering closing my account lately. Good luck with your down regging.xxx

time2deal

codemonkey wrote: »

Also next Friday, everyone will be heading off to the Christmas lunch and I'll be going to sit in a room of pregnant people getting their scans to have a scan to see if there are any cysts on my ovaries. Oh, and DH isn't coming with me because he's got his work Christmas party the night before and he'll "be too hungover". Am I just being unreasonable and hormonal to think that's a poor excuse? I mean, I don't need him there and he's probably better saving the leave for his surgery, but he's not coming with me to the HSG either. I just maybe unreasonably feel like he should be providing a bit more support, especially as we're in this position because of male factor infertility. I know that's a horrible thing to think - I probably shouldn't think it's "his fault" but there's a nasty little part of my brain that wont let go of that.

TBH your DH should be supportive. It is a team effort, regardless of who's 'fault' it is.

Our problems are currently my fault, but in the past it's been largely due to DH's count I think. But he's never for a moment questioned if he should be there for me. He's had many a long tedious day hanging out at hospitals, or sitting in doctors offices and waiting rooms. I do like that he assumes he will go with me, and I've had to talk him out of it from time to time. He can be very quiet and grumpy often - mostly crushing candies - but he is there!

He knows much more about the female body than I think he ever wanted to. But it makes it so much easier that he hears the same things that I do from the doctors and can ask them questions instead of me having to try to explain later.

DH is no angel, and we have plenty of arguments, but in this area he's always been supportive. It's been an unexpected surprise if I'm honest. So go shake your DH code! Pick a good moment, and try to talk about it.

vesper wrote: »

Was meant to be babysitting my friend's little boy tonight, and was really looking forward to it. But her hubby is working later and he's having him. Would have been better than sat here, with my friends on facebook discussing the delights of being pregnant (the real delights not the sarcastic delights.)

Can't advise on the bloods, but I know what you mean about looking after other peoples kids. I think my friends assume I would prefer not to, but I really look forward to the chance to hang out with the littlies when I can.


Sorry I've been away recently. It's a hard frustrating time for me. Some pretty low times, and starting to lose the will. I'm just marking time now until March when we will hopefully get DH's visa, and can hot foot it over to Australia.

But - to contradict what I've just said - I have actually had a few appointments this week. One with my private FS on Wednesday, and she has just told me to wait until the end of this month and they will do a scan to see if the latest operation to open up the cervix has helped. I'm booked for 2nd of Jan.

Then on Friday I had a long awaited IVF appointment under NHS. It wasn't sure if I should go ahead with it - but it nice to speak to someone new actually, and the doctor there was really positive, and was willing to discuss some things that my current FS isn't keen on. It's re-starting a long path (I have to re-do so many tests, including SA for DH) but maybe a second opinion isn't a bad idea.

Anyway, he has asked me to come back for a cervical assessment next week. Said it would take up to an hour, and they would have gas/air on hand for me if it was painful. I was like 'pah - cervical assessment?! I can do that in my sleep! '.

So a roughly neutral week. I can't feel terribly positive about things as it doesn't feel like anything will ever really work, but who knows. May as well keep trying.

codemonkey

vesper, does it definitely have to be CD2 bloods and not CD1-5 bloods? Maybe worth phoning them first thing tomorrow to ask.

I think I may be CD1 today. Feeling really emotional. Last night I cried because I was wrapping a present for my friend's baby and the dog heard it rattling and got all interested and looked all sad when I didn't give it to him. So I burst into tears.

I think I need to give DH a pass on not coming to the ultrasound. He does only really have one night a year where he lets his hair down and gets drunk and he probably needs it now.

I feel really bad for saying it's his fault because he didn't have any control over what happened when he was 4!! Can't even be mad with his mum because she would have been doing what was best for him at the time.

Also I need to clear a space in the freezer for my pee. Anyone else had to do this?

claire16c

vesper wrote: »

Need some advice from you lovely ladies.
I have been told to just go to the hospital to get my day 2 bloods done, no need for an appointment or anything as it is the hospital that has referred me.
One problem though after a stealth AF attack it turned into cd2 today, but the blood testing clinic (having a durr brain dead moment, so can't think of the proper word right now) is closed at weekends.
Would it be accurate to have my day 2 bloods on Monday (so actually day 4), or am I better off leaving it until next cycle's day 2?

If it's just the standard beginning of cycle tests, I think cd2-5 is ok. I think I got mine done on cd4 actually. I remember googling it because I think I had a weekend to contend with too.

Wonder_Woman

Aaw I think it's natural code, I guess we just need someone to be mad at in this whole nightmare. Hope AF comes in time for your appointment.

AFM, first time I've not burst into tears all day since we found out our IVF cycle had failed...seems like progress.

Gelly123

Oh Wonder Woman, I really feel for you and your OH. It's such a difficult and emotional time - big hugs to you and Code.

Had my CD21 blood tests last week so still waiting on the results but HB has finally booked in for his SA - but they can't do it until end of January. I think he genuinely thought he just calls them to say he's done it and is on his way in so he's a bit shocked it's so far ahead (or at least if feels that way to us).

Currently on CD29 and still no sign of AF although I've had some symptoms of her arriving.

FF said today is test day so I did an IC this morning and I think it might be the slightest TLP - even HB could see it too. Holding out until tomorrow morning to do the CB digi in the morning - eeeek ;o)

I don't seem to be able to focus on anything today - it's bonkers!

Gelly
x

codemonkey

Tentative congratulations Gelly. Fingers crossed for your digi tomorrow.

Am totally confused. Went for the blood test today because I'd had heavy spotting yesterday, AF cramps and so on - basically all the signs that AF was on her way. This morning I had some blood so thought it was CD but I just emptied my mooncup and nothing. Should I tell them or will it be ok if AF starts properly tomorrow since I've been bleeding anyway?