The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

time2deal

Congrats Chickpea! Reminds me that there are still miracles.

No new from me - but I thought I would add to the discussion on sharing waiting rooms with pregnant women. At my IVF clinic we are separate, but the accounts lady is clearly heavily pregnant!

The other one was in January when I went to get some kind of special MRI with a dildocam in place to get a view from both sides (gosh my life is fun). Anyway, the technician there was pregnant! To be fair to her, she was trying to hide it a bit with draped clothing, but you can't help but see it.

The MRI was part of a research study for early stage cervical cancer where women wanted to preserve fertility. So every person who had that scan would have been worrying about fertility. Oh well!

good_vibes

Hi all,
Glad it all went well pinkteapot. Sounds very much like my last appointment. Had the dildo scan as well, was at a stage in my cycle that they could. It showed 10 follicles growing. Looks like we might be IVF buddys. My BMI was 29.9 that day. Have put on a bit since my last hols.
Code, glad you spoke to your manager, was glad when I did. Saving at least 7 days AL for appointments.
My local FS appointments were in the same place and waiting room as the early pregnancy unit.
At the clinic now where I am it's well away from the early pregnancy unit with loads of magazines and leaflets catered to a IVF clinic.
While I was there I was reading about a new product coming here soon called "the stork for women". For male infertility problems, it might be worth looking into.
Cheered myself up yesterday, made 2 cheesecakes ready for Christmas. Made a baileys chocolate one and a terry's chocolate orange one mmmmm

pinkteapot

I did notice yesterday in the waiting room that among all the three-year-old copies of Good Housekeeping was a bible. I've never been religious so not sure God would listen to my prayers now!

tinkwings

Hi ladies popping over from other TTC thread to ask if anyone has any ideas about my AF being 1 day only this cycle?????

codemonkey

Have you tested tink? Or perhaps you didn't build up a very good lining for whatever reason?

Well, the hospital appointment was rather pointless. Pretty much went "You've got this condition." Well yes, that hadn't escaped my attention. "Just keep taking the drugs you're on". Was planning to. I mean, she was very nice, but it was ultimately pointless.

Also next Friday, everyone will be heading off to the Christmas lunch and I'll be going to sit in a room of pregnant people getting their scans to have a scan to see if there are any cysts on my ovaries. Oh, and DH isn't coming with me because he's got his work Christmas party the night before and he'll "be too hungover". Am I just being unreasonable and hormonal to think that's a poor excuse? I mean, I don't need him there and he's probably better saving the leave for his surgery, but he's not coming with me to the HSG either. I just maybe unreasonably feel like he should be providing a bit more support, especially as we're in this position because of male factor infertility. I know that's a horrible thing to think - I probably shouldn't think it's "his fault" but there's a nasty little part of my brain that wont let go of that.

chickpea

Why won't he go to the HSG Code? He really should if he can - it's a proper procedure, that might hurt!!

angeltreats

codemonkey wrote: »

I just maybe unreasonably feel like he should be providing a bit more support, especially as we're in this position because of male factor infertility. I know that's a horrible thing to think - I probably shouldn't think it's "his fault" but there's a nasty little part of my brain that wont let go of that.

I am so ashamed to admit that I have similar feelings, and even find myself having nasty little digs occasionally and I hate myself for it. I am actually glad DH is having a varicocele repair, I feel slightly less hard done by if he at least has to share a little bit of the nastiness that I am going to have to go through.

That said, he has offered to come to appointments with me and I know if I had an HSG or anything he would just assume he was coming rather than even bothering to ask. Perhaps your DH doesn't realise that an HSG isn't just an everyday procedure and is likely to be uncomfortable?

I was going to start Insanity this weekend, TACOD kindly put it on a USB stick for me, but the USB stick has totally vanished. I knew where I left it but it's not there, and I've turned the house upside down. I'm thinking one of the cats might have stolen it (not that far fetched as I caught one of them the other day playing with a screwdriver she had stolen from somewhere). So annoyed.

Oh and also, I nearly had another meltdown last night. We went to the Christmas party of DH's old team in his last job. I hadn't sat down fifteen seconds - literally- when his old boss who I was sitting beside announced her pregnancy. I had to run to the loo, DH thought I was just going to get up and walk out.

Off to a stress management/CBT workshop all day today so hopefully that might help a bit. And I've ordered some hypnotherapy CDs. I've been listening to Paul McKenna's I Can Make You Thin and while I am not thin yet, I have lost about half a stone since our appointment about three weeks ago and am now under BMI 30 again, so as long as I can keep to this weight or less by the first week in Jan, we'll get our IVF referral straight away.

Rambling... sorry. I haven't had a coffee yet!

tinkwings

codemonkey wrote: »

Have you tested tink? Or perhaps you didn't build up a very good lining for whatever reason?

Too scared to test :o:o

I think I have convinced myself that this month was out given my mouth operations etc etc.....

Will see what happens I guess.....

I have acupuncture next week so see what comes up ....

My biggest Hugs Code xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

codemonkey

tinkwings wrote: »

Too scared to test :o:o

I think I have convinced myself that this month was out given my mouth operations etc etc.....

Will see what happens I guess.....

I have acupuncture next week so see what comes up ....

My biggest Hugs Code xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Test tinks. Its the only way you'll know. You know you want to...

chickpea - DH starts his new job the week before the HSG so doesn't want to take time off immediately. Also the doctors have said it'll be a little uncomfortable (which in doctor speak is "You'll be in agony") so he doesn't believe that it's going to be a big deal. I'll be fine. Thanks to the Trigeminal Neuralgia I have a battery of painkillers that would knock out a horse.

Still waiting for AF. I hope I don't have to cancel the blood test appointment.

Wonder_Woman

angeltreats wrote: »

Oh and also, I nearly had another meltdown last night. We went to the Christmas party of DH's old team in his last job. I hadn't sat down fifteen seconds - literally- when his old boss who I was sitting beside announced her pregnancy. I had to run to the loo, DH thought I was just going to get up and walk out.

Oh Angel, that sucks. There is just no getting away from it is there whatever you do?! I saw a post on fb today that said "Christmas is such a magical time when you have children" as if the rest of us may as well not even bother celebrating. Grrrrr.

How did you find the cbt workshop?

Code I would be mad too if my DH used a hangover as an excuse.

I did feel cross at my DH after our BFN but then he admitted how worried he was I might leave if the IVF failed and I felt like the lowest possible life form for even being annoyed.

Why the hell is this so hard?