The Trials & Tribulations of Trying to Conceive when its just not happening (12m+)

star02

Hello everyone

Yes I did call Frimley back to say my husband didn't follow all the instructions.... What is it with Men and instuctions!!!! However she said she had two lots of results from two years ago and will be doing another test at Nuffeld anyway so not a big issue for now...

I feel lucky my husband is very keen about the process (if not a bit too keen - still going on about baby names...)

Now I am just hoping the CCG hurry up and approve the funds so Nuffield Woking can begin treatment!

Are there any other ladies at Woking?

Peonie

Hi everyone, there's so much going on I'm afraid I will forget some important moments going on with some.

LA, I've had 2 laparoscopys. Your recovery time will depend on what they did when there were in there. Did they have a look around or do any other procedures? You will feel a lot better in a couple of days.

Star, I'm more shocked that you didn't actually kill him.

Re the whole why do they mix fertiles and infertiles together in waiting rooms. At my local hospital anyone with gynae appointment is in the same waiting room so I've been there with all my endo problems and think that some of the pregnant ladies there would have had fertility problems as well. That usually stops me from being as envious or annoyed - as much.

Teaandcake, I like the H. Centre but find it strange they suddenly switched the protocol I was on which meant I could have actually started IVF earlier this month. Even though, I could not have started IVF this cycle as we went on holiday. But still. Plus, I've not yet met a doctor and find that a little strange. I should go to at least one of the support sessions - do you recall when the next ones are?

Good luck with your next op T2D.

WW, well done on the embryos.

Slinky_Selina

I usually come in with a really upbeat mood and have tried to be positive so I'm still sending out hug vibes to everyone.

But I'm so so sad, we were supposed to go back to FS after 3 months, turned out to be 4 because of lack of appts so Feb 2014, at that appointment if nothing was happening then we were starting the Clomid which we felt was a real positive.
I've just retrieved a letter from the puppys bed (God knows where he gets them from) which informed me that there was now no consultants around on the 24th Feb so they were arranging a new appointment. And the new appt is JUNE 2014 a whole 9/10 months after the last appt, 6 months later than it should have been.

I know my periods appear to be back and I hope they are staying until the BFP comes along but I feel cut adrift now, you dont get advice on what to do. Has anyone else had this, should I kick up a stink and demand to be seen sooner? Or just go private and I really dont want to think how much that will cost. Barring all these I may just buy some CLomid and get on with it myself. Sorry for venting and being so long

Part_Mouse

Ss hugs to you, it's so frustrating having to wait, not wanting to be the bearer of bad news but I have heard that going private can affect having nhs treatment

Afm still not managed to get hold of my fs, no return call either.

Whattodonow

Welcome loveactually :j

Star sorry to hear your news. So frustrating x

PEONIE! That's so exciting! Do you know why they changed it to short protocol?

Derby - keeping everything crossed for you. Want you to be the first BFP in a while of many...

Hi Teacake... I sort of figured you were fed up of the set backs and guessed where you were at. Nice to see you here! Glad to hear you're back on the IVF plan!! Enjoy your skiing trip, sounds 'heavenly'!

Haven't been to any of the support meetings - as much as I have down days, the next day I pick myself up. Might be a different story if this whole IVF malarkey fails though. Hewitt have been great - always call you back, nice nurses, etc (apart from one who can't do blood samples. Both me and OH were left with big bruises and she blamed the needles. Then I got her again for more blood tests and she did the same thing!)

I agree with Peonie, it is a bit odd no doctors involved yet. Maybe because Hewitt serves such a large city - it seems they do everything possible to save time - patient info evening & dvd for example, are things which probably save them a hell of a lot of time. As long as I see a doc on egg collection day I'm not too worried!

P - do you remember how long it took for the drug company to call you please?

Slinky - that is tremendously sh*t. Sorry. Chin up, you'll get there xx

Good luck WW! We need a BFP on here - hasn't been one for what seems like ages!

Whattodonow

Where are you Tea? You OK? Not heard from you since the whole Fluff vs Nicky thing.

I hope you weren't offended by Fluff. Even if you are, come back, we miss you!

teaandcakeordeath

Peonie wrote: »

Teaandcake, I like the H. Centre but find it strange they suddenly switched the protocol I was on which meant I could have actually started IVF earlier this month. Even though, I could not have started IVF this cycle as we went on holiday. But still. Plus, I've not yet met a doctor and find that a little strange. I should go to at least one of the support sessions - do you recall when the next ones are?
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The meetings are every month on the second Wednesday so the next one is on 11th December. Think they start about half 6 but honestly can't remember. The website gives you one of the counsellors to contact (they run the meetings with the patient reps) http://www.thehewittfertilitycentre.org.uk/how-we-can-help-you/Counselling_and_patient_support_groups.aspx

WTDN reckon me and OH had the same blood test nurse as you! OH nearly keeled over when he was watching her scrape around inside my vein with the needle whilst complaining they'd changed them- that was back in June so you'd have thought she'd have got better! What's the DVD that you get? I've only had the patient info evening and a consultation with Dr Green to send me off to other hospitals so haven't got that that far really. No idea what the next steps are now that there's actually a chance we might be able to start treatment soon! Seems surreal! How do you find out your treatment protocols etc. without seeing a doctor? And most importantly- who weighs you and when?!? Do they take your height as well or are my sock lifts a wasted purchase? :rotfl:

Slinky. Step away from the terrible temptation to buy internet clomid! It's not worth the risks. I know how you're feeling- the wait, alongside the lack of control, is the worst thing about it all. I paid for two private appointments this year and whilst it upset ALL of my lefty socialist leanings (and my credit card company) I'm so glad I did. My first consultation cost £200 and the second £150. It did speed up my NHS wait as I saw my NHS consultant privately. He referred me on for further testing when I found out I had a unicornuate uterus and was hysterical (in a bad way) after the bloody radiographer told me I'd never get pregnant and then when we got my OH SA results he put us straight through to IVF- we were supposed to go on clomid so it was a bit of a shocker! If the wait will drive you mad and the treatment plan is already set as clomid then I personally would pay to see your consultant and get your prescription. It's worth it for your sanity and it also means that you're one step closer to either a fabulous baby (cos that's what all of us on here will have obvs) or the next stage of treatment.

The fostering meeting was informative. I was nearly in tears at the tales of some of these poor kids- blamed it on the flourescent light shining gestapo style in my face though and a hormonal stupid TWP (two week punishment)... It answered some concerns I had- was dreading that my stupid estranged birth father would put the kibosh on me fostering but it doesn't thankfully. We have to wait until after IVF- if it's successful they recommend your birth child is at least 12 months old. If it fails there's no enforced waiting time but you have to be emotionally ready for it which is fair enough. Only thing that might stop us now is the fact that we're supposed to be moving back to my Mums but you need to either have a house in your name or be renting in your own name.... A house 'share' would make me ineligible. Hmmmm... how to get Mum to sign house over to me..... :rotfl:

PS. I second WTDN- come back Tea!

Whattodonow

Tcod - after patient eve, we had usual tests, then had consultation with nurse. Asked all the qs - smoke? Drink? Any kids? Etc etc. she asked my weight and height but never actually weighed me, which I was relieved about as I'm slightly below ideal bmi (can't put weight on). Made myself slightly shorter and heavier

DVD comes with the drugs (not got mine yet) and is supposed to show you how to use them apparently, but I do have a drug meeting as well coming up.

Nurse never said whether I was short or long protocol but I worked it out when she said id start downregging on cd23. But then peonie went to drugs meeting and got changed to short so who knows! I'm hoping Xmas break is not affecting what treatment they decide on...

Yes that nurse stuck a needle in both of my OHs arms as she couldn't get any blood out the first time and blamed the needles. I was watching all this and don't cope well with needles do was dreading my go! We both had massive bruises like no other blood test we've ever had!!my heart sank when I got her again my next time. She kills!!

Slinky_Selina

Thank you TCOD and everyone else for your kind words!
I think it very highly unlikely I will do the private healthcare thing, it goes completely against all my morals and ethics but so tempting. OH on the other hand will be in like a shot!
I'm a bit calmer now so when OH gets in we can talk about the options. I know we are getting there, I'm having my first proper visit from AF since May so hopefully the Thyroxine is finally working!

teaandcakeordeath

Slinky_Selina wrote: »

Thank you TCOD and everyone else for your kind words!
I think it very highly unlikely I will do the private healthcare thing, it goes completely against all my morals and ethics but so tempting. OH on the other hand will be in like a shot!
I'm a bit calmer now so when OH gets in we can talk about the options. I know we are getting there, I'm having my first proper visit from AF since May so hopefully the Thyroxine is finally working!

I thought this until I actually nearly killed someone- no exaggeration, I could've had someone's death on my conscience through work (NHS). It was literally the only thing I could think about day and night and it drove me crackers. It got to the point I was going to sleep in tears and waking up in tears. It was far better for me to !!!!!! the morals and go. I wish I'd done it sooner as it may have helped me with my work problem- as in I wouldn't have been such a bloody wreck. Don't dismiss private out of hand if you are struggling with the wait. Hope you both come to a decision- and fingers crossed you just get an earlier appointment. Have you tried calling your doctors secretary to see if there are any cancellations?