12-24 weeks pregnant (part2)

con1888

Marywoohyeah - you do realise that boys can also suffer abuse? It's not only girls. I would now be worried about you raising the child even if it is a boy.. you definately seem to be suffering mentally and this really should have been dealt with before trying for a baby, I know not all mental issues can be 'cured' but you should at least be talking to someone, perhaps some counselling would help you as how you feel is important on a large scale, not just because of this baby.

When I found out I was pregnant, I was disappointed, I'm not going to lie... I love children and did want them, in the future though. My OH was in the ' it's your decision' camp but as soon as I knew my baby was there the decision was made for me... I'm happy and excited now and still feel a bit guilty at my initial reaction as there are so many people who can't have children who want them desperately. I don't know what gender my baby is, I would prefer a boy but will also be happy with a girl. It really doesn't matter. Having a preference I would think is normal but to feel the way you do is really something a lot deeper ( which you admit ) I just don't get why someone would try for a baby if they were sooo against it being a girl.. it's pretty much 50/50, why take the chance ?

cheeseaddict

PommeVerte wrote: »

Let's change the subject ...........

I still feel sick when did you ladies start feeling better ?! I'm told the 2nd trimester is the best, you feel loads better and have lots more energy ! I know i'm only just coming out of the 1st trimester.... but i can't wait to feel human again. Poor OH is doing the lion's share of everything whilst i rest up, he never complains though bless him.

Hugs to all Xx

I only started feeling better last week sometime, 18+3 today, sickness lasted a lot longer this time than with ds. I now feel normal (ish):rotfl:

mrshappy

I was about 15/16 weeks when I slowly started to feel a bit better pomme, I'm still quite queasy but not as intense as it was, most of the time I can identify and try to avoid triggers, but it is a constant underlying feeling. I haven't been sick for a couple of weeks now, although the sickness was a bit random, and energy levels are on the increase. I am 18+2 today. you will feel better soon x

PommeVerte

cheeseaddict wrote: »

I only started feeling better last week sometime, 18+3 today, sickness lasted a lot longer this time than with ds. I now feel normal (ish):rotfl:

ah cheeseaddict, i reeeeeeeally hope it stops before 18 weeks !! Jeez 5 more weeks of this ! i will stop moaning now tho lol ! Everytime i have a wave of nausea i look at the little photo from the scan, makes me remember that it's totally 100% worth it :T

sunshine81

My nausea stopped last week really, so about 15 weeks? I've luckily never actually been sick though! I'm feeling a lot more normal actually with the exception of some light headedness and sore hips, but I am definitely growing a bump that is slightly getting in the way when doing things like putting socks on :rotfl:

16 weeks today!

fluffnutter

PommeVerte wrote: »

Let's change the subject ...........

I still feel sick when did you ladies start feeling better ?! I'm told the 2nd trimester is the best, you feel loads better and have lots more energy ! I know i'm only just coming out of the 1st trimester.... but i can't wait to feel human again. Poor OH is doing the lion's share of everything whilst i rest up, he never complains though bless him.

Hugs to all Xx

I think I started to feel better around 15 weeks. I was still sick on the odd occasion throughout the rest of my pregnancy but the constant nausea went around then. Then you have about three days of feeling well before you can't breathe properly, you swell up, your hips are agony and you start to waddle

Lara44

I'm 14 weeks and mine has got a bit worse again. Annoying as I was so looking forward to this energy burst and "glowing" feeling coming out of the first trimester! (Not sure I'll ever be one of those ladies that glows, though :rotfl:). Glad to hear many of you saying it got better at 15 weeks.

Cheeseaddict sorry to hear about the impending breakup, that must be a difficult time. Sending good vibes and big hugs your way.

So exciting to have a bump Sunshine!

Hugs x

sophiasmum

Afternoon ladies! I stopped feeling tired around 13 weeks but now struggle witb sleeping, eczema, allergies the list goes on no way am I blooming!
Put on the most comfortable skirt in the world today - over bump cotton wore it throughout my previous pregnancies. Had forgotten how comfy it is - have been living in non maternity leggings so its a total treat ordered some maternity stuff in next sale as I really need maternity now I think.

marywooyeah

Rebekh thankyou it is similar to what you describe, thisis the main reason for feeling that i wouldnt be able to care for her, and I agreebwith you the morebinfo the better so we can find whàts best for her.

Very hurtful to be called a troll especially after ive been using this site for so long and having been part of the pregnancy community too.

Samtoby I hope your scan goes well x

fluffnutter

marywooyeah wrote: »

Very hurtful to be called a troll especially after ive been using this site for so long and having been part of the pregnancy community too.

I don't think you're a troll at all. But I think you're incredibly naive to think that people won't find your posts distasteful or unreasonable.

As I've said, feeling that your baby is the 'wrong' gender is not uncommon. Feeling that you can't protect your baby, similarly so, particularly if you've had a traumatic childhood yourself.

If you have attracted negative responses it's not for these reasons - the reason I'm struggling to be sympathetic is because you expect support for something that to many seems monstrous. You seem indignant and surprised that people have objected to your plan to just get your baby adopted because she's a girl. You tell people they're 'hurtful' and unsupportive. What's even more unpleasant to me is your justification that you're doing it for your baby. To leave a child with the legacy of not only being unwanted but unwanted because of something she could never change strikes me as cruelty itself. To then say that you're thinking only of your baby seems utterly deluded - you're thinking only of yourself.

Perhaps you can't see how you come across, but something tells me you don't really care. I don't think you're a troll - but I do think you're attention-seeking.

I think I should just do as others are trying to do - ignore you and let this thread return to its rightful happy tone.