Sell my flat to move in with Boyfriend - complicated...

shop-to-drop

I would want him to be in a better work situation and married before selling up and moving in with him in his parents house. Or better still buy something together.

Are the plans for the two of you to live alone in the four bed house or would you rent out a couple of the rooms and save for a deposit perhaps?

Hoopylass

burnoutbabe wrote: »

Is your flat actually very small? or just a normal sized 1 bed. What practically will he not be able to bring over. I did have to clear out a whole wardrobe when boyfriend moved in but was good to declutter the 3 wardrobes I had.

Its not that small compared to other 1 bed flats in the area. Im lucky in the sense that I have a huge living room/dining area.

I feel that with a bit more rearranging and moving stuff then there would be plenty room.

Errata

Hoopylass wrote: »

MY bf is a kind and caring person and would do anything for me ... .

Excellent - in that case tell him it's your place or no place.

NinjaSavingKat

I would also be more concerned that if something were to happen to sister with the two kids and they lose their place of residence or need help you two will be seen as able to look after yourselves and given the boot OR they would be moved in "because its not your house is it" and Mum and Dad can do what they want with their house... like whats been said - who has your back?

Rachylou1981

Hoopylass wrote: »

Yeah he keeps saying that I dont have faith in the relationship because I have concerns financially.

I figured that. Lots of people get angry about that kind of talk. Sorry if I sound patronising and I know you are not liking the negative comments against your boyfriend but he really needs to talk things through sensibly and not just think his option is the better move because it isn't and thats not to say yours is, the word here is 'negotiate'. But if you can't talk about this sensibly and not get into serious argument then I would worry about your future together

Hoopylass

shop-to-drop wrote: »

I would want him to be in a better work situation and married before selling up and moving in with him in his parents house. Or better still buy something together.

Are the plans for the two of you to live alone in the four bed house or would you rent out a couple of the rooms and save for a deposit perhaps?

No we would be living together ... I wouldnt want to rent out the other rooms in honesty.

burnoutbabe

Hoopylass wrote: »

They havnt quoted a figure as such but have said they wouldnt charge market value if family rent it.

how can he know he can afford the rent if they won't tell him what it is?

dancingfairy

You sound very sensible and right to be concerned. Why on earth is he expecting you to sell your flat and make no money? Is it just because it would make life easier for him and he can live in a house owned by his family? I wouldn't be trusting him with financial decisions since you have managed to get yourself a place whereas he has been unemployed for a large chunk of time (o.k it may not be his fault he is unemployed but it doesn't really give you a chance to assess how he would be with money etc).
Could you rent your house out and move in with him to his familys house or if you really don't want to move into his familys house (which would be understandable) then rent somewhere together? If you really don't want to move into the house his family have then you may have to save up for a few years/wait until he is a more financially secure position.
I really don't understand his position to be honest.
I hope you can find a solution that works for you.
df

LEJC

OP do you know the running costs associated with the house that the parents are keen for you to rent from them....

Ames

I'm smelling a rat over the four bed house.

Why did the parents buy it from the gran? All I can think is that it was to avoid care home fees, inheritance tax or something.

And the only reason I can think of for wanting to rent it to you and your partner at a reduced rent is to avoid all those pesky contracts which mean the tax man would know about it and the rental income.