Don't know what to do

Janey3

For goodness sake, if you have to go and meet this man, don't go on your own, take a friend with you.

thehappybutterfly

Hmmm. I'm suspicious.

thorsoak

Is it half-term already? Or have the Creative Writing classes suggested a writing exercise?

aliasojo

thehappybutterfly wrote: »

Hmmm. I'm suspicious.

thorsoak wrote: »

Is it half-term already? Or have the Creative Writing classes suggested a writing exercise?

I was beginning to think I was the only one. :rotfl:

Didn't believe it from the start but tried to give the benefit of the doubt. Not any more though.

thehappybutterfly

opening post gave it away for me. OP, here's a tip to start a credible thread, dont copy and paste a list of typical phrases from a "child abuse survivor" website.

meritaten

I assume Granny is your fathers mother? so, that's where he got the bullying abusive ways from.
Don't go. don't turn up, take yourself out for the day!

Dimey

meritaten wrote: »

I assume Granny is your fathers mother? so, that's where he got the bullying abusive ways from.
Don't go. don't turn up, take yourself out for the day!

OP mentioned that Granny was not her Father's Mother. Seems that Granny is OP's Mum's Mother.
But she certainly behaves as though she is the Father's Mother.

OP, When you move you won't be able to give your Granny your new address as she will just give it to your Father. So you will likely not see her after you move. You might as well stand up to her now and not be worried when she does cry. There's something not right with your Granny that she wants you to see the person who abused you.

If you & your Mum don't have the strength to stand up to Granny yourself then go to your GP and/or the Abuse team at your Police Station and ask them to write a letter to your Granny to tell her to stop aiding and abetting your abuser and stop insisting you meet him again. Offer to pay for the letter if necessary and get a copy for yourself and your Mum.

Explain to your Doctor and the Abuse Team Policeman than you are very vulnerable and need their help to stop your childhood abuser continuing to manipulate and physically threaten you and to stop his supporter (your Granny) intimidating you.

At your age you should have more self confidence to stand up for yourself. You are doing very well considering what's happened to you. So brave of you to have confronted your Father. You should have reported him to the Police then and you know you would have done if your Granny had not have intimidated you.

Maybe its time to break contact with your Granny. Discuss with your Mum and if that's what is required then you and your Mum write your Granny a letter to explain that as you are both recovering from abuse you need to move on, you can no longer accept your Granny supporting your abuser and trying to push you back into your abuser's path. As Granny has not stopped when you ask, you have no choice but to keep your distance from her. You can't take her insistence that you continue to be abused.

So sad that your Mum has MS when you both need each other to be strong. I think you will get stronger when you both move away and have each other without Granny and the nasty Aunt's influence. Do all you can to keep your new address secret.

paulineb_2

Yoshi2 wrote: »

I remember one time when I was little ringing her up and telling her he wouldn't stop fighting. But apart from that she has been told plenty. Seems it just in one ear, out the other with some people though.

A good few years ago, since he left, he used to come out in the middle of the night and harass us, holding his finger on the bell for ages. Lots of times he used to come into the back garden and wreck things so we got a really high gate to keep him out.

She even tried to make lame excuses for him then, or didn't say much while others scowled about him.

I was sick of him doing that so I found out where he lived. I went round to his house to tell him to stop it. I wasn't going for an argument. I was afraid of him but I still went because I wasn't going to have him controlling us. He roared and shouted at me, lifted me by my wrists, up off my feet, and threw me through the air down the hill so I landed on my back on the road. My handbag had fallen off. He lifted it and threw it at me. I was laying on the ground crying and sore, he didn't offer to help me up. Instead he came down the street roaring after me and I was running down the street waiting to get attacked again. I had to lock myself in the car and try to recover before leaving. My hand were grazed and had bits of grit from the road in them. My good aunt wanted me to go to the police but mum and I were too scared because he knew where we lived and he could have come and taken revenge. Deep down I knew granny would be huffed if I'd done that. So he got off with it.

She knows what he's like, she just won't listen.

And you are even considering meeting this man?

Stay away for your own safety. Granny can sod off.

Yoshi2

thehappybutterfly wrote: »

opening post gave it away for me. OP, here's a tip to start a credible thread, dont copy and paste a list of typical phrases from a "child abuse survivor" website.

How dare you! :mad: I didn't copy anything from any websites. I came here because I have nobody else to talk to. Mum is stuck in the same position as me, knowing that I don't want to go, but that granny is so bossy. Then there's my good auntie, but she can't go against granny because she lives with her. My other aunts aren't nice people.

I have more to do with my time than copy stuff off some website. Keep your nasty untrue comments to yourself!

Yoshi2

thorsoak wrote: »

Is it half-term already? Or have the Creative Writing classes suggested a writing exercise?

For Goodness Sake! If you've had such a happy life, and don't realise that people can have bullies in their family, then please don't come on here making sarcastic and spiteful comments about my personal circumstances.

And if some creative writing class had set a homework it wouldn't be much use posting the story here would it, think the teacher would rather have it on their desk than have to read it off a forum.