Two plus two equals five (I hope)

thehappybutterfly

People should also stop assuming that she learned her new techniques from another man! I've learned more from books and my own personal needs than any man. In actual fact, I don't think any of my exes taught me anything in the bedroom department.

You don't tell me what to do - I'll tell you what I want thanks very much! And it may or may not involve you.

ciderwithrosie_2

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I'm guessing she is talking in a sexual way to someone online and this is increasing her libido.
It doesn't mean it's the end of the world for your marriage, nor that she wants an affair, she could be just happy someone is paying her the attention she wants.
Talk to her about it. I'm guessing she is alot happier as well.

Sorry, but this was my first thought also. She could have joined a chatroom, given her phone number to someone and he's sending her explicit texts. Maybe you should send a few naughty texts yourself and see what her reaction to that is.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Is the only way a woman can be allowed an increase in sex drive really when a man 'gives' it to her?

Good grief.

*max*

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Is the only way a woman can be allowed an increase in sex drive really when a man 'gives' it to her?

Good grief.

Wherever did you get that from in the thread??

ciderwithrosie_2

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Is the only way a woman can be allowed an increase in sex drive really when a man 'gives' it to her?

Good grief.

Not at all, but clearly something has, uncharacteristically, lit the OP's wife's fire after many years of not being bothered. It was my first conclusion that she could be chatting to someone, this could just as easily be female I suppose or she could be reading some 'literotica'. it might even be something as simple as she's lost a bit of weight and feels more confident in herself, but if that's the case, why all the secrecy with the phone?

FBaby

Well it shouts to me very strong warnings that she is up to something. I am one of those people who believe that a sudden change in mobile hugging is likely to be suspicious.

So yes, maybe there is a good explanation and it is all good news and you can enjoy her change of behaviour, but it could very well also means what you worry about. Affairs DO happen, they happen to people who don't suspect it, when the marriage doesn't seem under pressure.

You could ask her, get a response that leaves you no better comforted or you can have a quick look in her phone, be reassured all is fine and move on, happy to enjoy the new her. Or if you find the evidence that she is up to no good, you can then make decisions base on facts without wasting time. I do hope for you that you have just been a bit paranoid and that you can be reassured that you do have a super wife.

tea_lover

I'm really ashamed that I started playing candy crush and am currently hiding that from my OH. I guess it could look dodgy if he was of a suspicious mind.

Foxtrot_Alpha

I'm sure there must be a good explanation, as I managed to seperate her from her phone long enough to have a quick peek at it last night while she went for a bath.

The first thing I noticed is that she's now got a lock screen on it which I know she didn't have before (she's still on IOS 6 so it's not something that is automatically on and I know she didn't have it on before).

As I've said before, she's very predictable and I guessed the code correctly at the 2nd attempt.

I had a quick nosey around and to be honest there doesn't look like anything odd on there, all the texts are innocent enough, there's no '50 Shades' type books on there (she read them all last year anyway, and that did coincide with a small peak in bedroom activity, which soon dried up again unfortunately).

The only thing I couldn't see was her browsing history on Safari. I'm not sure if she's always had that set to private or not though, so I'm now non the wiser as to why she's being so protective over her phone. It doesn't make any sense. I was half expecting to find she'd been 'sexting' someone as her phone seems to be getting a ton of texts recently, but unless she's been deleting it after she's done it I couldn't find anything obvious. Maybe I'm not giving her enough credit when it comes to covering her tracks.

I'm still very uncomfortable thinking about asking her unless I've actually got something concrete to back it up with incase she is up to something and lies to my face.

Edit - I know she plays Candy Crush, it keeps coming up on my FB feed...

tea_lover

Foxtrot_Alpha wrote: »

Maybe I'm not giving her enough credit when it comes to covering her tracks.

I'm still very uncomfortable thinking about asking her unless I've actually got something concrete to back it up with incase she is up to something and lies to my face.

You're not giving her enough credit full stop. This is your wife, the mother of your children, and yet you think it's ok to snoop through her phone but not to speak to her about your concerns??

It's you that's doing something wrong here, not her.

victory

Foxtrot_Alpha wrote: »

I'm sure there must be a good explanation, as I managed to seperate her from her phone long enough to have a quick peek at it last night while she went for a bath.

The first thing I noticed is that she's now got a lock screen on it which I know she didn't have before (she's still on IOS 6 so it's not something that is automatically on and I know she didn't have it on before).

As I've said before, she's very predictable and I guessed the code correctly at the 2nd attempt.

I had a quick nosey around and to be honest there doesn't look like anything odd on there, all the texts are innocent enough, there's no '50 Shades' type books on there (she read them all last year anyway, and that did coincide with a small peak in bedroom activity, which soon dried up again unfortunately).

The only thing I couldn't see was her browsing history on Safari. I'm not sure if she's always had that set to private or not though, so I'm now non the wiser as to why she's being so protective over her phone. It doesn't make any sense. I was half expecting to find she'd been 'sexting' someone as her phone seems to be getting a ton of texts recently, but unless she's been deleting it after she's done it I couldn't find anything obvious. Maybe I'm not giving her enough credit when it comes to covering her tracks.

I'm still very uncomfortable thinking about asking her unless I've actually got something concrete to back it up with incase she is up to something and lies to my face.

Edit - I know she plays Candy Crush, it keeps coming up on my FB feed...

I would be so darn annoyed if I found out you were snooping around my phone, if your wife is up to something ask if, if she's not waiting for her to have a bath to sneak into her phone, oh my I would very prickly about that one, you just can't imagine the row you could be walking into it:eek:

You just have nooooooo right to snoop around your wife's phone