Two plus two equals five (I hope)

ilovelondontown

All we can possibly speculate is one of 2 things at the moment. Either she is cheating on you or she isn't. The only way you're going to find out is by talking to her. If I were you I'd think about how you intend to action things should she confess to cheating on you- is this something you feel you want to fix, or walk away from?

The only thing you're doing at the moment that is wrong is assuming anything. Without knowing for certain you might be barking up the wrong tree and if you are you might even upset your wife for the accusations when all she is trying to do is to get your relationship back on track, so instead of appauding her and being grateful you're shooting her down. If it does turn out to be innocent and she finds you've been snooping, you're opening up a new can of worms altogether!

I think the best thing you can do now is assume the best for , enjoy this new found passion from your wife and if you feel like you need some reassurance you can do this without outwardly accusing her of anything. Start communicating again about how happy you are with this new side of her and compliment her, if she cheating she won't be able to keep up the guilt for too long before confessing.

warmhands.coldheart

Maybe she's been watching some........... you know what (The P word) and hence doesn't want you near her phone in case you think badly of her....... Don't jump to conclusions to quickly. Don't joke too much either about her newfound techniques either as women can be a bit sensitive at times (Sorry I'm really not meaning to sound sexist there). Maybe you could add a few "techniques" of your own. Nothing too kinky at first. slow and steady as they say!!

tea_lover

Maybe she's recently changed her contraception - that can have massive effects (either way) on libido.

victory

There are a lot of maybes to this one... why hiding her phone? 50 shades is uber popular these days, maybe feeling remorse for having ignored you and one of her friends has said if she is not careful you will go and seek it elsewhere?

Surely after she dragged you upstairs you talked about 'crumbs where did all this come from? Jumping straight to affair thoughts is a big leap, ask her, communication is vital not to escalate this one.

paulineb_2

Foxtrot_Alpha wrote: »

Hmmmm. I was hoping I was just being paranoid but maybe there's some substance to it.

I'm determined to rumble her on the phone front at the very least. She doesn't know how to use her iPhone very well, whereas I do, and I'll soon find out what she's been up to (unless it's been by text, which I'll have to be more sneaky about finding out).

I need to have some actual evidence before I say anything to her. I jokingly said to her the last time we were in bed together that I was impressed with her newfound 'technique' and wondered who she'd learnt it off. She just laughed and said if I didn't like it she wouldn't do it again.

I've got a horrible gut feeling about all of this now. I really hope I'm wrong...

You'll soon find out what shes up to? I certainly wouldnt do that, if you really have reason to believe that shes seeing someone else, why do you need "evidence". Would you like someone going through your phone?

Fluff15

Since getting a promotion and starting university at the same time, my sex drive has waned. I've been a bit sneaky with my phone, but that's only because I'm reading / looking at something naughty to get me back in the mood! Maybe since she's not used to her iphone, she's just found you can do those things on there and that's what she's been up to?

Try talking to her! I do hope it's all okay.

daisiegg

Don't go through her phone.

Talk to her, talk to her, talk to her, talk to her, talk to her, talk to her.

libra10

I agree with victory, 50 Shades of Grey is being read by lots of women ...........

Make the most of it!

Okydoky25

My 1st thought is what's she reading? You can download books on the iPhone so maybe she doesn't want you seeing this? I only joked to my husband the other day that the joy of sex was free as a download on iBooks

justme111

What's wrong with people .. why not to be happy she actually wants to be with you. I understand you are curious but I don't see how knowing anything would benefit your family at this point.. After what you described as your previous marital life it is a miracle and your chance to get back a happy wife and you are looking into gifted horse's mouth.