9 year old girl sharing bed with dad

duchy

unholyangel wrote: »

Quite different mummy or daddy giving comfort now and again compared to sharing the same bed every night.

Have no idea why you included that you're female. Is it somehow relevant to what I have posted?

Have you read the OP ?
The child doesn't live with her Dad -she's visiting

Nada666

sunnyone wrote: »

I let him know that I would rather not see him like that again, it might happen but he will try to prevent it if he can.

Not sure about the consequences. I think I'd rather he took preventative measures after he puts his grubby hands on my handset rather than immediately before!

**professor~yaffle**

chipsdog wrote: »

What do all your wise people think about this, someone I know is divorced, he has his daughter to stay over at his house, but, she shares a bed with him - I don't think this is right, but, when I mentioned it to him he just laughed at me, what do you all think?

Yes I do think it's a little bit odd. Not saying it's suspect, but at 9 you don't want to be sharing a bed with your dad (or mum!). Children should have their own beds.

tom9980

zaksmum wrote: »

My friend (and her family) still lives with her father who's 76 and my friend's son is 10 and has Asperger's.

The boy gets into his grandad's bed every night for a cuddle and ends up sleeping there the rest of the night.

The boy wrote of this in his book at school. He said he goes to grandad's bed every night when everyone else is asleep and grandad gives him special cuddles.

The school took it all very seriously.

Mum and son were interviewed separately and grandad had to answer questions too.

Once the school accepted there had been nothing sexual going on it all calmed down, but the school did make it clear that they had considered involving social services and that their advice was to discontinue the co sleeping right away. I dont see how the school did overreact in any way at all.

A massive overreaction...but I suppose in these times you can never be too vigilant.

I think you will find a school has a legal obligation to safeguard the well being of all children. They have no choice but to investigate anything a child tells them even if they believe it is untrue. This all goes back to BabyP and other high profile cases.

unholyangel

duchy wrote: »

Have you read the OP ?
The child doesn't live with her Dad -she's visiting

Yes I did read the OP but apparently you've only read a bit of mine - much like 90% of repliers here seem to have only read a bit of the OP's while filling in the gaps themselves. I didnt say she lives with her dad.

She's sharing a room every night shes there. OP cant understand why she doesnt have her own bedroom as its a 2 bedroom house. Of course OP has also disappeared. So doesnt look like we're ever going to get further details which would give a clearer picture (ie if he's been in the house a few months or a few years - a few months and its more understandable why she doesnt have her own room).

And bravo to whoever accused me of "making stuff up" when they were the one assuming I meant every night of the year and not simply every night she's at her dad.

Strapped, still dont see why you being the opposite sex from your son has any importance or bearing. The only reason I can think of is because abuse has been mentioned dozens of times throughout the thread. But I highly doubt you're ignorant enough to think that abuse is restricted to those of opposite sex so I'm genuinely at a loss as to why its relevant.

bright_side

As someone who was sexually abused as a child, my 'alarm bells' are extremely quick to ring where children are concerned, however with the little info we have on this situation, all I can think is 'what's the problem?!!'

My son slept with me until he was almost 12