Were/are your second children anything like the first?

poet123

First one was the hardest as a baby he never slept till he was four, but was a laid back child and is still that way as an adult, second one was easy as a baby, harder as he got older, ditto the third, the fourth was an easy baby, child and teenager....even their teachers (who had at some point taught them all) said we had saved the best (both academically and personality wise) till last!!

So, to sum up, they are all different, you never can tell!!

midnightraven3

my old gran said "you never get 2 the same":D

our 1st,
brilliant baby, grew into an adorable smart funny child
oooooh this motherhood is a piece of cake
lets do it again
2nd
polar opposite:eek:

in for a penny
lets have a 3rd:D
not like either of his sisters

now they are older teens
still completely different in personalities
but all get on well i'm glad to say

CH27

notanewuser wrote: »

My DD is adorable - much as I was as a child. I'm getting nagged to do it again. There are several things putting me off the idea, but the biggest is the risk of getting a child like my nightmare of a sister.

Friends who had easy babies first time round seem to have been saddled with more challenging babies the second go. So, is it possible to get more than 1 easy baby in a row?!

Babies are not sticking plasters.

You need to work out the problems in your relationship before even thinking about another baby.

meritaten

peachyprice wrote: »

One of my twins was the easiest baby in the world, his brother was a horror, my daughter was somewhere in between and I can see traits of both of them in her.

My brother was a dream baby, I was a horror, mother says my horror twin was just deserts.

rofl - I used to say to youngest son 'May your children be exactly like you'! not really meaning it - but, unfortunately one of his twin DDs is ADHD and so like him its spooky!

Janepig

My two are chalk and cheese. DD was a week late, DS decided to arrive five weeks early, sending me into labour on Christmas Day, eventually born half an hour into Boxing Day. DD fed brilliantly, and eats anything to this day, DS had to be tube fed, then struggled after that and is still a terribly picky eater.

DD is quiet and quite shy socially until she really gets to know people. DS is noisy and outgoing with loads of friends, and makes friends wherever we go (even other kids in the various queues in Drayton Manor the other week).

DD has never given me a minutes bother in school, I have never had to be spoken to by a teacher about her behaviour. DS was in school precisely a month before I got called in by the teacher (he'd taken a toy hammer to a ceramic apple someone had taken in for the red table ). There have been many conversations with his teachers since then. Having said that, he is as bright as a button and seems to pick things up alot easier than DD. Hence his behaviour may partly be down to boredom, imo.

Most people I know (including my own parents!) say that if they'd had the second child first, they'd never have had another. I would concur! Lol.

Jx

Hiddenidenity

My first was a dream.. my second.. Im glad she came second or I'd have been put off forever .. not stopped me going on to have a third though just hope this one takes after the 1st not 2nd :rotfl:

Person_one

poet123 wrote: »

even their teachers (who had at some point taught them all) said we had saved the best (both academically and personality wise) till last!!

See, I think its really inappropriate and actually pretty terrible for a teacher to say that one of your children is 'better' than the others.

I don't even have children and it makes me angry to think of it!

notanewuser

Funky_Bold_Ribena wrote: »

Crikey - are you sure bearing in mind the hubby situation?

Anyway - my first niece = angel
The second is a little horror...completely the opposite and although I adore them both; can't work out for the life of me where she gets it from.

Person_one wrote: »

Oh dear, I don't even know where to start with this.

I wouldn't have another if I were you though.

CH27 wrote: »

Babies are not sticking plasters.

You need to work out the problems in your relationship before even thinking about another baby.

Woah people!!! I don't actually want another one!!! :eek::eek::eek::eek:

I was just wondering, because I don't know anybody whose second child had an easier temperament than their first, even when the first was a terror!

notanewuser

JodyBPM wrote: »

Most toddlers are really easy, and adorable when you can give them 1:1 attention, and can parent them consistently with no distractions, or competing priorities.

Hence first children often appear easier than second children as toddlers.

DD has been an absolute angel (and a cheeky monkey) since her (traumatic) birth. She was just like me as a baby and is just like me as a child.

My sister refused to be put down until she was 2, didn't sleep more than 2-3 hours a night until she was 4 and started school, has always been demanding, unreasonable and a handful.

We are polar opposites in most ways.

**professor~yaffle**

If you have one child you can enjoy that child (as you are doing!). With 2 or three it becomes a chore, as each child is fighting for their share of their parents' attention, squabbling between themselves and annoying each other, and each of them going through difficult stages at different times.

Think of the mums you see in Asda whose faces are just drawn and haggered, from screeching at their numerous out-of-control children 24/7

I say if you're happy with one child, stick with just the one. You can't send them back once they're here :rotfl: