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Were/are your second children anything like the first?
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notanewuser
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My DD is adorable - much as I was as a child. I'm getting nagged to do it again. There are several things putting me off the idea, but the biggest is the risk of getting a child like my nightmare of a sister.
Friends who had easy babies first time round seem to have been saddled with more challenging babies the second go. So, is it possible to get more than 1 easy baby in a row?!
Friends who had easy babies first time round seem to have been saddled with more challenging babies the second go. So, is it possible to get more than 1 easy baby in a row?!
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I didn't.
I wouldn't let that put you off though! your sister is herself - your next child would be an individual just as much as your first, and you'd love them just as much - but they would have their own personality and strengths and weaknesses.0 -
Crikey - are you sure bearing in mind the hubby situation?
Anyway - my first niece = angel
The second is a little horror...completely the opposite and although I adore them both; can't work out for the life of me where she gets it from.Sanctimonious Veggie. GYO-er. Seed Saver. Get in.0 -
I think you remember different things. DS was a traumatic birth but fab baby and toddler. Now he's just started school he's very trying
. DD was easy birth, nightmare baby (milk intolerant), headstrong toddler but now at 3 she's mostly lovely. Sweet and funny and clever. But also clingy - cant get her out of my bed
I expect they will both continue to go through lovely and annoying stages. DS is also very loving, and a sensitive boy, but at home he is just awful sometimes, and very mean to his sister. Yet out and about, he is angelic.
So in essencethere's probably no answer to your question. You never know what you're going to get. I was devastated when they told me I was having a girl, after my perfect boy baby but I fell for her big time once she arrived.
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notanewuser wrote: »So, is it possible to get more than 1 easy baby in a row?!
Not in my own personal experience no, nor that of my friends and family oddly enough. Each one of us had what could be described as a dream baby first time round, and were lulled into a very false sense of security that all our babies would be the same. Without going into specifics here, as it would possibly not be fair on my youngest, if he had been my first he would without a doubt be an only childThe best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own, no apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on or blame. The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.0 -
Not in my own personal experience no, nor that of my friends and family oddly enough. Each one of us had what could be described as a dream baby first time round, and were lulled into a very false sense of security that all our babies would be the same. Without going into specifics here, as it would possibly not be fair on my youngest, if he had been my first he would without a doubt be an only child ;)
My mum always said that about my sister :rotfl:Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud.0 -
my 2 are completely different both wonderful and trying in their own little ways but as babies they were both brilliant both slept through the night before they were 3 months old
both like to test us now and then but they are both very good kids
the elder is much more like me very numbers minded cannot draw to save his life where as the younger is much more creative like daddy but isnt as academicThe only people I have to answer to are my beautiful babies aged 8 and 50 -
notanewuser wrote: »My DD is adorable - much as I was as a child. I'm getting nagged to do it again. There are several things putting me off the idea, but the biggest is the risk of getting a child like my nightmare of a sister.
Oh dear, I don't even know where to start with this.
I wouldn't have another if I were you though.0 -
If I had had last child first (or even second child come to think of it) there wouldn't have been any more!
First baby, DD, was adorable - she had studied the baby manuals and decided to 'Ace the exam'!
second baby - well, apart from screaming the house down 24/7 for his first year and being 'welded' to me for about two and a half years - he was quite cute. but his sister never did understand why we didn't 'send him back for a refund'!
last child - for his first six months he was a 'perfect baby' then due to various reasons reverted into 'the baby from hell'!
of course by then I was an 'experienced parent' - in other words I totally ignored 'professional opinion and advice' - good thing too as I was right all along! lol, come to think of it if youngest son had been first ...............it would have been a complete disaster for both of us.0 -
One of my twins was the easiest baby in the world, his brother was a horror, my daughter was somewhere in between and I can see traits of both of them in her.
My brother was a dream baby, I was a horror, mother says my horror twin was just deserts.Accept your past without regret, handle your present with confidence and face your future without fear0 -
Most toddlers are really easy, and adorable when you can give them 1:1 attention, and can parent them consistently with no distractions, or competing priorities.
Hence first children often appear easier than second children as toddlers.0
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