Staying in a hotel when visiting friends

scotnan

Ever since staying at a friend's house whose small child tried to waken me at 6am by prizing open my eyelids, I've always stayed at hotels safer all round really lol

maman

Torry_Quine wrote: »

They didn't even acknowledge the offer far less thank me for it. :eek:

Probably more thoughtless than deliberately rude but then I don't know them. It wouldn't have done any harm to just say 'thanks but no thanks' IYSWIM.

I once stayed in a hotel when I went to visit my brother. He'd just come out of hospital and I knew that even though my SIL offered to put us up it would have created work for her. As she'd just had a stressful time with his accident and loads of visiting I decided on a hotel. Thanked her but used the excuse that children wanted to be near the shops etc and combine visit with a bit of retail therapy. I'm sure SIL understood but brother turned up at hotel as soon as we'd checked in, visiting us!!

Turtle

Quite frankly, I'm amazed at the number of people who would be offended if their friend preferred to stay in a hotel. Why on earth would you assume it's because they think you're not clean enough or whatever? It's not always about you!

Person_one

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Considering every time I went in to visit I phoned them it would have been courtesy to let me know. They were able to phone a hotel and make arrangements.

It would be gracious (and Christian?) of you to forgive them, let it go and be understanding when people aren't perfectly behaved at a time of stress and high emotion.

justme111

Seems unnatural to me , if I am close enough to them to visit them I qoyld stay over , if I am not I would not have visited them. I do not know anybody who would do otherwise but people are different , I would been a bit disappointed ify guest went to b&b but hopefully not offended.

balletshoes

justme111 wrote: »

Seems unnatural to me , if I am close enough to them to visit them I qoyld stay over , if I am not I would not have visited them. I do not know anybody who would do otherwise but people are different , I would been a bit disappointed ify guest went to b&b but hopefully not offended.

are we talking generally here, or the OPs circumstances? He says the only place he gets offered to sleep at his friend's place is in bed with his friend?

I do think its different for one night compared with say 3 or 4 nights, and I also think the logistics of where you will sleep etc have a lot to do with it too.

I'm a grumpy cowbag if I don't get a proper sleep, I could pretend to be human for one night I think, but if theres a possibility I will be disturbed by snoring housemates etc for more than one night, I'd be booking into a hotel in advance.

Serendipitious

FatVonD wrote: »

I would say something like 'my IBS is really playing up and I'll feel more comfortable in a hotel room where I have my own toilet and can fart to my hearts content'

I would give any reasonable excuse I could to take a hotel room instead of sharing someone else's space, but to be honest, the above is close to what I'd be actually be thinking, minus the IBS and the heart's content that is...

I just hate sharing bathrooms. Never want to go in a bath after anyone else, and prefer nobody else to go in after me.

As for master bedrooms with en suite, you can keep them. Too many houses have them and I can think of nothing worse for one's lovelife than hearing 'noises off' through a flimsy wall, even if it is just the tap running....

Outside loos actually had their good points, I think !

Tiddlywinks

Torry_Quine wrote: »

They didn't even acknowledge the offer far less thank me for it. :eek:

Might they have had other things on their minds at the time... like a sick relative?

jackomdj

We have lots of friends come to stay and we go and stay with people. A couple of years ago we organised our annual Christmas meal with people coming back to ours after. Some friends live a few hours away so they stayed at ours and another chap who I didn't know (the meal is a group of OH's biking friends and all their wives, girlfriends, children) came with them. Our friends were staying in the spare room, their son in the study and the other chap was going to go into one daughters room and she was going to share with her sister. I spent a couple of hours tidying dd's bedroom, changing her bedding etc making it very tidy (tidier than if it had been people I know) only to be told when they arrived that he had booked into the pub we were having dinner at.

However it meant he drove from the pub to ours for drinks before hand, we all then walked to the pub, walked home at midnight, he walked back at 3 or 4 o'clock, then he walked back to ours for breakfast the next day!

Sezzagirl

Reading through this has been really interesting

I always thought I was a bit odd as I don't feel comfortable staying in someone else's house but now I know I'm not alone!!