Staying in a hotel when visiting friends

liney

Single man? 8 hours on a sofa? I think i'd be perplexed, but not put out. A woman, or a couple I could understand wanting more privacy I suppose.

I personally don't relish staying at other people's houses too often. Mainly because I never sleep well, so wake up at 6am or earlier. I then have to lie still for hours for fear of waking people, or mooch around for coffee feeling like a burglar.

Before now, I have stayed at a friend's house about 15 miles away. Woke in the morning, drove home, had a bath, went to the shop and drove back before they got up!

BugglyB

balletshoes wrote: »

Even if the only place you could offer your friend to sleep was in bed with you?

I wouldnt have anyone in my bed apart from my husband or maybe my sister...

balletshoes

liney wrote: »

Single man? 8 hours on a sofa? I think i'd be perplexed, but not put out. A woman, or a couple I could understand wanting more privacy I suppose.

I personally don't relish staying at other people's houses too often. Mainly because I never sleep well, so wake up at 6am or earlier. I then have to lie still for hours for fear of waking people, or mooch around for coffee feeling like a burglar.

Before now, I have stayed at a friend's house about 15 miles away. Woke in the morning, drove home, had a bath, went to the shop and drove back before they got up!

I thought the OP said his friend lives in a house share with quite a few others, and the only place he can sleep if he stays there is in bed with his friend?

isitenough

Surely it's a personal choice and yes an invite to stay is nice but why do people get offended if someone says no? It's their choice. Staying is not compulsory surely?! Weird world we live in.

heartbreak_star

I'm an utter cheapskate and would never book a hotel if a free alternative was offered (would buy wine or chocs to say thanks though).

Even when I go away I prefer to be in a backpackers hostel!

HBS x

liney

balletshoes wrote: »

I thought the OP said his friend lives in a house share with quite a few others, and the only place he can sleep if he stays there is in bed with his friend?

OP says floor or sofa bed...

Your friend is put out that you won't share his/her bed? Are you sure there is not an ulterior motive? *wink, wink, nudge, nudge*

hgotsparkle

I would choose a hotel too, though I don't tend to stay when I go to London to see friends now. I get what you mean by you don't want to rely on someone else to go to bed before you can, and I feel like I can relax more in a hotel room and can be a bit messy if I want to be.

bitemebankers

Torry_Quine wrote: »

They didn't even give me the courtesy of telling me after I offered the room. Surely not having to get up for a set time for breakfast and having a room where they could be totally relaxed with their own key.

To be frank, you can be pretty judgemental about other people's lifestyles on here....if you're like that IRL, that might have something to do with it.

Torry_Quine

bitemebankers wrote: »

To be frank, you can be pretty judgemental about other people's lifestyles on here....if you're like that IRL, that might have something to do with it.

So it's judgemental to expect common courtesy from other people! :eek: All I needed was to be informed that they wouldn't be taking up my offer.

Prothet_of_Doom

Mojisola wrote: »

Unless you have a hang-up yourself about cleanliness, why would you think that?

There could be many reasons why someone would prefer to stay in a hotel - it could just be a case of liking their own space or it could be something very personal that they wouldn't want to disclose.

If you're good enough friends with someone that you'd invite them to stay at your house, why not just respect their choice if they prefer a hotel?

I have a realtive who lives around the corner, and won't use my toilet because ..... Well who knows why?