Staying in a hotel when visiting friends

itsanne

I must be very peculiar. I'm perfectly happy to stay with friends or family and for them to stay with us. We've had daughter bring so many friends to stay at once that we've made up beds by putting sofa cushions inside duvet covers. Nobody has actually slept straightforwardly on the floor, there are always ways round it. Having grown up kids bring their friends to stay is usually refreshing.

Bogof_Babe

It probably is something you get more relaxed about when you've brought up children and teenagers, with their easy-come easy-go lifestyle of dossing at their mates' houses, often without even asking their parents first. I know my sister sometimes never knew who she was going to step over in the morning!

Depends how used to having your own privacy you are I suppose. Family life probably knocks any relic of that out of you :rotfl:.

maman

Torry_Quine wrote: »

So it's judgemental to expect common courtesy from other people! :eek: All I needed was to be informed that they wouldn't be taking up my offer.

Are you saying they didn't thank you for the offer or that you thought they were coming and they didn't turn up?

In the OP's case I would just explain as politely as possible that he likes his own space and leave it at that. I know he's young but the idea of sharing a room and a bed with others fills me with horror.

Mojisola

itsanne wrote: »

I must be very peculiar. I'm perfectly happy to stay with friends or family and for them to stay with us. We've had daughter bring so many friends to stay at once that we've made up beds by putting sofa cushions inside duvet covers. Nobody has actually slept straightforwardly on the floor, there are always ways round it. Having grown up kids bring their friends to stay is usually refreshing.

I don't think you're peculiar - I think this is the more usual situation which is why someone who doesn't want to do this apparently risks upsetting their would-be hosts.

If someone likes to muck in and sleep over, that's alright, but if they don't want to and would rather stay in a hotel, that's alright too.

Torry_Quine

maman wrote: »

Are you saying they didn't thank you for the offer or that you thought they were coming and they didn't turn up?

In the OP's case I would just explain as politely as possible that he likes his own space and leave it at that. I know he's young but the idea of sharing a room and a bed with others fills me with horror.

They didn't even acknowledge the offer far less thank me for it. :eek:

Bangton

Totally with the OP. I'd prefer a hotel over staying with friends any day of the week!

Mojisola

Torry_Quine wrote: »

They didn't even acknowledge the offer far less thank me for it. :eek:

They did have a parent in hospital. I would have thought that was where their priorities lay.

paulineb_2

Each to their own, either wouldnt bother me. Id be quite happy sharing with mates, equally as happy being in a B and B or a hotel.

Torry_Quine

Mojisola wrote: »

They did have a parent in hospital. I would have thought that was where their priorities lay.

Considering every time I went in to visit I phoned them it would have been courtesy to let me know. They were able to phone a hotel and make arrangements.

lostinrates

Torry_Quine wrote: »

They didn't even acknowledge the offer far less thank me for it. :eek:

Sounds like stressed people in a miscommunication to me.

I wouldn't give it a second thought nor hold it against them at all nor, in this circumstances consider it a grievous lack of manners, just a stressed oversight. Most people manage more offensive in their lives.